The Rob Arthur Podcast

We often treat ourselves in ways we'd never treat others.

Harsh criticism, derision, and neglect, however, can affect us all the same.

Whatever our shortcomings, we can approach them with kindness and compassion.

How would you treat a dear friend?

You are worthy of the same.

You've got this.

It can be tempting to totally quit when we start to see that an effort is no longer sustainable.

We often fail to consider, however, all that might lie between continuing as we are and giving up.

Pause, breathe, and open your mind and your heart.

Is quitting the only option?

You've got this.

Labels can play a useful role in communication.

When we label ourselves, however, we risk associating our labels with our identities.

These labels then often serve only to separate and isolate us, when we crave love and connection.

How are the labels you've chosen serving you?

You've got this.

Self-reflection can help us identify our shortcomings and work to improve upon them.

Harsh self-criticism, however, often only makes us miserable, ultimately hindering our growth or progress.

Imperfection, mistakes, and failure are inevitable.

Beating yourself up is optional.

You’ve got this.

Some of our pain is unavoidable.

It's the misfortune, failure, and disappointment we all inevitably encounter.

Much of our pain, however, is unnecessary and self-imposed.

It's the rumination, grief, and shame we carry with us past their utility.

What pain can you let go?

You've got this.

We can squander our entire lives putting ourselves last in a futile effort to make others happy.

Others' happiness, however, is not our responsibility.

It has infinitely more to do with them than with us.

Consider others as you navigate life, of course.

Don't forget yourself.

You've got this.

We generally know when we need food, water, or shelter.

When we need them, we seek them out.

It can be harder to tell when we need love, belonging, or safety.

When we need them, we often numb, distract, or isolate ourselves or turn to greed, anger, or fear.

What do you need?

You've got this.

We let so many trivialities we tell ourselves we should do get in the way of the essentials we want or need to do.

Neglecting these essentials erodes the foundation of our inner peace and contentedness.

Let go of and leave behind what's trivial.

Take care of what's essential.

You've got this.

It's tempting to withdraw unreciprocated kindness.

A gift given with expectations, however, is more like a contract.

The beauty of kindness is its unconditionality.

What goes around might not come back around.

We can only contribute to what goes around.

Contribute kindness.

You've got this.

Your past has shaped your present.

You can't do anything about that.

Your past does not define your future.

It might not be completely within your control.

You might be constrained by present circumstances.

All you can ever do is do what you can.

You can always do that.

You've got this.