This week I’m chatting to Professor Paul Eastwick, one of the world's top thinkers on love, attraction, and relationships, and the author of “Bonded by Evolution: What We’ve Got Wrong About Love and Connection.”

We get into loads of stuff: why your “type” probably isn’t real, how dating apps can fry your brain, why chemistry matters more than tick-box lists, and how the whole Tate-adjacent manosphere view of women and relationships is nonsense once you look at the actual science.

We also talk about vulnerability, anxiety, being liked, and how relationship chaos bangs up against our mental health – whether you’re single, married, divorced or just confused.

If you enjoy this, there’s an archive of over 140 other interviews, plus hundreds of my essays and articles, at samdelaney.substack.com. Go and have a look.

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Josh Connolly had a chaotic childhood. By the time he hit his twenties, he was contemplating suicide. Now, he is one of the country’s most influential voices on mental health, using his own experiences to help others. I chatted with him about why men struggle to share emotions, growing up around alcohol and how he wants to de-stigmatise conversations about suicide.

For more on Josh’s work, click here

Donate to CALM's Stay Tuned fundraiser here

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Elliot Sweeney has been a psychiatric nurse for over two decades. Now he has written a book about his experiences: ‘We Don't Use Words Like Crazy - A Life On The Frontline Of Mental Health.’ His moving, and often funny, memoir pulls back the curtain on what the job’s really like, showing why we need more compassion for people who are struggling and the professionals who try to help them every day.

To donate to my fundraiser for CALM’s Stay Tuned Campaign, please click this link.

Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK. Sparing a few quid for CALM helps them fund their essential service to help bring that rate down.

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Ziyad Marar draws on psychology, philosophy, literature and even the films of Quentin Tarantino to demonstrate the strange business of noticing things. His new book (Noticing - How We Attend To the World And Each Other) contends that our enjoyment of life is shaped by what we choose to notice in the world around us.

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Please donate here to my fundraiser for CALM. CALM is an outspoken, innovative suicide prevention charity offering life-saving services and smashing the stigma around mental health. With STAY Tuned 2025, I’m using my podcasts to raise money for CALM. Together we can help people end their misery, not their lives. If you can, sling a few quid their way. Cheers.

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The Reset is back after a hiatus! Thank you for your patience; it’s been a busy year.

Throughout September, I will be backing the Stay Tuned 2025 campaign by the brilliant mental health charity, CALM.

Stay Tuned is all about raising awareness about mental health and raising money to pay for CALM’s life-saving support services.

You can donate to my fundraiser page here. Every penny counts (but for anyone who can spare a larger amount, there are some special incentives and rewards on offer).

To help me kick off the campaign,

I am joined on this week’s pod by Callum Goodall from CALM. He told me more about the amazing work they are doing to save lives - and shared his own moving experience of coping with a suicide attempt in his family.

There will be more episodes coming throughout the month, so stay in touch.

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Sean McNicholas overcame a traumatic childhood to become a successful club entrepreneur. But the high life burnt him out and, eventually, he decided to get sober and help other men with similar problems. Now he is a qualified therapist and ADHD expert who joined me to discuss his extraordinary story - and his mission to help men turn their lives around.

Find out more about Sean’s work here

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