The Revelation Project

"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that is not you so that you can discover, reveal, and embrace the truth of who you are."

"It's "unbecoming" for a lady to sit like that, Monica."

"Stop making faces like that! It's unbecoming for a little lady, and besides, your face might freeze!"

Unbecoming is a term that has been used to manipulate and condition girls and women for generations. It's part of the grooming process into the patriarchal trance of unworthiness that keeps us from revealing our true thoughts, feelings, and self-expression.

Like an IV drip inserted at birth, micro-dosing cultural messages such as these have kept us in the 4 P's: performing, pretty, pleasing, and polite.

The 4 P's condition us to abandon the truth within ourselves in exchange for love and belonging. As a result, many of us lose touch with who we truly are underneath all of the layers of the false self.

As many of you know, this is my passion! Helping women reveal, heal and embrace their whole magnificent selves. Helping women break free from the trance is the most rewarding work I can do in the world and my goal in life is to awaken as many unbecoming women as possible.

In this episode, join me as I dish with one of my favorite leading ladies, Libby Bunten. In this episode, we dive more deeply into the process of unbecoming and the revelations that come when we begin to unravel what we have been taught to believe vs. what is true. We also talk about our personal journies and how our awakening has impacted our outlook, vitality, creativity, relationships, and basically our whole existence.

We also introduce the exciting news of our upcoming journey, which will be available for 20 women this October and which you may have guessed is called:

UNBECOMING : A 6-month detox from trance to transformation to remember, reclaim, and integrate the TRUE YOU. https://signup.jointherevelation.com/unbecoming

(If you are interested, we would love to welcome you to journey with us! Click the link to be added to the waiting list, and we will update you the moment we open registration this coming September).

In this episode, Libby and I also address the sisterhood wound and why it's part of the patriarchal trance.

Libby Bunten is an embodiment coach and Social Marketing professional whose passion is strengthening women's lives in her local community and beyond. Raised in a quintessential Maine coastal town, Libby always did "whatever it took" to make a living and get the job done. Before a career in social marketing, she did everything from manual labor to freelance writing. A brief stint in a toxic, patriarchal, corporate work environment propelled Libby to pursue an MS in Clinical Psychology which ultimately led to her work in feminist leadership development with like-minded, independent, and irreverent women.

She recently founded and launched her newest group coaching program, Self-Approval School, where women come together in Sisterhood in new ways to remember who they are, break the bullshit rules, and learn to give themselves the stamp of Self-Approval. When she isn't cheering women on, you can find her traveling with her bagel-slinging hunk, Paul, singing karaoke, or in deep surrender to the abyss that is the journey of healing.

Special Guest: Libby Bunten.

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• Book: Alvin Toffler Future Shock

In today's episode, Helen MacMillan shares her personal story and celebrates the birth of her new book, "The Gift of Pain."

The first time someone suggested that pain could be a gift, I resisted with every fiber of my being, and yet, it took some time for me to recognize the deep wisdom it continues to teach us when we are willing to listen.

And once we allow pain to come and sit at the table with us, and we listen and respond, the pain will usually leave us.

In all cases, pain is a messenger, a prophet, and a gift, AND we must not learn to live with it.

Listen in as Helen and I dive deep below the surface to interpret the wisdom of our pain:

Helen MacMillan is an author, life coach, healer, and wise woman who facilitates the personal growth integral to achieving your greatest potential and living your most joyful and fulfilling life.

Through her 1:1 and group coaching programs, workshops and retreats, Helen equips her clients with healing that allows them to powerfully and authentically create success from the inside out, using their wisdom as their guide. Helen combines her strong intuitive gifts with the practical expertise and wisdom gained from building three successful businesses, being married (twice), and raising three boys (while maintaining her sanity) to help her clients create a life they LOVE with ease and grace.

Originally from Jamaica, Helen resides in the USA with her husband Gary and their dog Sadie.

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• SovereignMinds | Changing the World. One Mind and One Heart at a time.

"As the old ways of ruling and operating crumble and we consciously co-create from our hearts and souls the new world we truly want to inhabit, we are called to also learn new ways of being, new habits that can hold and nurture this growth. As more of Who We Truly Are is called on line, we are served best when we learn how to work with our energy and consciousness, for this is where we will be creating from as we go forward. This is Energy Mastery - a concept and phrase that was given to me by my guides last year to encompass the new skills we must learn if we are to become the galactic citizens of light we came here to embody!"

I love Veronica Worth - she's a joy to talk to and so grounding and inspiring!

In this episode, we talk about this incredible time in our collective evolution and why Veronica sees it as the dissolution of the toxic matrix of patriarchy and the new emergence of a positive network formed by the feminine.

Hear us talk about:

Veronica is a shamanic practitioner, business visionary, and intuitive. She is also a Certified Sourced™ Leader, best-selling author, and founder of Evolvative™ and the Athena Matrix™.

On a spiritual journey since her youth, she experienced powerful awakenings through her 20s and 30s. In January of 2000, she began receiving channeled guidance from her wise circle of guides and teachers. Kept private until a few years ago, Veronica now actively brings her mystical gifts forward to guide her work.

Veronica brings insight into the future landscape of what a business and a brand can be at their highest level and what others can do to show up as soul-led leaders and innovators in this new territory. Drawing on her varied experience from both the business and mystical worlds, Veronica blends spiritual soul work, energy healing, and channeling, with her revolutionary approach to creating and expressing fully aligned brands and businesses.

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• Website - Evolvative

This past year I completed my 8-month rites of passage teacher training with Sarah Durham Wilson. It’s by far one of the most provocative and potent trainings I’ve ever done. It helped me truly understand the core wounds of women conditioned by patriarchy and how to assist women in healing those wounds.

In this episode, I have the honor of introducing you to my teacher and her work and celebrating with her the publication of her first book with Sounds True: Maiden To Mother, Unlocking our Archetypical Journey into The Mature Feminine.

When the goddess culture was stolen and buried, so were women’s rites of passage into our wild, intuitive femininity and maturity.

With Maiden to Mother, Sarah Durham Wilson excavates these ancient rites, guiding us through a sacred and crucial initiation from the immature Maiden into the archetypal Mother. This powerful, safe, compassionate, full-bloom feminine life force exists within all of us.

Becoming the Mother is every woman’s birthright—regardless of whether or not she raises children. The Mother is who we needed as children, who we were meant to be in this life, and who the world needs us to be now.

Sarah teaches that while pre-patriarchal cultures honored women’s natural cycles, today’s society infantilizes women, idolizing youthful traits such as “pretty, pleasing, and polite” to keep us distracted and dependent. While a healthy version of the Maiden will always remain part of us, there comes a time when we must no longer let her wounds and immaturity guide our lives. We must step into our mature, feminine fullness.

Through personal stories, rituals, teachings, and practices, Sarah helps women heal the Mother Wound and dismantle our internalized patriarchy with its false, constricting standards for the feminine so that we may live with authenticity and feast on the richness of life. “Midlife is not, as our culture proposes, where a woman’s power ends,” writes Wilson, “but where it really begins.”

In this episode, Sarah and I talk about:

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• Maiden to Mother: Unlocking Our Archetypal Journey into the Mature Feminine: Wilson, Sarah Durham: 9781683647027: AmazonSmile: Books

This episode was very emotional for me and brought up many memories of my past experience with abuse. I am deeply moved by Shannon’s work and look forward to her upcoming documentary about domestic and emotional abuse called Trapped By Faith.

Abuse in any situation is devastating, but marital abuse has its own elements of crazy-making. Combine this with confusing messages from your faith and it can be soul-crushing. Unfortunately, these messages are still commonplace, and even if your marriage is erosive and dangerous - religious dogma and church doctrine may keep you from leaving a situation that’s not healthy for you or your children.

Emotional abuse is one of the hardest things for most women to identify, especially if the abuse resembles how you were raised and you mistook it for normal or for love.

In this episode, we aim to discuss Shannon’s reason for making this film and to support other women in identifying toxic and abusive situations in their marriage and faith.

Shannon Claire helps entrepreneurial women become unforgettable so they can build a thriving business and life they love without sacrifice.

As a multi-passionate and seasoned entrepreneur of over 16 years, she is a sought-after international brand photographer, a mentor, and

Shannon is a mom to 3 teens and a toddler and is soon-to-be-married. She is a beach lover, conversation starter, and eternal optimist.

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• Instagram - Shannon Claire (@theshannonclaire)

I am thrilled to have my dear friend and colleague, Monette Chilson, back to talk about her new teaching platform WomanSpirit Reclamation and the power of circling with women to unlearn what we’ve been taught about the feminine.

An excavator of sacred feminine lineage, Monette Chilson founded WomanSpirit Reclamation to support women in navigating their awakening from patriarchal indoctrination through online courses and community.

She has written and spoken about the divine feminine for the past decade, authoring Sophia Rising: Awakening Your Sacred Wisdom Through Yoga and My Name is Lilith, in addition to editing Original Resistance: Reclaiming Lilith, Reclaiming Ourselves and developing its companion curriculum. Monette’s work has been featured in national magazines including Yoga Journal and Integral Yoga Magazine and the anthologies Yoga Wisdom and Whatever Works: Feminists of Faith Speak.

Monette and I speak about why our inner wisdom—personified by Sophia—is essential for maintaining our centeredness when the world around us has gone mad—AND becoming conscious about our spiritual evolution without judging or shaming.

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• Sophia Class Beginning July 12

In this episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming back Dr. Terrlyn Curry Avery to talk about anti-racism.

In our first discussion, we explored her work in helping heal religious trauma, which is also intersectional to racism and a by-product of patriarchy.

Today we dove into her book Dismantling Racism from the Inside Out, and how these times invite us to reckon with our internal bias and require us to untangle the lies of us and them, black or white, and other corrupt programs of patriarchy.

Some of the topics we discussed included:

Rev. Dr. (TLC) is the creator of Pastology, the cutting-edge field that focuses on the synergy between pastoring and psychology. She holds a Ph.D. from Hofstra University and a Masters of Divinity from Yale University. She calls herself a pastologist (licensed psychologist and ordained minister) and is a transformational leader, coach, speaker, author and retreat leader. Rev. Dr. TLC has a unique approach to healing, transformation, and manifestation. She places emphasis on the journey toward sacred intelligence: the ability to tap into one’s internal source in order to move toward intelligent choices. Those choices are intended to honor the Sacred and help the individual manifest their greatness, while simultaneously embracing the humanity of those around them.

Rev. Dr. TLC works with highly influential and committed leaders who need spiritual, life, or career coaching as they transform the world by creating a legacy of service, prosperity, and greatness. She also provides coaching support for leaders to help them understand how their sphere of influence can help to change the status quo and to dismantle structures that have intentionally and unintentionally created racial disparities. Her coaching provides an opportunity for leaders to: create the right context for conversations on race and leadership development with their employees; discover how racism and unconscious bias influence their hiring practices, affect their clients and have a direct impact on the company’s financial goals; and understand how racism impacts employees, their work performance, and their feelings of safety in the work environment. Rev. Dr. TLC has a long history of working with institutions, organizations, and communities to bridge the racial divide and to promote racial equity.

Rev. Dr. TLC is the host of Dismantle Racism with the Rev. Dr. TLC which airs on talkradio.nyc.

She is the author of Dismantling Racism: Healing Separation From the Inside Out and Sacred Intelligence: The Essence of Sacred, Selfish & Shared Relationships. Rev. Dr. TLC is the pastor of Martin Luther King, Jr. Community Presbyterian Church in Springfield, MA.

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• The Revelation Project Episode 27: Dr. Terrlyn Curry Avery - Revealing and Healing Religious Wounds

I’m thrilled to introduce you to Dr. Dorothy A. Martin- Neville, Ph.D., a powerful visionary, who is also a pioneer, mover, and risk-taker who is faith and humor-driven as well as committed to transformation and growth.

Dr. Dorothy’s story is incredibly inspirational and you’ll connect immediately to the warmth and humor she exudes as she tells her story of resilience after growing up in an orphanage from birth till age 3 as an illegitimate daughter of an unwed mother in South Boston. Once she was adopted, she lived in a playpen on the outside porch until she was 6 years old so that her grandmother didn’t have to acknowledge her existence inside the house.

Fast forward and Dr. Dorothy is the author of several books such as Real Women Change The World: Letting the Good Girl Die so the Real Women Can Live, where she shares the importance of emotional intelligence, mindset, mindfulness, and communication as imperative tools for women in leadership.

She is also an international speaker, author, consultant/master coach, and frequent radio, podcast, and television guest is also Past-President of the National Speakers Association – CT and the founder of 4 companies.

A psychotherapist, Dr. Dorothy was in practice for 25+ years. As a motivational speaker, Dr. Dorothy brought a history of living in an orphanage, being adopted and raised in the housing projects of South Boston in a violent alcoholic home. She later became a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, and so much more, showing that faith, humor, and passion make anything possible.

Today, whether supporting individual clients in recognizing and living their Purpose or supporting CEOs in creating a culture of Purpose within their organization, Dr. Dorothy brings first-hand knowledge of the challenges facing those who want to live and work in a culture that feeds rather than drains them.

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• Website - Ask Dorothy

Meet Gina Clover.

I adore her for sharing her mind and heart through her substack writing by challenging the dominant narrative in our culture around money, capitalism, and business as usual.

Gina is an animist witch and rites of passage guide who centers her work around anticapitalism and ecological re-enchantment. She offers radical presence and compassion to those who want to move into the seasonal reality of their lives in full awareness that the world as we’ve known it is disintegrating, bringing a collapse-aware approach to moving into maturity and relational leadership. She believes we break the spell of modernity by doing this work together. Gina is also a plant medicine integration guide who loves to help people bring animist enchantment into their lives. In the secular world, Gina holds an undergraduate degree in Critical Theory from NYU, as well as an MFA from USC’s School of Cinematic Arts in Writing for Film and Television, and is a professional writer.

She currently lives in a 150-year-old Victorian Church in New York’s Hudson Valley, where she and her partner are creating a sanctuary called “Our Lady of the Apocalypse”, creating a community space for grief, skill-sharing, ritual, beauty, and unlearning, finding our way through the darkness together, awake in the burning forest of the world.

The ways in which the intertwining of capitalism and spirituality is actually at the very heart of the climate crisis and ecocide – the ecological crisis is a deeply “spiritual” crisis arising from the intentional erasure and destruction of ancestral traditions and animist relationships to land and earth– erasure and destruction that was very explicitly in the service of colonial capitalism. So what is needed in the face of these crises is a spiritual response/atonement/reconciliation, but perversely, almost all of what passes for spirituality right now occurs in a deeply capitalist, neoliberal framework that neuters and sublimates all spiritual impulse back into the patterns of hyperindividualism, commodification, consumption, and the society of the spectacle, perpetuating the root causes of the crisis instead of offering a potentially vital response to it.

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• Website: enchantment.church

I’m back with another dose of the enchanting Sophie Strand. Listen in as we dance in the magic of storytelling, ecology, revelation, and contemplation.

Sophie is someone who understands the power of myth-making and storytelling. She honed her abilities when she learned she had a life-threatening disease and began to write as if her life depended on it. What she came to realize is that all of our lives depend on it. Unless we generate new myths to live into, we will surely stay fast asleep in the culture of make-believe, where we consume everything without implication or consequence.

In this episode, Sophie and I continue where we left off. We meander into the wilderness where we make new connections, access revelations, and enchantment abounds- Join us! You won’t be bored!

Sophie Strand is a writer based in the Hudson Valley who focuses on the intersection of spirituality, storytelling, and ecology. Her first book of essays, The Flowering Wand: Rewilding the Sacred Masculine, will be published by Inner Traditions in Fall 2022 and is available for pre-order. Her eco-feminist historical fiction reimagining of the gospels The Madonna Secret will also be published by Inner Traditions in Spring 2023. Subscribe to her newsletter at sophiestrand.substack.com. And follow her work on Instagram: @cosmogyny and at www.sophiestrand.com.

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• Website - Sophie Strand