In this deeply personal episode, I reflect on the emotional weight of losing not just my wife, Lani, but the future we were building together.
I talk through what it looked like to start over and begin consciously designing a new life. I share the tools, mindsets, and inspirations that have helped me begin navigating this journey, with the hope it gives you something you can use in your own season of change.
What You'll Hear in This Episode:
Losing a Future, Not Just a Person: How grief impacts the vision of your life, not just your present.
The Power of Conscious Choice: Choosing to create a future with intent, even amidst grief.
Using ChatGPT to Map Out Options: From visas to climate, and identifying new cities to live.
Dr. Joe Dispenza's Teachings: The science behind meditation, visualisation, and the quantum model of change.
Our 5-Day Retreat in Orlando: First-hand experience of Dr Joe's retreat and how it helped shift my thinking.
Daily Practices That Are Helping:
Meditation and emotional embodiment
Visualising and feeling a future reality
Journaling in the present tense
Reframing this moment as an opportunity to focus on me
Tools & Resources Mentioned:
Book: Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza
→ Highly recommended as an audiobook on Audible
Practice: Dr Joe’s guided meditation (included at the end of the audiobook)
Prompt-Based Planning: Using ChatGPT to help map out potential cities and life options
Journaling Tools: Inspired by Think and Grow Rich and advice from Jay Samit
Quote from the Episode:"While I would give anything to have Lani back in my life and to be planning that future with her, the reality is that I now have an opportunity to build something new. Something strong. And something she would be proud of."
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