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The RISE to Intimacy Podcast | Sex Therapy, Couples Therapy & Relationships
By Valerie McDonnell, LCSW - Licensed Psychotherapist & Relationship CoachSociety & CultureHealth & FitnessRelationshipsSexuality
The RISE to Intimacy Podcast | Sex Therapy, Couples Therapy & Relationships episodes
- Why Sex Feels Like Pressure Instead of Pleasure
Sex is everywhere. Yet meaningful conversations about intimacy are still wrapped in silence, shame, and confusion. Low desire, erectile struggles, or difficulty with orgasm get framed as personal failures when they should be framed as messages from the body shaped by culture, conditioning, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm.
In this premiere episode of The RISE to Intimacy Podcast, I invite you to gain a deeper understanding of what actually gets in the way of desire. Drawing on my decade of experience as a sex and couples therapist, I unpack how social expectations quietly disconnect us from our bodies, how performance anxiety hijacks pleasure, and why emotional regulation and communication are the missing foundations for intimacy.
2:37 – A cultural myth that quietly shapes how desire shows up or shuts down in women
5:42 – An example of how men also face societal conditioning during their childhood
7:34 – The impact on romantic relationships between men and women as a result
8:33 – How performance anxiety can sneak into the bedroom
11:23 – How a lack of emotional regulation creates distance before sex even enters the picture
12:25 – What rebuilding desire actually requires
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About The RISE to Intimacy Podcast | Sex Therapy, Couples Therapy & Relationships
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If intimacy feels like pressure instead of pleasure, you're not alone - and there's a reason why.
Licensed sex and couples therapist Valerie McDonnell breaks down the real barriers…
to connection that most people don't even know exist. From performance anxiety and sexless relationships to attachment wounds and nervous system dysregulation, each episode teaches the same tools Valerie uses with private clients.
You'll learn how to regulate your body when sex feels triggering, how to communicate without fighting, how to rebuild desire when it's been gone for months or years, and how to stop abandoning yourself in relationships.
Whether you're struggling with low desire, erectile dysfunction, people-pleasing in the bedroom, or feeling completely disconnected from your partner, this podcast will help you understand what's really happening and what you can do about it.
Tune in for new episodes every Tuesday because trauma doesn't get the last word, and sex therapy isn't for people who are broken - it's for people brave enough to look beneath the surface.