You cannot shield yourself from struggle. It's what helps shape your trading rules and over time turns them into a complete system.

No psychologist, coach, or mentor can do it for you. You have to want to take a punch and learn to feel what it feels like to lose money and then use those emotions to affect your behavior accordingly.

Very little of it is intellectual or logical. If you need things to "make sense" I think you're in for quite an education if you're open to it 

There are no external solutions to your internal issues. That should save you a ton of money in that you don't need a high clock speed computers, multiple monitors, nor televisions in each room.

One way to generate peace in your daily activity is to start using stop orders to enter and exit trades. 

Professional traders use stops, not market orders. 

Buy stops are placed above the market and are used to enter trades long or to cover short sales and minimize risk.

Sell stops are placed below the market and are used to enter trades short or to sell long positions and minimize risk.

Stop orders show your conviction in your process. If you're trying to read charts or you've been sold on something amateurs refer to as "set-ups," you can absolve yourself from that lifestyle choice and at least act like a professional on your way to becoming one.

Trading with a system will capture anything that is bullish or bearish and remove the need for your having to interpret charts. Plus, it's a lot less work as well so you save yourself a great deal of time. A third benefit is that you can eliminate having to trade frequently - something I believe is not necessary to becoming a professional trading. 

I think trying to read charts every day is exhausting. Moreover, if you are glued to your monitor, you might be giving yourself a false sense of security that you can avoid "the big loss" by doing so. 

You can't stop market volatility because you are sitting there hyper-vigilantly. What you can do is enter your stops are predetermined levels and let the market come to you. One benefit is that you won't find yourself chasing trades. Another is that if something unexpected does occur, your order will already be there to protect your capital. As a trader or speculator, job #1 is playing superior defense. 

By entering your stop orders ahead of time when things are calm, you also have the added benefit of avoiding the errors that can occur when you have to act under the gun and you're not used to doing so. Errors cost money and you can assume that if you make an error, it won't add to your P&L, but hurt you.