I want to talk about why highly intelligent women stay stuck in ‘figuring it out.’

Let me tell you a story.

There was a time in my life when I was so “smart,” I out-thought every decision I ever wanted to make. I was sitting in meetings, closing deals, supporting others through their breakthroughs… but I was fragmented. Inside, I was still waiting for some big cosmic sign to tell me it was safe to leap into my own next level.

You know what I did instead? I made spreadsheets. I bought more courses. I journaled “on it.” I even made a pros-and-cons list that I never looked at again.

Because deep down, I wasn’t looking for clarity. I was looking for guarantees.

But that’s not how power works. Clarity is not a finish line you cross when everything feels safe and predictable. Clarity is a frequency you decide to embody.

Highly intelligent women get caught in a specific flavor of sabotage: strategic overthinking.

And the world applauds it. They say:

No, you’re being stuck. You’re being scared. You’re negotiating with your old self for permission to become your future self.

Let me be blunt: if you’re still “figuring it out,” you’re still trying to protect the identity you know is about to die. And that version of you? She’s clinging to control, not clarity.

Clarity is often a code word for “I don’t feel safe to move.”

There’s a moment every powerful woman hits - when the vision she holds in her soul starts to outrun the safety systems of her nervous system.

I hit that moment when I left a very long narcissistic relationship. I was done with surviving. I had built something out of nothing, scraped myself together from trauma and chaos, and yet…I was still addicted to knowing everything before I moved.

I’d ask for signs from the Universe, but reject them if they didn’t look like the plan I already had. I’d meditate, pull cards, light candles, but secretly hope the message was “stay where it’s safe.”

But truth? Truth doesn’t always feel safe. Truth feels like fire. It feels like the death of who you’ve been. It feels like walking into the unknown without your armor and still choosing to lead.

When you say you need more clarity, what you often mean is: “I don’t feel safe enough to trust what I already know.”

And that’s valid. But it’s not power.

Spiritual growth isn’t about feeling good all the time. It’s about feeling everything and still choosing to walk forward.

You came here to lead from your soul. And your soul doesn’t run on logic, it runs on truth. Not the truth that makes sense. The truth that pulls you.

So stop asking your fear if it’s okay to move. Your fear was never meant to hold the compass.

So, how do we make clean decisions without waiting for permission or proof?

Let me take you back to the moment everything changed for me.

I was standing in my tiny condo, staring at my vision board like it was a portal. I had already outgrown the woman who built that life. But I was still performing her.

Still doing things that used to work. Still leading like I had something to prove. Still waiting for someone - anyone - to validate the next step I already knew was mine.

And I heard a whisper in my spirit that dropped me to my knees. It said:

“The proof you’re waiting for is in who you become after the leap, not before.”

I had been asking the Universe for a map. And what I got was a mirror.

The truth is, every decision you’re avoiding right now is tied to a self-image you haven’t updated.

And until you do, you’ll keep dressing up fear as strategy. You’ll call procrastination “processing.” You’ll keep looking for a breakthrough that can only come from burning the version of you who’s addicted to certainty.

So here’s the reframe: you don’t need to figure it out. You need to become the woman who can hold what you already know is meant for you.

This is identity work. Not analytics. Not “alignment in theory.” Not logic (and by the way, I don’t know anyone in the recorded history of humanity who ever succeeded with anything that changed the world by using logic - let’s be honest).

It’s the frequency of “I decide, and therefore it becomes clear.” We have to believe it first, then we see it. 

 Let’s talk about the body.

Your mind can lie to you. Your conditioning can manipulate you. But your body? It always knows.

For Manifesting Generators like me - and maybe like you - your power lives in your sacral. That gut pull. That electric yes. That full-bodied no.

And most of us? We’ve been trained to silence it. To override it. To outsource our knowing to people, platforms, and productivity apps. And that’s painful because you’ll be caught up in frustration - it’s paralyzing.

But there comes a moment when you realize that your spreadsheet has never once screamed YES in your body.

Your nervous system doesn’t need another five-year plan. It needs to be spoken to in the language of sensation. The feeling of resonance. The contraction of misalignment. The full-body frequency of “This is mine. This is not.”

This is the kind of recalibration that no business coach, strategy session, or mindset hack can give you.

You have to come back to the body.

The sacral doesn’t negotiate. She doesn’t rationalize. She doesn’t pretend.

She just knows.

And when you make decisions from that place - from the part of you that isn’t trying to avoid failure or perform success - you collapse timelines.

You move from embodied clarity, not mental chaos.

So, you decide. Move. Adjust from embodiment, not anxiety.

Let me anchor this in a spiritual truth I live by: your desire is a divine instruction. Not a suggestion.

The clarity you’re waiting for is inside the decision itself.

Decide. Move. Adjust later.

You are not here to keep checking in with your fear. You are here to lead your frequency.

Leadership isn’t about being fearless. It’s about moving while your old self begs you to pause.

It’s about building a new reality while your nervous system screams for the one that’s familiar.

So here’s your new standard: you don’t pause to ask if you’re ready. You decide you’re ready, and calibrate to that version of you every damn day.

This is how timelines collapse. This is how empires rise. This is how women like you become the signal, not the seeker.

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 Let’s talk about why so many powerful women feel hollow at the top. Performance ≠ power.

Let’s rip the mask off.

High performance doesn’t mean high power. You can hit every goal. Lead the team. Close the deal. Make the money. And still… feel like you’re disappearing inside your own life.

That’s the lie of high functioning - it looks bulletproof, but it’s built on burnout. Because when the version of you the world applauds is built on performance, you never feel safe to stop performing.

But behind closed doors? She’s exhausted. Resentful. Isolated. Numb.

And here’s the real truth: you weren’t born to manage dysfunction with excellence. You were born to lead with clarity, precision, and command.

If you’ve ever wondered why the applause doesn’t feel like enough - it’s because it was never meant to fill you. You were never meant to perform for your power. You were meant to embody it.

I want to break down how early conditioning shaped your image, behavior, and capacity.

What you think is your “personality” is likely just your programming.

The overachiever? The fixer? The peacemaker who anticipates everyone else’s needs? The woman who reads every room but hasn’t read her own nervous system in years?

That’s not who you are - that’s who you became to stay safe, liked, useful, and chosen.

You were praised for being easy. Rewarded for being resilient. Loved for who you performed to be - not for who you actually were.

And so now, at the height of your success, you can feel the weight of everything you've built sitting on top of a self-image that was never real to begin with.

This is the root. This is the split. This is why you sabotage, shrink, or numb out at your next level.

You’re not broken. You’re just coded. And yes, you can recode.

Here’s an idea: results shift when self-image does.

You don’t get new results with old identity. You don’t lead a new life while wired to the same limitations.

Every result you have right now - the income, the relationships, the energy, the fulfillment - is an exact match to your current self-image.

You’ve got a cybernetic system running in your subconscious. And it’s not loyal to your goals. It’s loyal to your identity.

You say you want overflow, but if your identity is still wired for survival, you will reject the very thing you say you desire.

This is the shift: you don’t “earn” a new level of life - you become a new self who receives it.

It’s not about working harder. It’s about upgrading the image of who you believe you are.

Have you ever thought about this: your past wasn’t punishment - it was preparation to lead from consciousness.

Everything you went through -  the abuse, the gaslighting, the betrayal, the burnout - was not random. And it sure as hell wasn’t punishment.

It was the curriculum your soul chose to awaken the leadership you're here to hold.

You don’t become her - the sovereign, present, powerful woman - without first burning the version of you who played small to survive.

Every pattern you built to protect yourself is now the very thing keeping you from expansion.

But once you see your story through a soul lens - not “what happened to me,” but “what was initiated in me” - you take back your power.

This is not spiritual bypass. This is spiritual precision.

You didn’t come here to cope. You came here to recode reality through frequency and embodied power.

And it starts when you stop seeing your pain as a problem and start seeing it as the pressure that forged your leadership.

I want to walk you into the reality that unfolds when you no longer lead from pattern.

Let’s go there.

Let’s walk her in. The one that is coded to seek validation outside herself to be liked.

What happens when she no longer leads from pattern?

Let’s say she’s not available for chaos anymore - because she doesn’t need it to feel needed.

She doesn’t contort to stay palatable - because her truth is more sacred than their comfort.

She doesn’t chase clarity - she creates it with her presence, her boundaries, her energy.

She walks into rooms and becomes the calibration.

She moves from a deep-rooted knowing, not performance, not panic, not the need to prove.

She doesn’t fear expansion - she commands it.

And life meets her at that frequency. Aligned partnerships. Surgical decisions. Overflowing abundance. Not because she’s perfect. Because she’s real. Integrated. Whole. Unshakable.

That’s what happens when the woman behind the mask gets rebuilt to hold the life her soul signed up for.

The next level isn’t about doing more. It’s about finally becoming the version of you who no longer fears her own power.

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EPISODE 005: Burn the Approval Addiction Before It Burns You

Let me give it to you straight.

If you're still chasing approval, still tweaking your tone, filtering your truth, or overdelivering just to be seen as "good enough"...

You’re not leading. You’re performing. And the price is your power and all the things that needing approval will get you, like toxic relationships and attracting many of the pieces of your life that you’re trying to now hold together.

Approval isn’t innocent. It’s an addiction. And high-achieving women? We’re the most high-functioning addicts on the planet.

This episode isn’t about being liked. It’s about being free. It’s about burning the approval contract you never consciously signed, but have been upholding with your body, your business, and your boundaries.

Here we go.

Here’s the thing no one wants to admit: approval feels good. It’s a high. A hit. A fix.

That quick dopamine rush you get when someone tells you you're impressive? When they say you're so strong, so reliable, so polished?

That’s not just validation. That’s chemical. And like any drug, it builds dependence.

For most high-achieving women, it started early, you learned that praise was the fastest way to avoid pain.

So you became the overachiever. The reliable one. The girl who could handle anything.

But here’s the truth:

You’re not addicted to being admired. You’re addicted to being safe.

Because approval became your security blanket. Your evidence that you were doing enough. Being enough. Holding it together.

And when you don’t get it? You question your worth.

Let’s be clear: that’s not leadership. That’s a trauma bond with performance.

Every yes that wasn’t aligned? Every smile you forced? Every time you said “I’ve got it” when your nervous system was already screaming for rest?

That was a withdrawal from your internal bank.

And now?

This is how burnout sneaks in. Not just physical exhaustion, soul fatigue. That gnawing resentment that builds every time you abandon yourself to be acceptable.

Chronic fatigue. Brain fog. Emotional numbness. These aren't random symptoms. They're receipts.

Proof that you’ve been paying in self-abandonment to buy external approval.

And the cost? Your sovereignty.

So let’s rebuild. But this time, from truth, not tolerance.

Your new authority? You.

Not the client. Not the partner. Not the family you still feel pressure to impress.

You.

If your body says no, it’s a no. If your energy says "not this," then you don’t override it just to be seen as nice, helpful, or humble.

Approving of your own standard is the most radical act of leadership. Because when you lock into it, the noise stops. The push stops. The addiction starts to unravel.

And suddenly?

You’re no longer waiting for applause. You’re building from authority.

Not the loud, performative kind. The quiet kind. The kind that doesn’t flinch when no one claps.

Ok, so now let’s get crystal clear.

Where are you still seeking permission? Scan your life, your offers, your pricing, your social voice, your relationships.

Anywhere you’re watering yourself down is where approval is still in charge.

Now take it deeper:

What’s the praise you’re still unconsciously chasing? What identity have you wrapped around being "the strong one," "the one who never complains," "the one who always comes through"?

And here’s the hardest part: who are you still being loyal to, out of guilt, fear, or obligation?

Because sometimes the most dangerous chains are made of gold. Approval looks like loyalty. But it’s really bondage.

It’s time to cut that proverbial chord.

You don’t owe the past version of you anything, I hope you get that. You owe the woman you’re becoming everything.

This week, your practice is simple, but it will stretch you. And we love that, don't we?

One refusal per day. One place where you say no. One moment where you hold the line, even if your nervous system starts to shake.

It might be:

Whatever it is, say the thing. Without apology. Without softening. Without the need to clean it up after.

And when your body resists, because it will,  know this:

That’s not danger. That’s detox. That’s your system learning a new safety code. And every time you honor that edge, you reclaim energy that’s been bleeding into approval loops for years.

Let me remind you: you were never too much. You were just too real for a world addicted to performance.

You don’t need to be more palatable. You don’t need to be easier to digest.

You need to be free.

Free from the guilt that taught you to shrink. Free from the applause addiction that made you betray yourself. Free from the belief that power is only safe when it's quiet and agreeable.

The next level of your life and leadership will not be accessed through approval. It will be built through unapologetic self-acceptance and embodied self-leadership.

This is The Rewired to Rise™ podcast. You’re not here to be liked. You’re here to be remembered.

I’ll see you next week.

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It’s time to lead without the leash of approval.

Your truth isn’t too much. It’s the medicine the world has been waiting for.

Let’s rise together.

You Don’t Need Permission to Be Relentless, You Need Clarity

Let’s make something clear enough to slice through the noise:

High-performing women don’t need balance. We need alignment.

Balance is a cultural sedative. A softly packaged lie we were sold to keep us manageable, polite, and pleasing. Be a good leader, but not too assertive. Be ambitious, but don’t be aggressive. Succeed, but stay likable. Don’t make anyone uncomfortable with your brilliance.

Balance is just control with better branding.

It tells you to juggle it all. Work, relationships, image, health, legacy, like your nervous system is a circus act. But let’s be honest: juggling doesn’t create power.
It creates leaks.

The average high-achieving woman spends nearly 30% of her mental bandwidth daily on what researchers call “invisible labor”, the subconscious scanning for how to be perceived, approved of, or protected from judgment. That’s not balance. That’s performance conditioning.

Here’s what I know from working with elite women across industries, from boardrooms to broadcast:

The ones who burn out are the ones who keep trying to balance everything. The ones who rise, elegantly, cleanly, powerfully, are the ones who align.

Let me give you a story.

One of my private clients, she is running a very successful company. From the outside? She had it all: high-end clients, magazine features. But behind the scenes, she was unraveling.

Why?

Because she was trying to “balance” what couldn’t coexist. She was balancing her ambition with the people-pleasing persona that got her there. She was balancing her truth with the fear of being too bold, too direct, too different. She was balancing being the CEO with being the peacemaker, the fixer, the good girl.

She was exhausted, not because she wasn’t powerful, but because her power was being filtered through false responsibility.

The second we stopped aiming for balance and started rooting everything in alignment, everything changed. She fired the clients who made her shrink. She rebuilt her offers to match her actual genius. She stopped managing perception and started commanding from presence.

In 90 days, her energy tripled. In 6 months, her revenue doubled. And for the first time in a decade, she didn’t feel like she was betraying herself to succeed.

That’s the cost of balance. That’s the power of alignment.

Alignment means your ambition is clean. It means your yes is a full-body yes. It means your no is holy. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.

When you’re aligned, you don’t need to slow down. You don’t need to shrink. You just stop leaking energy to the wrong things.

Relentlessness, when backed by clarity, becomes elegance. It doesn’t burn you out. It builds you.

So stop trying to “balance” what was never meant to coexist, your old conditioning and your future self.

One has to go. And I think you already know which one it is.

Let’s get honest. Are you running toward something? Or trying to outrun what you don’t want to feel?

Because relentless without clarity becomes a mask. A high-functioning cage. You’re productive, but not powerful. You’re visible, but not embodied.

There’s a difference between clarity-driven ambition and trauma-driven performance.

One builds. The other drains.

So here’s the recalibration:
🔹 Clean intensity feels like focus, expansion, grounded speed.
🔹 Reactive exhaustion feels like pressure, proving, panic in disguise.

So let’s break that down:

CLEAN INTENSITY VS REACTIVE EXHAUSTION (The Recalibration)

So here’s the recalibration: not all drive is created equal.

You might be moving fast. You might be producing results. You might be outpacing your entire industry, but if you’re running on adrenaline, proving, panic, and shame...that’s not power. That’s survival.

Let’s break it down:

Clean Intensity
This is what it feels like when your power is clear. Rooted. Directed. Activated from the inside-out.

Clean intensity is:

Clean intensity is what happens when the woman inside matches the results outside. It’s coherent. It’s calm. It’s unshakable. You’re not performing power, you’re sitting in it.

Reactive Exhaustion Now let’s look at the trap.

Reactive exhaustion isn’t just burnout. It’s misaligned effort.

You’re grinding because you don’t trust that ease will get you results. You’re pushing because some part of you still thinks you have something to prove. You’re performing because you’re scared you’ll be abandoned if you slow down.

Reactive exhaustion feels like:

And here’s the truth that no one wants to say out loud:

If your nervous system is always dysregulated, if your energy is always tethered to “what if I fail,” if your output is driven by a fear of being exposed as not enough, that’s not ambition. That’s adaptation.

The difference between clean intensity and reactive exhaustion isn’t speed. It’s source.

One expands you. The other depletes you.

And the most dangerous part? Reactive exhaustion looks like success from the outside. You’re applauded for it. You’re rewarded for it. But inside? You’re unraveling.

So, let me ask you this:

Are you moving from vision? Or are you still being chased by a ghost?

Until you know the difference, your ambition will always cost you more than it should.

But once you calibrate to clean intensity?

You stop proving. You stop chasing. You stop burning yourself to the ground for goals that were never fully yours.

You become surgical. Elegant. Undeniable.

When you don’t know who you’re becoming, hustle becomes your identity. And that is the fastest way to sabotage what you say you want.

Clarity is what separates the woman who performs power. From the woman who commands it.

I want to talk about rewiring guilt from intensity. Guilt is not the signal that you're doing too much. It’s the residue of old programming trying to protect your smallness.

It whispers: “...don’t go too far. Don’t shine too bright. Don’t make them uncomfortable.”

But let’s be honest, you didn’t come here to be palatable. You came here to be undeniable.

So if guilt is rising, let that be your cue: you’re touching the edge of your expansion. Don’t step back. Command forward.

Replace guilt with command. Replace apology with precision. Replace compliance with clarity.

Let’s get into some micro moves of a relentless woman. 

You don’t need more to-do lists. You need one aligned decision, made from your internal authority, every single day.

That’s it.

Not a sprint. Not a performance.
Not another strategy download. Just one clean move from power.

And when done consistently? It becomes a compound effect so potent, it burns through the timeline you thought you needed.

Success isn’t built in massive moments. It’s built in micro-moves from a woman who knows who the hell she is.

Here’s what I want you to remember:

You don’t need to soften to be safe. You don’t need to shrink to be loved. You don’t need to wait for permission to take up space.

You were built for command, not compliance. And when you trade confusion for clarity,  Relentlessness becomes your art form.

So go be relentless. But let it be clean. Let it be soul-led. Let it be yours.

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She’s polished. She’s sharp. She knows how to win.

She can read a room in three seconds flat, make herself palatable to any audience, and deliver results under pressure like it’s a reflex.

She’s impressive. She’s respected. Hell - she might even be envied.

But here’s the part no one sees: she was built in response to danger, not desire.

That version of you? The one who can do it all, lead the meeting, close the deal, manage the chaos, and still smile at the end of the day?

She was forged in the fire of fear - not in the frequency of freedom.

And now she’s the very thing keeping you stuck.

This is the episode where we dismantle the performance mask - not with fluff. Not with vague affirmations. But with surgical precision.

Because if you want to rise into real power, the mask has to come off.

Let’s begin.

So let’s name it. I always find it easier to dismantle the negative nonsense in our minds if we name it.

The performance mask doesn’t always look like pretending. It often looks like excellence.

But none of it is rooted in truth. It’s survival coded as success.

“Holding it all together” is just internal collapse with good PR. You look unshakable - while quietly negotiating your own exhaustion.

And the wild thing is: you’re not lying. You really are that capable. But it’s not your capability that’s killing you. It’s the belief that you can never not perform.

The mask didn’t appear overnight.  It was assembled - piece by piece - through shame, rejection, abandonment, and expectation.

You got the message early. Maybe no one said it out loud - but it was loud nonetheless.

Your sensitivity? Too much. Your ambition? Intimidating. Your truth? Inconvenient. Your voice? Only welcome when it matched what they wanted to hear.

So you made a decision - one your nervous system remembers like scripture:

“I will become what they can handle. I will survive this, even if I have to abandon who I really am to do it.”

And so began the construction of a version of you designed to win approval without making waves.

You became palatable - always saying the right thing, never showing too much, learning to self-edit in real time. You became predictable - someone they could count on, lean on, offload onto - because being reliable made you safe. You became powerful - but not threatening - strong enough to lead, but soft enough not to intimidate. Controlled. Capable. Contained.

It wasn’t about success. It was about survival through acceptance.

But here’s what no one told you: the self you built to be loved will eventually become the cage that keeps you from being fully seen.

Because the moment you outgrow the version of you built for others…you either burn the mask, or you burn out wearing it.

And if you're here - listening to this - you already know which choice it's time to make.

You crafted her with precision:

Because if you were undeniable, no one could abandon you again. And here’s the thing: that mask? She worked. She got you here. She helped you survive rooms that were never built for your truth.

But you’re not surviving anymore. You’re building. Leading. Scaling. And the mask? She’s outlived her usefulness.

You can’t embody leadership while hiding in a persona. You can perform authority. You can simulate confidence. You can project control.

But embodiment? Embodiment requires exposure. It requires you to actually be the thing - without the protection.

Because the truth is: power isn’t performative. It’s internal.

And if you’re still filtering your expression…if you’re still editing your truth to make it more digestible…if you're curating your tone, your words, your energy - so no one gets uncomfortable, offended, or “concerned”...you’re not leading. You’re shape-shifting. And shape-shifting is spiritual suffocation in slow motion.

It looks like leadership. It sounds like command. But it feels like fragmentation.

Because every time you choose performance over presence…every time you adjust your truth to protect someone else's perception…you reinforce a subconscious lie that’s been running your life since girlhood:

“Who I am, as I am, is not safe.”
“My full expression will cost me.”
“It’s better to be accepted than to be true.”

That’s not leadership. That’s emotional exile.

And here’s the catch: you can build a business, a brand, even a public persona on that mask - but it won’t feel like yours.  It will feel heavy. Hollow. Misaligned. Because the moment you have to perform to maintain power…you’ve already lost it.

Real leadership doesn’t live in perfection. It lives in permission - the internal permission to be fully seen, fully felt, and fully expressed.

Not to please. Not to provoke. But to be - uncurated, unapologetic, and unshakable.

The longer you delay that kind of embodiment, the longer you postpone the leadership you were born to wield.

And nothing burns out a woman faster than having to shrink in order to lead.

So how do we start dismantling the mask? We don’t rip it off. We honor her first.

Here’s your ritual:

Step 1: Name her. Who is the version of you that wears the mask? What’s her role? Her tone? Her posture? What does she fear?

Step 2: Describe her. Give her a voice. Write her story. Get to know her fully. You created her for a reason - and she’s earned your respect.

Step 3: Thank her. She protected you. She helped you navigate trauma. She bought you time and space to evolve. She deserves closure - not condemnation.

Step 4: Release her. Close your eyes and speak - unedited, unfiltered - as your true self for two full minutes. Say the thing you’ve never allowed yourself to say out loud. Let it land. Let it shake. Let it breathe.

Do this daily. No script. No performance. Just voice to power - until it becomes your new baseline.

This isn’t cute. It’s sacred. This is how identity recalibration begins.

Now, I want you to put this into practice.

Choose one place this week to show up raw and real. Not reckless. Not messy for the sake of drama. But real.

Maybe it’s a team call. Maybe it’s your social feed. Maybe it’s that email you keep editing to sound more “professional.”

This time - show up as you. Not the curated version. Not the one trying to maintain the image.

Say the thing. Show the edge. Breathe before you respond. Take up space without explaining.

And then? Watch what amplifies - and what falls away.

Because the things you lose when you drop the mask? You were never meant to carry them anyway.

You don’t need to get louder. You don’t need to perform bolder. You don’t need to earn your way into the next level You just need to show up as the woman underneath the mask.

She already knows how to lead. She just needs your permission to stop hiding.

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Step inside. Drop the mask. Let’s build your next level from truth.

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This isn’t a podcast that tells you to “hustle harder.” This is where the woman behind the mask takes the mic. Where survival ends, and command begins. You didn’t find this by accident. You’ve built the life they said would make you happy…now you’re ready to burn the version of you that built it.

Welcome to The Rewired to Rise podcast - I’m Tanya Marie Dubé, and this is where high-performing women come to remember who the hell they are.

I’m a performance strategist, power recalibrator, and subconscious reprogrammer for women who are done playing roles they’ve outgrown.

But let me tell you what that really means.

I was raised in eight foster homes, 7 of them before I was 2 years old.
I Lived on and off the streets from 12 to 18. I have slept in church bathrooms, hidden in closets, under stairs, in unlocked cars, under my friends’ beds so their parents wouldn’t catch me, on roofs, under cars, under trees, in group homes, in some really scary places, and some really beautiful places with caring people. 

I started coaching at 17 because survival made me a strategist before I even knew the word for it.
I’ve studied human behavior psychology for over 30 years.
I’ve rebuilt my identity from absolute zero - more than once. Yes, mostly out of necessity and … when is it not out of necessity?
And I’ve helped thousands of women unhook from the lies they were conditioned to believe about who they have to be to succeed.

I don’t teach theory. I teach lived precision.
I’m also a 5/1 Manifesting Generator, an Enneagram 8, and I coach like a badass with a spiritual side and zero tolerance for bullshit.

You’ll get the psychology, the energy work, the frequency codes - and you’ll get it clean. No fluff. No filters. No slow drip.

WHAT THIS PODCAST IS (and what it is not):

This is not a podcast about “doing more.”
This is about becoming more - you, aligned. You, fully activated no matter where you’ve come from or what your life has been like up until right now - this very moment.

Every episode is designed to help you:

WHAT TO EXPECT:

Solo Episodes  -  where I pull from decades of psychology, frequency work, and performance strategy to recalibrate your identity at the deepest level. Expect fire. Expect edge. Expect transformation in 30 minutes or less.

Guest Experts  -  from spiritual thought leaders to corporate powerhouses to trauma specialists. If they’re here, they’re elite. They’re not talking in circles. They’re talking truth. Guest spots are coming in the very near future. 

Live Coaching Segments  -  I’ll coach real women through real sabotage, in real time. Think identity recalibration with receipts.

Opportunities to Go Deeper  -  Whether it’s challenges, private trainings, high-level programs, or full recalibration containers, this podcast is the front door to your quantum shift.

Every week, I’ll give you tactical tools, powerful questions, and exact next steps to stop repeating patterns and start becoming the version of you that already has it all.

WHY YOU SHOULD LISTEN:

Because the version of you that wins doesn’t wait.
She doesn’t hope it works. She becomes the proof.
If you’re still overthinking, you’re still shrinking.
This podcast will end that.

If you tune in and actually apply what I teach - you won’t just think differently.
You’ll walk differently.
Speak differently.
Decide differently.
And the world around you will respond accordingly.

This podcast is your recalibration.

NEXT STEPS:

Subscribe now.
Follow this show.
Share it with the woman who’s sick of watching herself play small.
Because The Rewired to Rise is not just a podcast - it’s a power portal.

And you?
You were built for this.

Let’s begin.

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You’ve done the work. You’ve built the brand, refined the offer, hired the team, launched the strategy - and somehow, the results still don’t match the power you know you’re capable of.

So you tweak. You tinker. You over-analyze. But let me be clear - 

It’s not your funnel.
It’s not your team.
It’s not the damn algorithm.

It’s the identity executing all of it.

Because if your self-image is still wired for survival, then every plan - no matter how brilliant - will find a way to collapse under the weight of your unprocessed fear.

Welcome back to The Rewired to Rise podcast- where we strip the noise, dismantle the performance mask, and rebuild identity from raw, unapologetic truth. I’m Tanya Marie Dubé - and today, we’re tearing into one of the most seductive lies high-performing women fall for:

That strategy will save you. It won’t.

This episode is a mirror and a manual. If you’re ready to see where your brilliance is bleeding - and how to recalibrate your identity to finally match the game you’re playing - this is for you.

Let’s begin.

Let’s skip the fluff: You don’t have a strategy problem. You have an identity leak.

You’ve got the spreadsheets. The sprints. The color-coded breakdowns. The gorgeous funnels. The high-converting emails. You’ve sat through the masterminds, paid the consultants, tested the messaging… and still - your results are inconsistent. Your energy is fractured. Your launches leave you flatlined. Why?

Because high-level strategies collapse when they’re being run by an identity still wired for survival. Tactics are surface. Identity is infrastructure.

If the woman executing your plan is still trying to earn her worth…if she’s still addicted to urgency, approval, and being the one who always delivers…then it doesn’t matter how strong the plan is - she will bend it to match her internal set point.

You’ll call it burnout. You’ll say it’s a “bad launch window.” You’ll say the algorithm changed.

But what really happened is that your strategy was executed by a version of you who didn’t believe she was allowed to succeed without the suffering.

Let me be even more clear: you don’t need another blueprint. You need a new baseline. One where the identity executing the plan is calibrated to match the power of the vision behind it. Until that happens, your strategy will always underdeliver - because the woman running it is still operating on outdated code.

Here’s the cycle that high-functioning women die in silently, stylishly - and unnecessarily: you overwork, constantly trying to outrun the fear that if you slow down, it will all collapse. That someone will finally realize you're winging it. That your edge is an illusion. That you're replaceable.

You overthink every email, every launch, every word you say - because somewhere inside, you still believe if you get it “right,” you’ll finally feel safe. Finally feel enough.

You underdeliver not because you’re under-qualified - but because your energy is fragmented. Because half of you is leading, and the other half is bracing for impact.

Then the shame spiral hits. Not loud. Not obvious. It looks like perfectionism. Like ghosting your own power. Like quietly convincing yourself to shrink just a little so no one gets uncomfortable.

And what do you do? You pivot. You rebrand. You hire the tenth expert in as many months. You tweak the container. The copy. The colors. But you never question the operating system driving it all. Strategy becomes your drug of choice. A distraction. A justification. A performance enhancer.

But here’s the truth: You didn’t build this business from sovereignty. You built it from the need to prove no one can take this from you. And now that same identity - the one that created success from pain - is quietly dismantling everything you say you want.

Not because you’re weak. But because performance became your protection - and it’s time to break that contract.

Here’s what nobody told you at the top:

Your subconscious isn’t logical. It’s primal. It doesn’t respond to your strategy. It doesn’t care how hard you work. It’s not impressed by your six-figure month or your booked-out calendar.

Your subconscious only cares about what feels familiar. And if what’s familiar is struggle, over-efforting, codependent success, or praise addiction… then anything outside that will be rejected.

This is why high-achieving women burn out while playing “smart.” Because underneath the goals and the grit is an outdated self-image that says:

“If I rest, I’ll fall behind.”
“If I’m not excellent, I’m nothing.”
“If I shine too brightly, I’ll lose people.”

Until that identity is rewritten - on a neurological, emotional, and energetic level - your nervous system will shut down the very success you’re trying to create.

You can’t out-hustle subconscious shame. You can’t build wealth on an identity addicted to proving. You can’t hold power when you’re terrified of being seen.

The work isn’t surface-level action. It’s subconscious recalibration.

Repetition. Imagination. Emotional intensity. That’s how the new identity gets installed - and the old one finally dies.

Let’s slow it down and get precise - surgical, even.

Every decision you’re making right now - every plan, every pitch, every team hire, every post - was built by someone. But was it built by the you who is expanding… or the one who is still controlling?

Ask yourself: What part of me created this plan?

Was it the version that’s sovereign and anchored? Or the version still hustling to not be found out?

And now ask: Would my future self even sign off on this plan?

Would the woman who owns her power without apology even recognize this strategy? Or would she dismantle it in five minutes, look me dead in the eye, and say, “This isn’t it. Start again. From power this time.”

If your current self and future self wouldn’t even collaborate…you’re operating from misalignment. And misaligned action never scales powerfully - only exhaustingly.

So stop making power moves from a scared identity. Audit the source. Rebuild from the one who already has what you’re fighting for.

Let’s move from theory into embodiment - now.

Pick one goal you’re holding right now. Write it down in its current form - raw, unfiltered.

Now: Rewrite it from your future self. Not the version of you that’s tired. Not the one still trying to earn her success. I’m talking about the version who:

What does she want? How does she name it? What language does she refuse to use because it shrinks the vision?

Now take it further. List the next three decisions she would make immediately. From that new identity. From that power.

Then - here’s the key - make them No analyzing. No talking it through. No self-sabotage disguised as “being intentional.”

Because the gap between the reality you have and the one you want? It’s not time. It’s not money. It’s the decision you’ve been avoiding.

Collapse the timeline by stepping into the identity that’s already living the life.

She’s not waiting. So why are you?

CLOSING: Your Edge Is Not Optional

Here’s the truth: you don’t need another planner. You don’t need another team meeting or another round of tweaks.

You need to become the woman who can hold what she builds. Because power doesn’t come from your strategy. It comes from your state.

If you want to lead with clean energy, if you want your results to become inevitable, if you want to stop performing and start commanding - 

Then burn the version of you that’s still seeking approval, and rebuild the one who doesn’t flinch.

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The Sabotage Shift Challenge 

Let me ask you something: what if the strategy wasn’t the problem? What if the funnel, the offer, the team - all of it - were fine… but the woman executing it was still operating from an identity built in survival?

If something cracked open for you in this episode - if you felt yourself in the sabotage cycle...overworking, overthinking, underdelivering, spiraling - then blaming the strategy - I need you to hear this: you’re not broken. You’re just building from the wrong identity.

It’s time to shift.

The Sabotage Shift Challenge is a 3-day identity recalibration for high-performing women who are done tweaking strategy and ready to confront the real reason their momentum keeps stalling.

We don’t do fluff. We don’t do mindset bandaids. We go straight to the root - so you can cut the loop, reclaim your command, and finally lead from the inside out.

Inside, you’ll uncover:

This isn’t personal development. This is personal power - rewired.

If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it,” this challenge was built for you.

Click the link in the show notes or head to 👉 sabotageshiftchallenge.com/register

Three days. One identity shift. Everything changes.

This is The Rewired to Rise podcast. I’ll see you next week.

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So let’s get into this. You’re not tired because you’re doing too much. You’re tired because you’re being someone you’re not. What I  ’ve learned personally about burnout is that this is what happens when your soul can’t survive the role you’ve been performing. This episode isn’t about managing your time. It’s about reclaiming your truth. Let’s talk about what happens when your success is built on a self-image that was never truly yours.

PART 1: The Root of Burnout  -  Misaligned Identity

Here’s the truth no one tells high achievers:
You don’t burn out because you're weak.
You burn out because you're performing a self-image your soul never consented to.

Burnout isn’t about effort.
It’s about energetic distortion - a constant misalignment between the woman you really are and the version of you that was engineered to survive.

This is all about the inner war between truth and performance. Between authenticity and acceptance. Between your design... and your conditioning.

And let me be very clear -  You can build a very successful business from this place. You can be the best in the room, the most respected on the team, the woman others come to for answers. But if the identity at the center of it all is built on approval, perfectionism, and control… You will pay for it. There is no escaping this.

Not at first. Not on the balance sheet. But inside - where it compounds like interest. Fatigue that doesn’t make sense. Success that doesn’t feel safe. A life that looks impressive… but feels like a cage. How many of us have lived whole lives this way?

There’s a book I’ve read called Psycho-Cybernetics and it taught me that your subconscious mind is a goal-seeking mechanism. If your internal “goal” is to be accepted, perfect, or unproblematic - you will unconsciously sabotage anything that threatens that programming, including your expansion.

I learned from Bob Proctor something that makes it crystal clear:
You cannot outperform your self-image. No matter how hard you work, if your identity is rooted in fear, the results will reflect lack - even if they look like success on the outside.

You’re operating with excellence, but it’s excellence built on emotional residue - not power. You’re not driven by inner command. You’re driven by unspoken rules and unresolved stories.

And spiritually? Your soul came here to lead, not to perform. Every time you betray your design to maintain approval - you lower your frequency. You create resistance. You call in lessons instead of miracles.

Burnout is the soul’s rebellion against the mask. It’s your nervous system demanding recalibration.

So if you feel exhausted but can’t explain why… If you keep winning but feel increasingly disconnected… If success feels more like survival with a better salary...

You’re not broken. You’re just done being someone you’re not.

Let’s break this down - no fluff.

You’re the woman who gets it done. You’re efficient. You’re eloquent. You show up sharp. Your life looks curated, respected, even envied.

But behind that performance pattern is a truth most won’t admit: You’re not alive inside. You’re efficient, yes - but empty. You’re delivering on demand - but quietly disappearing in the process.

You crave stillness… But the moment you get it? It rattles you. Because silence doesn’t just bring peace - it brings truth. And if you’ve built an identity around performance, truth feels like confrontation.

This is the symptom no one names: The high-functioning collapse.

The outside world sees execution. They see results. They clap for your consistency. But they don’t see the internal erosion.

They don’t see the exhaustion that hits the moment your laptop closes. They don’t see the 3AM overthinking spiral where you replay every word, obessively. They don’t see how you can’t tell if you’re thriving - or just really good at surviving. And oh do I know this well.

This is where we get stuck - we know what to do but we just don’t know how to get there. And it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because the woman taking action is out of sync with the woman you’re meant to become.

Something else I learned from Psycho-cybernetics is that this is called a self-image mismatch. You’re holding a picture of power, yet identifying with the version of you that was trained to be acceptable.

So the work you create? It never satisfies. Because it’s not aligned with your true inner blueprint - it’s aligned with your mask.

High performers operate from inner compulsion, not outer applause. If you’re still fueled by needing to be needed, liked, seen, or perfect - you’re not leading. You’re performing.

And spiritually speaking any time your results require you to abandon yourself - you’ve left soul alignment. You’re managing optics. But inside? You’ve gone offline.

The truth is: disconnection isn’t a productivity issue. It’s a soul issue. You’re not disengaged because you're tired - you're disengaged because you're inauthentic. You’ve forgotten the frequency of your real self.

This segment isn’t to call you out. It’s to call you back. I needed a few kicks in the pants to get here, too, and thank God for those coaches who didn’t sugar coat it, didn’t mask their advice in fluff. 

I’m talking about getting back to the woman you were before they taught you who to become. Back to your cleanest power - before the applause, before the roles, before the rules.

Because here’s the real flex: learn to lead without the mask - and watch your results expand anyway.

You weren’t born high-functioning. You were programmed to be.

That armor you wear so well - the discipline, the over-functioning, the hyper-awareness? It didn’t start with strategy. It started with survival. This is in the doing. Doing to stay safe. Doing for approval. Doing for acceptance. For the accolades.

The identity you’re leading with today was installed - quietly, consistently, and early. Installed in the moments you were shamed for being too much or not enough. Installed every time you were told you were “dramatic,” “difficult,” “demanding.” Every time you had to be the good girl, the smart one, the peacekeeper, the fixer.

This is identity formed by force, not choice And when you zoom out, it becomes clear: you didn’t create this persona - your nervous system built her. Because she’s the one who got love. She’s the one who felt safe. She’s the one who succeeded in a system that punished your truth.

So, your self-image was shaped by emotional experiences - and reinforced by repetition and emotional intensity. Not logic. Not intelligence. Emotion.

You became who you needed to be to reduce pain and increase approval. Not because you were weak, but because you were adaptive. You built results using the only version of you that was allowed to exist.

Bob Proctor teaches that every result is rooted in belief - and belief is cemented through repeated thought. So if your foundational belief was, “I’m only valuable when I’m performing,” like mine was, you’ve been subconsciously re-creating that pattern your entire life. You’re not addicted to burnout. You’re loyal to the identity that got you out of danger. Let me say that again. You’re not addicted to burnout. You’re loyal to the identity that got you out of danger. A big lesson.

I recently read a book called Relentless, and the author, Tim Grover said “Being relentless means demanding more of yourself than anyone else could ever demand of you.” But what he doesn’t say is - if that demand is rooted in proving, not power, you’re not relentless. You’re just repeating the trauma in designer clothes.

And from a spiritual lens? There are karmic layers to this identity. You came into this lifetime to clear the residue of performance, control, and invisibility. You’ve played this role before. But this time? You’re meant to burn it.

So let’s ask the real question: Who built the version of you that’s leading your life? Was it your soul? Or was it your conditioning?

Because if she wasn’t built in truth, then no matter how strong, strategic, or successful she becomes - she’s still not free.

There’s a threshold every powerful woman hits. It’s not burnout. It’s not breakdown. It’s permission.

Not the kind you ask for. The kind you give yourself - when you’re ready to stop performing and start leading.

Here’s the truth: You don’t need another strategy. You don’t need a better routine, not necessarily. You need to revoke consent from the identity that’s been running your life.

And that starts with intentional disobedience.

The rules you’ve been following? They were handed to you by fear, family, teachers, trauma, church, corporate culture, society. Most of them weren’t designed to create liberation. They were designed to keep you predictable. Controllable. Palatable. And you’re no longer here for that.

So let’s be clear:

This is not about rebellion for rebellion’s sake. This is about exiting the paradigm where your power has to pass through someone else’s filter to be accepted.

I’ve learned that the moment you make a committed decision, everything begins to move. But what most don’t realize is… the decision that changes your life isn’t external. It’s the internal override of an identity that’s no longer aligned with your soul.

Your brain doesn’t care if your identity is empowering or destructive - it only cares if it’s familiar. Something else I learned from Psycho-cybernetics. So when you choose to stop performing - your nervous system will panic. You’ll question yourself. You’ll feel guilt. You’ll second-guess every move.

That’s not a sign to stop, even though that’s what you’ve been conditioned to see and feel. That’s evidence that the shift is working. 

People who have that obsessiveness about living to their fullest potential don’t wait to feel ready. They decide who they are, and they act like it. Even when it’s inconvenient. Even when it’s messy. Even when it threatens the dynamics that once made them feel safe.

And spiritually, this is the moment where you exit the karmic loop. Where you stop running patterns to be the “good daughter,” the “ideal employee,” the “perfect partner,” and start choosing actions that match your frequency, not your fear.

So what does the first exit look like?

Because here’s the truth: Power is never about permission. It’s about remembrance.

You are not becoming someone new. You’re removing everything you never were to begin with.

Let’s be clear. Burnout is not fixed with bubble baths. It’s fixed with identity-level interruption.

The version of you that’s exhausted, overgiving, performing, and second-guessing? She doesn’t need more self-care. She needs a pattern break.

This is where the shift begins - not in theory, but in practice. And not performative practice - embodied recalibration. There’s a huge difference here.

Here’s your reset in three steps:

STEP ONE: IDENTIFY WHERE YOU’RE LEAKING ENERGY

Grab a journal or open a fresh note. Write down 3 specific areas in your life where you feel depleted. Not general overwhelm - specific contexts.

Think:

These are not productivity issues. They are self-abandonment contracts.

STEP TWO: IDENTITY DISSECTION

Under each item, ask yourself:

“Who am I being here?”

Not what you’re doing - who you’re being.

Are you being the peacekeeper? The overachiever? The version of you that was praised for disappearing?

Now ask:

“Who would I be if I stopped performing in this space?”

Sit with this and let yourself feel it. Let your nervous system squirm. This is where the truth lives.

Before I say this next part, let me quickly say that everything you’ve ever endeavoured to do that was new to you felt hard at first. And it wasn’t until you started practicing that it became easy quickly. So when we think of you, 2.0, I want you to come from the place where you know - you just know - that with practice you will become her. So now, as you answer the question I just asked you (who would I be if I stopped performing in this space), I want you to write down what she - the version of you who already has what you want more than anything - the one, who in your mind is ten years ahead of you, what would she think, believe, and do differently in that stuck space.

This is identity recalibration in real time.

STEP THREE: EMBODIMENT ACTION

Pick one of those three areas. Just one. Take a micro-action this week that honors the future version of you.

It might look like:

Whatever it is, do it as her. Not as the woman trying to please, manage, or keep the peace. But the woman who leads from internal authority.

I’ve learned from my mentors that results don’t change until self-image does -
and self-image doesn’t change until it’s acted upon.

This is the moment you stop thinking and start commanding.

BONUS: FREQUENCY LOCK-IN

If you don’t know it, your mind doesn’t actually know the difference between events that have happened in real time in your life or the things you imagine. It’s all data. So, before you sleep tonight, visualize one of those three areas fully resolved. See yourself moving through it as your most powerful self. Inhale that version of you. Exhale the mask you’ve been hiding behind. 

This is how Psycho-Cybernetics taught me to rewire my subconscious: Mental rehearsal. Emotional involvement. Repetition.

And your body responds to what you repeat - not what you hope.

You want new results? Get serious about rehearsing a new identity.

If this hit something in you - good. That’s your signal. You’re not here to manage burnout. You’re here to end it at the root.

And if this was your moment? Share it. Tag me on Instagram - you can find me on there as @rewiredtorisepodcast. And get ready - because this is only the beginning.

You’re not broken. You’re just done performing. Let’s build who you really are.

Once again, thank you for being here with me. I’m your host Tanya-Marie Dubé and you can head over to rewiredtorisepodcast.com/episodes for more fun stuff that is only for the rewired to rise community.