On our first episode for Season 2, Renata and I will be telling you about this thing that we suffer from called "the 20s"

Based on our combined experience some signs and symptoms include:
Sadness, Loneliness, Uncertainty, Random episodes of motivation and/ or despair, unemployment, student loans, undergraduate programs, failed relationships, self-esteem issues and rarely, jobs.

Have you gotten it as yet? If no, then what do you think it'll be like. If yes, how did you survive because as far as we can see there's no cure because it's a #RiteOfPassage.

If you're wondering about how you'll get it, what it's going to be like and how we're dealing with it just cop a seat and let's talk...fingers crossed that we figure it out!

XOXO,
Zee + Nata
#ForgetTheGirlCode
#TheRiteOfPassage

Support your friends, listen to their ideas, go to their events, share their posts, celebrate their victories and remind them of their importance after their failures. A little support can go a very long way in someone's life. Remember that no man is an island and a such it is important that you choose your team carefully.

Much of your success is due to the people who you surround yourself with; these are the people in your life who will inspire, support and be honest with you.

What does your support system look like?

Everyone has their own quirks and opinions and as such relationships may be a tad complicated. the key to succeeding in any union lies in finding a balance between understanding
1. that someone who's a bit different isn't a reason to run for the hills and
2. that knowing that your self-worth is vital for your spiritual growth and using that knowledge to develop healthy boundaries that allow you to spot red flags—indicators or instances in which you find yourself compromising on some quirks that leave you feeling relatively uncomfortable .

Ultimately, your responsible for your own experience, nobody else is and as such red flags are things that need to be questioned or otherwise validated.
XOXO,
Zee + Nata
#ForgetTheGirlCode
#TheRiteOfPassage

Everyone has their own quirks and opinions and as such relationships may be a tad complicated. The key to succeeding in any union lies in finding a balance between understanding
1. that someone who's a bit different isn't a reason to run for the hills and
2. that knowing that your self-worth is vital for your spiritual growth and using that knowledge to develop healthy boundaries that allow you to spot red flags—indicators or instances in which you find yourself compromising on some quirks that leave you feeling relatively uncomfortable.

Ultimately, you're responsible for your own experience, nobody else is and as such red flags are things that need to be questioned or otherwise validated.
XOXO,
Zee + Nata
#ForgetTheGirlCode
#TheRiteOfPassage

Renata and I believe that Closure is a funny thing. Much like in our case, It looks like different things to different people, but the ultimate goal is to feel some sort of resolution to a relationship that may have ended badly. The sad fact is, most people will never experience the closure they are looking for, and even if they do get closure, it won’t come in the form they wanted or expected.

What does closure look like to you?

Is it a conversation in which you tell the person everything about what you thought about him or her, the relationship/ situation and how much you’ve been affected by what transpired?

Does closure come in the form of a big apology from that person?

Or does it look like a plot for revenge?

Check out the podcast and then feel free to tell us how you guys find closure.
XOXO,
Zee + Nata
#ForgetTheGirlCode
#TheRiteOfPassage

Attaining closure is probably the easy part but knowing what to do with it will be hard. How you process and apply this information to your life will determine how much you grow from a particular situation. Renata and I believe that Closure is a funny thing and seeking it with an open mind is also important since expectations can bring forth disappointments; much like in our case, closure looks like different things to different people, but the ultimate goal is to feel some sort of resolution to a relationship that may have ended badly. The sad fact is, most people will never experience the closure they are looking for, and even if they do get closure, it won’t come in the form they wanted or expected.

There are always lesson woven into every experience that we have in life and the aspect of failed relationships and closure teaches us that not everything we lose is a loss and often times we need to lose in order to gain. So ultimately, The best kind of healing and growth is the kind we make for ourselves. It is not dependent or reliant on another person. It is whole, and it makes us whole. The satisfaction that comes with knowing that you didn’t need any part of the person you are leaving behind in order to move forward with your life will be the greatest closure you will ever know.
XOXO,
Zee + Nata
#ForgetTheGirlCode

Life is a journey and you can’t carry everything with you.

Like Zee says, we are all the sum total of our past experiences and as such it is no surprise that our emotional memories have the ability to influence everything from our beliefs to the way we see ourselves, and the way we conduct ourselves in relationships or even the types of people we are attracted to.

Emotional baggage is a phrase that represents the mix of negative and unprocessed emotions that we've acquired throughout the year and simply refused to face so we keep them hidden in "battered old suitcases" until they begin to adversely affect our present.

The key to handling emotional baggage is to be aware of it, know it, own it, and handle it.

We think it’s extremely important to learn how to deal with emotional baggage so it doesn’t define you or affect the decisions you’ll make in your future.

It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to will have power over you, if you allow it. So in keeping with last week's theme, "Empowered women empower women," Aziza and I sat down and spilled some truths about self-esteem. Check it out and let us know what you think.

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Intro song: Because I Am A Queen- India Arie

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