Becoming Your Favorite Version of You

What does it take to say, “Today’s me is my favorite me”? In Part 2 of Rocky’s conversation with Gabriella Monte, they explore how forgiveness, boundaries, and redefining success shape the way we lead and live. This episode is a vulnerable look at letting go of old versions of ourselves while embracing who we’re becoming.

Episode Highlights

. The difference between sacrifice and service—and why it matters for leaders.

. How forgiveness of self opens the door to growth.

. Redefining success as seasons of life and leadership shift.

. Boundaries reframed: keeping what you love most in, not just keeping things out.

. Why asking questions doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

Get To Know Our Guest

As Vice President of Hotel and Retail Operations at The Village Dallas, Gabriella Monte leads with vision, passion, and an unwavering commitment to excellence. With more than 15 years of experience across hospitality, real estate, and technology, Gabriella has established herself as a trailblazer in operational leadership. She has held pivotal roles with Kimpton Hotels and Resorts, Oracle, and Sentral, where she implemented high-impact strategies, introduced innovative technologies, and expanded market reach for leading brands.

In addition to her corporate roles, Gabriella has consulted for early-stage startups, specializing in building operational procedures and scalable customer service platform infrastructure. Her guidance has helped emerging companies create meaningful, efficient guest and client experiences from the ground up.

At The Drey Hotel, Gabriella has elevated the guest experience and operational performance through thoughtful strategy, personalized service, and a strong focus on brand integrity. She launched Drey Rewards, the hotel’s signature loyalty program, and has been instrumental in shaping a culture of hospitality that prioritizes both guest satisfaction and strong financial performance.

A passionate advocate for sustainability, Gabriella has led initiatives to support longleaf pine reforestation in Texas. At The Village Dallas, she has revitalized the retail district, achieving full occupancy across showroom spaces and transforming the area into a vibrant shopping destination. Her retail curation is intentional and empowering; every business she has brought on board is women-owned and operated, reflecting her deep commitment to championing female entrepreneurs.

Gabriella’s advocacy extends well beyond her professional role. She proudly serves on the Board of DIFFA Dallas and is an active supporter of Planned Parenthood, The Trevor Project, and Dress for Success. Gabriella is a beacon of modern leadership, showing how women can break barriers, lead with purpose, and drive lasting impact in both industry and community.

Follow Gabriella:

Instagram – @gabriellammonte

The Village Dallas – @thevillagedallas

Resources Mentioned

. Join Rocky’s Live Leadership Training – rockygarza.com/confidence

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In this episode, I sit down with Gabriella, a dynamic leader who’s been on a journey of transformation in both her personal and professional life. We dive into the lessons she’s learned along the way about vulnerability, leadership, and rediscovering herself after becoming a mother. This episode is all about embracing imperfections and understanding that true leadership is not about presenting a polished version of yourself but being authentic and real.

About Gabriella Monte

As Vice President of Hotel and Retail Operations at The Village Dallas, Gabriella Monte leads with vision, passion, and an unwavering commitment to excellence. With more than 15 years of experience across hospitality, real estate, and technology, Gabriella has established herself as a trailblazer in operational leadership. She has held pivotal roles with Kimpton Hotels and Resorts, Oracle, and Sentral, where she implemented high-impact strategies, introduced innovative technologies, and expanded market reach for leading brands.

In addition to her corporate roles, Gabriella has consulted for early-stage startups, specializing in building operational procedures and scalable customer service platform infrastructure. Her guidance has helped emerging companies create meaningful, efficient guest and client experiences from the ground up.

At The Drey Hotel, Gabriella has elevated the guest experience and operational performance through thoughtful strategy, personalized service, and a strong focus on brand integrity. She launched Drey Rewards, the hotel’s signature loyalty program, and has been instrumental in shaping a culture of hospitality that prioritizes both guest satisfaction and strong financial performance.

A passionate advocate for sustainability, Gabriella has led initiatives to support longleaf pine reforestation in Texas. At The Village Dallas, she has revitalized the retail district, achieving full occupancy across showroom spaces and transforming the area into a vibrant shopping destination. Her retail curation is intentional and empowering , every business she has brought on board is women-owned and operated, reflecting her deep commitment to championing female entrepreneurs.

Gabriella’s advocacy extends well beyond her professional role. She proudly serves on the Board of DIFFA Dallas and is an active supporter of Planned Parenthood, The Trevor Project, and Dress for Success. Gabriella is a beacon of modern leadership, showing how women can break barriers, lead with purpose, and drive lasting impact in both industry and community.

Gabriella’s Intentional Journey

We start by discussing Gabriella’s journey of intentionality. Gabriella shares how, prior to becoming a mother, she had always lived a life where success and career advancement were her primary focus. She talks about the mindset shift that came with motherhood, realizing that the greatest value she carried was not in her ability to present perfectly but in her ability to present the person behind the success. This journey wasn’t easy, but it became something truly beautiful as she learned to put her authentic self first.

The Challenges of Motherhood

Gabriella opens up about the challenges she faced when trying to become a mother. She had a long, emotional journey with infertility that tested her ability to overcome challenges beyond her control. Gabriella reveals how this experience shifted her perspective on life and success. While she was used to achieving anything she set her mind to in her career, the struggle to have a child was something that was completely out of her control, making her question her identity in a way she had never experienced before.

Balancing Career and Personal Life

As we talk about the complexities of balancing career and personal life, Gabriella explains how she was able to use hardship as motivation to keep going. Even when she faced emotional and physical challenges, her drive to succeed in her career and maintain strong relationships with her family pushed her forward. However, it wasn’t always easy, and there were times when she felt out of control, not knowing if everything she was doing was worth it.

Rediscovering Identity

The journey through infertility and becoming a mother prompted Gabriella to rediscover who she truly was outside of her professional success. She explains how redefining herself wasn’t just about overcoming adversity but also about surrendering to the process and being vulnerable. For the first time, Gabriella allowed herself to acknowledge the struggles, and in doing so, she found a new sense of authenticity that helped her grow as both a person and a leader.

The Power of Vulnerability

Gabriella shares an important lesson in vulnerability: it’s not just about being vulnerable with others, but also with yourself. She talks about how being open about her struggles, both personal and professional, has made her a stronger leader. She reflects on how many leaders, especially women, have often been conditioned to hide their vulnerabilities, but she now understands the power that comes with showing up authentically, even when things aren’t perfect.

Leadership and Empathy

A major theme of this episode is the relationship between leadership and empathy. Gabriella talks about how being an empathetic leader doesn’t make you weak; in fact, it can make you stronger. She emphasizes that showing empathy and understanding in leadership, especially during times of hardship, helps build deeper connections with your team and creates a more sustainable work environment. Leadership is not just about making decisions; it’s about showing your humanity and being willing to support others through their challenges.

Conclusion and Next Steps

As we wrap up the conversation, Gabriella shares some final thoughts on how leaders can balance their personal and professional lives, as well as how embracing vulnerability can lead to stronger, more authentic connections with those around them. She encourages leaders to keep striving for authenticity and to remember that imperfections and challenges are not weaknesses, but rather growth opportunities.

Resources Mentioned:

• If you’re ready to grow as a leader, join me for my free monthly leadership workshop at rockygarza.com/confidence 
• Follow Gabriella on Instagram: @Gabriellammonte
• Follow The Village on Instagram: @thevillagedallas

Key Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Imperfection

00:46 Gabriella's Intentional Journey

02:39 The Challenges of Motherhood

04:32 Balancing Career and Personal Life

06:06 Rediscovering Identity

07:49 The Power of Vulnerability

08:51 Leadership and Empathy

19:19 Conclusion and Next Steps

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In Part 2 of Show Us Your Human, I sit down with Darren Palmer, a leader, entrepreneur, and someone who is incredibly passionate about connecting with others. We dive into the truths behind leadership that are rarely seen—the struggles, the doubts, and the human side of great leadership.

ICYMI: About Darren Palmer

Darren M. Palmer is a dynamic Serial Entrepreneur and the co-founder of one of the nation’s fastest-growing agencies, Prosperity Partners Agency. With a mission to empower families and entrepreneurs, Darren and his partners are equipping leaders with the tools and strategies needed to achieve financial freedom.

Before entering the insurance industry, Darren founded Self Publish -N- 30 Days, the #1 self-publishing company in the world, serving high-level entrepreneurs and helping them turn their stories into seven-figure platforms.

Through mentorship and experience, Darren discovered the keys to building wealth—but also realized the deep gap in financial literacy within the business community. Refusing to stand on the sidelines, he became a solution in the marketplace, teaching others how to build legacy, protect income, and steward their financial future with confidence.

What Makes Darren Great

We kick off the conversation with an important question: What makes you great? Darren shares that his resilience and deep faith are what truly set him apart. He believes that faith fuels resilience—his ability to keep going even when life gets tough. Resilience, as Darren explains, isn’t about never facing challenges, but about keeping faith through the trials. Darren’s perspective on leadership is that trials and tribulations are part of the process, and they’re what make us more than conquerors.

The Struggles and The Strength Behind Resilience

As we dig deeper, Darren reflects on the struggles that all great leaders face but don’t always share with the public. He talks about moments when he’s faced real doubts—whether it’s in his personal life, in his business decisions, or in his role as a father. Even when Darren has felt like giving up, he speaks to the mechanisms he uses to fight back: controlling his thoughts, his tongue, and his temperament. He shares how positive thinking and speaking life into situations has helped him overcome the hardest challenges, even when it feels like life is constantly knocking him down.

The Power of Faith in Leadership

For Darren, his faith is the cornerstone of his resilience. He explains that, although he experiences moments of fear and doubt, he knows that faith—not perfection—is what keeps him going. Resilience comes from having a belief system strong enough to weather the storms of life. Darren explains that faith and doubt can coexist, and they often fuel each other in a powerful way. Doubt is the human experience, but faith provides the strength to carry on and take action in the face of it.

The Power of Speech and Thought

A key part of Darren’s approach to resilience is his ability to control his thoughts and words. He describes the discipline it takes to train your thoughts to stay aligned with the promises of his faith. He acknowledges that we all have thoughts of doubt, but it’s important to not let those thoughts dictate our reality. Verbalizing life and affirmations helps Darren stay in alignment with his purpose, no matter what challenges come his way.

Your Team as a Source of Strength

We also talk about the importance of having the right support system. Darren explains that resilience can’t be done alone—surrounding yourself with people who align with your values and beliefs is critical for navigating life’s toughest moments. Darren emphasizes that as leaders, it’s crucial to be transparent with your team, especially in difficult times. By doing so, you allow your team to connect with you on a deeper level and gain strength from the humanity that’s often hidden beneath the leadership façade.

Taking Ownership of Your Own Story

Towards the end of the conversation, Darren talks about his personal growth and the realizations he’s had about his role as a father, business owner, and leader. He reflects on how he used to resent his children because of the unmet expectations he had about being the perfect father. But he quickly realized that he couldn’t hold them responsible for his past. Leadership requires self-awareness and a willingness to grow beyond personal struggles, which is exactly what Darren is doing.

Key Takeaways:

• Resilience is not about avoiding challenges but about remaining faithful and hopeful even during hard times.
• Faith and doubt can coexist, and your faith can fuel your resilience in times of uncertainty.
• Controlling your thoughts and words is crucial for maintaining the right mindset in leadership.
• Surround yourself with a supportive team who can help you grow and hold you accountable.
• As leaders, embrace your humanity and let people see the authenticity behind the title.

Resources Mentioned: 

• Darren’s website: www.selfpublishn30days.com 
• Find Darren on social media: @selfpublishn30days
• If you’re ready to grow as a leader, join me for my free monthly leadership workshop at rockygarza.com/confidence

Key Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Unfinished Leadership

00:49 Defining Resilience

01:25 Facing Life's Challenges

04:35 The Power of Thoughts and Words

09:09 Maintaining Optimism and Integrity

14:13 Faith as a Foundation

17:49 The Role of Doubt in Belief

18:04 Energizing Conversations

19:42 The Power of Free Will

21:07 Facing Doubt and Building Resilience

23:42 Breaking Industry Molds

25:50 Financial Literacy and Legacy

28:05 Personal Reflections and Growth

33:04 Embracing Humanity and Connection

35:45 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today’s episode, I sit down with Darren Palmer, a respected leader and entrepreneur, to discuss the unseen struggles that even the most successful leaders face. While many look up to leaders for their polished accomplishments, the truth is that behind every great leader, there’s something they’re still working through, something unfinished, something real. Darren’s journey is no exception.

About Darren Palmer

Darren M. Palmer is a dynamic Serial Entrepreneur and the co-founder of one of the nation’s fastest-growing agencies, Prosperity Partners Agency. With a mission to empower families and entrepreneurs, Darren and his partners are equipping leaders with the tools and strategies needed to achieve financial freedom.

Before entering the insurance industry, Darren founded Self Publish -N- 30 Days, the #1 self-publishing company in the world, serving high-level entrepreneurs and helping them turn their stories into seven-figure platforms.

Through mentorship and experience, Darren discovered the keys to building wealth—but also realized the deep gap in financial literacy within the business community. Refusing to stand on the sidelines, he became a solution in the marketplace, teaching others how to build legacy, protect income, and steward their financial future with confidence.

Reconnecting with Your True Purpose

Darren kicks things off by sharing something incredibly personal: he’s been recalibrating and reconnecting with what energizes him. As a business owner, it’s easy to get bogged down in the day-to-day operations of running a company and forget the authentic connections that once fueled your passion. Darren’s biggest challenge right now is returning to his true gift of connecting with people—something that energizes him rather than drains him. He reflects on how business can often make you forget who you really are, and he's currently on a mission to get back to what made his business grow in the first place—genuine human connection.

The Struggles of Business Ownership

We then dive into the roadblocks many leaders face, whether they’re entrepreneurs or employees in a W2 role. Darren admits that for a long time, he found himself stuck in the mundane tasks of running the business, often mistaking activity for actual progress. We talk about how easy it is to get caught up in busywork—checking emails, filing documents, making small changes—and feel productive without actually moving the needle on what really matters. Darren points out that it’s essential to identify which tasks are truly income-generating and which ones are just distractions.

The Pitfalls of Following External Expectations

A powerful moment came when we explored how easy it is to fall into the trap of doing things the way others expect. Darren shared a biblical example, David and Saul’s armor, which Darren uses as a metaphor for business and leadership. Just because something worked for someone else doesn’t mean it will work for you. Darren reflected on the times he ran his business the way others thought he should—like having a brick-and-mortar store or hiring large teams—only to realize that these decisions weren’t actually the right fit for him. The important takeaway here? Do what works for you, not what worked for someone else.

The Right Person in the Right Seat

Darren got real about some tough leadership decisions, particularly about trusting the wrong people in the wrong roles. Just because someone is a family member, friend, or someone you trust doesn’t mean they’re the right person for a role. This conversation opened up the idea of the right person, right seat philosophy from the book Traction, where we often fill seats with people we already know rather than figuring out who’s the best fit for a role. Darren’s perspective here is that while it's important to trust people, it's critical to put them in the role they’re truly qualified for.

Redefining Your Seat as a Leader

We also explore the difficult moment when founders or CEOs realize that their leadership may have reached a plateau. Darren shared a conversation with a CEO who felt he had taken the company as far as he could, wondering if he was the right leader to take it to the next level. Darren and I discussed the importance of constantly reevaluating your own role as a leader and asking the tough question: Are you the right person for the seat you’re in, or is it time to redefine your role?

The Power of Partnership Over Ego

The conversation took another turn when Darren talked about his strength in building partnerships. As he’s learned, having a strong team around you means you don’t have to do everything yourself. The real key to success in leadership, for Darren, is recognizing your strengths and knowing when to delegate to others who excel in areas where you’re not as strong. Partnerships are essential for building a scalable business and living in alignment with what truly energizes you.

Key Takeaways:

• It’s easy to get lost in the daily grind and forget what truly energizes you—get back to connecting with people and sharing what you know.
• Activity does not equal productivity. Focus on the tasks that truly drive your business forward.
• Don’t follow others’ expectations for how your business should look. Create a model that works for you.
• The right person in the right seat is crucial for the success of any business.
• As a leader, it’s important to reevaluate your own role and ask if you're the best person for the seat you're in.

Resources Mentioned:

• Darren’s website: www.selfpublishn30days.com 
• Find Darren on social media: @selfpublishn30days
• If you’re ready to grow as a leader, join me for my free monthly leadership workshop at rockygarza.com/confidence

Key Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: The Unseen Struggles of Great Leaders

01:06 – Meet Darren Palmer: A Journey of Leadership

01:34 – The Importance of Authentic Connections

03:03 – Balancing Business and Personal Growth

05:00 – Identifying and Overcoming Obstacles

06:38 – The Right Person in the Right Seat

10:07 – Finding Purpose and Passion

18:40 – Conclusion: Embracing Your True Role

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today’s episode, we dive into part two of the human side of leadership with Angelee, who shares her journey of balancing her leadership role with vulnerability, self-doubt, and authenticity. As a leader in her business, she explores the challenges of showing up fully human, accepting both the strengths and weaknesses that come with it, and how emotional transparency can lead to greater connection and candor with others.

This conversation is packed with deep insights on leadership, personal growth, and understanding how to truly show up as yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable. We also get real about the struggles of people-pleasing and the desire to be seen as strong, and how those desires can sometimes conflict with being authentic.

About Angelee

Angelee is a Dallas local with a deep passion for intentional living, storytelling, and cultivating genuine connections. With a background spanning retail visual merchandising, marketing, and photo production, her career has always been rooted in creativity and collaboration. These days, she works closely with Le Social, a boutique creative and marketing agency, helping brands bring their vision to life through thoughtful strategy, impactful content, and client engagement. A lifelong hustler with a heart for creative communities, Angelee thrives at the intersection of artistry and entrepreneurship. Always energized by the opportunity to build something meaningful alongside fellow dreamers and doers.

Angelee's Leadership Journey: Showing Up as Yourself

I start the conversation by asking Angelee about a recent business venture she’s embarked on with a close friend. She reflects on the challenge of stepping into leadership, managing a team, and accepting the responsibility of guiding others. However, as an emotionally-driven, empathetic person, she finds it difficult to show up as a strong leader without fearing that her emotions might make her appear weak.

Angelee gets candid about her internal battle of wanting to be seen as strong, composed, and in control, but struggling with the reality of her emotions often spilling out in ways that feel beyond her control. She wonders whether showing emotion is a weakness in leadership, but also recognizes that it’s part of her authentic self.

The Battle of Being Strong vs. Being Real

I challenge Angelee with a simple question: What does it mean to be a strong leader? Angelee admits that for her, strength means having the ability to control her emotions, even when she feels overwhelmed or vulnerable. But as she reflects on her own experiences, she realizes that true strength in leadership might not lie in suppressing emotions, but rather in embracing them while staying grounded in the process.

I push her to think about whether this perception of strength is truly what makes a great leader or if it’s merely a self-imposed expectation. Angelee realizes that strength might look different for everyone, and for her, it’s about leading with vulnerability, knowing that it’s okay to not always have everything under control.

People-Pleasing and the Cost of Sacrifice

Angelee opens up about her history of people-pleasing tendencies and how they’ve shaped her as a leader. She talks about how she often finds herself doing things for others out of a desire to be loved and appreciated, which can sometimes lead her to sacrifice her own needs.

I help her distinguish between service and sacrifice, pointing out that sacrifice often comes from a place of needing validation, while service comes from a place of abundance and love. Angelee acknowledges that she often confuses the two and that this confusion impacts her ability to lead from a healthy, grounded place.

Desire for Individuality and the Fear of Losing Control

The conversation then turns to the idea of individuality in leadership. Angelee shares her internal struggle of wanting to stand out and be memorable, while also desiring to blend in with the group. She admits that she wants to be seen and appreciated for her uniqueness, but also wrestles with the fear of being too much or too different.

I encourage her to embrace her individuality without feeling that it takes away from others. I remind her that being memorable and unique doesn’t mean overshadowing others, and that leadership is about finding the balance between standing out and bringing others along.

Creating Safe Spaces and Setting Boundaries

As Angelee reflects on her leadership journey, she talks about the importance of creating safe spaces, both for herself and for her team. She shares how, over the years, she’s become more intentional about the people she surrounds herself with, focusing on relationships that are built on trust, respect, and emotional safety.

She recognizes that setting boundaries is crucial for protecting her own well-being and ensuring that she can show up fully without burning out. I remind her that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out, but rather about preserving what matters most so she can continue to serve others from a place of overflow.

The Power of Being Human and Vulnerable

One of the key themes in this conversation is the power of being human and vulnerable in leadership. We talk about how embracing vulnerability not only helps leaders connect with their teams but also allows for deeper, more authentic relationships. Angelee reflects on how, in the past, she’s avoided vulnerability because it felt like a weakness, but now she sees it as a strength that leads to greater candor and connection.

I emphasize that being human doesn’t mean being perfect. It means showing up with your full self, emotions and all, and allowing others to see you as you are. This kind of transparency creates an environment where others feel safe to do the same, which fosters trust and collaboration.

Resources Mentioned

• Angelee’s website: https://www.his-and-her.com/ 
• Follow Angelee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hisandher___ 
• Join my upcoming free LIVE leadership training at rockygarza.com/confidence

Key Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Unfinished Leadership

00:33 Meet Angelique: The Real Story Behind Leadership

01:15 The Emotional Journey of Leadership

02:52 The Struggle with Emotions in Leadership

04:26 The Importance of Being Genuine

07:11 Balancing Candor and Control

08:54 The Power of Human Connection

17:55 Reflecting on Personal Impact

21:35 Defining Service vs. Sacrifice

22:21 The Struggle with People Pleasing

24:08 Desire to Be Memorable

24:53 Balancing Individuality and Inclusion

27:03 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

28:26 Showing Up as Your True Self

32:16 The Power of Human Connection

42:19 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend, Angelee Fortuna, for a real and candid conversation about leadership, emotions, and the power of showing up as your true self. Over the years, Angelee has been an incredible example of leadership, not just through her achievements, but through her willingness to show vulnerability and authenticity.

We’re diving into how she balances being emotionally present and being a leader. We talk about people-pleasing, the struggle with finding your voice, and the power of being memorable without diminishing others. I also challenge Angelee to think about how she shows up fully in her life, both professionally and personally, and how to do that without feeling drained.

About Angelee

Angelee is a Dallas local with a deep passion for intentional living, storytelling, and cultivating genuine connections. With a background spanning retail visual merchandising, marketing, and photo production, her career has always been rooted in creativity and collaboration. These days, she works closely with Le Social, a boutique creative and marketing agency, helping brands bring their vision to life through thoughtful strategy, impactful content, and client engagement. A lifelong hustler with a heart for creative communities, Angelee thrives at the intersection of artistry and entrepreneurship. Always energized by the opportunity to build something meaningful alongside fellow dreamers and doers.

Angelee's Journey: Awareness and Impact

Angelee opens up about a conversation she had with her husband, Eddie, where he helped her realize the impact she has on those around her. Through their 20 years together, she’s learned how her words—both positive and negative—cut deep for people. She struggles with finding the balance between wanting to be understood while also not wanting to overwhelm others with her intensity.

Angelee reflects on this realization and how, for her, expressing herself honestly isn’t about being aggressive; it’s about being clear. This part of our conversation reveals how often we don’t realize the weight of our words until someone else brings it to our attention.

The Struggle with People Pleasing

A huge part of Angelee’s journey has been tackling her own people-pleasing tendencies. She admits that while she’s always eager to serve others, she’s also battling with the feeling that it’s often at the cost of sacrificing herself. We dig into the difference between sacrifice—losing yourself to gain approval—and service—giving freely from a place of overflow and love.

Angelee admits she struggles with this, and we both share how easy it is to confuse the two. It’s a conversation that’s so valuable because, in the pursuit of serving others, we often lose sight of our own needs.

Defining Service vs. Sacrifice

This conversation led us to a critical reflection on how we define sacrifice and service. Sacrifice, in this context, isn’t about selflessness—it’s about losing yourself to gain approval. On the other hand, service comes from a place of abundance and a desire to support others without depleting your own energy.

This shift in perspective has been an important lesson for both of us. We discuss how we’ve both, at times, sacrificed our own needs for others, and how, with growth, we’ve learned that service should come from a healthier, more sustainable place.

The Desire to Be Memorable

We dive deeper into Angelee’s personal desire to be memorable. But what does that truly mean? She recognizes that her instinct is to blend in, to be part of the group, but also feels the pull to stand out in a way that’s uniquely hers. She grapples with the idea of being memorable without taking away from others.

I challenge her with a tough question: Can you be memorable without overshadowing others? The answer is a resounding yes, and we talk about how embracing your individuality doesn’t need to be in conflict with others doing the same.

The Importance of Individuality

Angelee shares how, as she’s grown older, her circle has gotten smaller and more intentional. She reflects on how important it is for her to be surrounded by people who make her feel safe, accepted, and in control—not in the sense of dominance, but in the sense of emotional security.

It’s a beautiful reminder of how essential it is to surround ourselves with those who help us grow, while also allowing us to maintain a sense of safety and belonging.

Creating Safe Spaces and Boundaries

In this segment, we explore how creating safe spaces is critical for healthy leadership and personal relationships. We discuss boundaries—how they’re not just about keeping people out, but about creating room for the things we love to thrive.

I encourage Angelee to think about the boundaries she’s setting in her life, both personally and professionally, and how they enable her to serve from a place of overflow instead of depletion.

The Power of Human Connection

We dive into the concept of human connection and how showing up as your true self, with all the messy emotions and imperfections, can create deeper, more meaningful relationships. Angelee reflects on how showing up as “herself” allows others to feel more comfortable doing the same.

The vulnerability and authenticity that come with this approach lead to more real conversations, better leadership, and deeper trust.

Embracing Emotion in Leadership

Angelee has learned to embrace her emotions in leadership—understanding that they don’t make her weak, but rather make her relatable and human. We explore how allowing ourselves to show emotion as leaders actually strengthens our connection with those we lead, rather than diminishing it.

This was such a powerful part of the conversation because it’s often hard for leaders to admit that they are emotional beings, and yet, that’s exactly what makes us great leaders.

Show Up Fully

As we wrap up, I encourage Angelee to continue showing up as her full, authentic self. The more we lean into who we really are, the more we can give to others without depleting ourselves. And when we embrace the full range of emotions, we create an environment where others feel safe to do the same.

I’m so grateful to have had this conversation with Angelee. Her vulnerability and honesty are inspiring, and I know they’ll resonate with you too.

Resources Mentioned

• Angelee’s website: https://www.his-and-her.com/ 
• Follow Angelee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hisandher___ 
• Join my upcoming free LIVE leadership training at rockygarza.com/confidence

Key Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction: Unmasking Leadership

00:47 – Angelee's Journey: Awareness and Impact

03:12 – The Struggle with People Pleasing

03:41 – Defining Service vs. Sacrifice

06:08 – The Desire to Be Memorable

06:47 – The Importance of Individuality

08:37 – Creating Safe Spaces and Boundaries

10:30 – The Power of Human Connection

14:55 – Embracing Emotion in Leadership

25:12 – Conclusion: Show Up Fully

25:58 – Outro and Call to Action

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today’s episode, I want to talk about one of my favorite concepts around leadership, personal development, and life in general: tension. It’s a concept that I keep coming back to because, for me, it encapsulates so much of what we experience in our personal and professional journeys.

I’ve struggled for years with the idea of work-life balance. For some reason, the term “balance” never sat right with me. The idea of splitting life into neat 50/50 parts felt wrong, like I was trying to force something that wasn’t really natural. So, I started thinking, what if work-life balance isn’t the answer? What if it’s more about tension—living in the space where two things pull at each other and, in that space, we find clarity?

Exploring Work-Life Tension

When I think about tension, I realize it’s not just about work versus life, but about any part of our lives that feels like it’s pulling us in different directions. We’re constantly told we have to choose: Are you going to hustle and be successful, or are you going to rest and take care of yourself?

Why does it have to be either/or? Why can’t it be both? That’s when I started thinking about how tension might actually be the answer. The reality is that life isn’t a constant “either/or” situation. There’s a lot of gray area in between. It’s uncomfortable, but maybe it’s where the real growth happens.

Living in a World of Absolutes

We’re constantly fed with absolutes. It’s all around us: You’re either a Republican or a Democrat. You’re either a leader or a follower. You’re either successful or you’re not. It’s almost like society wants us to pick a side, and if we don’t, then we don’t belong anywhere.

But what if the truth isn’t in picking a side? What if the truth lies in living in that tension between both sides? Maybe it’s not about being right—it’s about being willing to sit in the discomfort of not knowing all the answers and letting both perspectives be true at the same time.

Embracing Discomfort and Growth

I’ve found that tension can actually be a great source of growth. I know it’s uncomfortable, but that tight feeling in your chest when you’re pulled in two directions—it’s a sign that something powerful is happening. We’re all used to trying to avoid discomfort, but what if that discomfort is exactly what we need to push ourselves to grow?

Life is both hard and beautiful. We can struggle and still find beauty in the struggle. We can experience pain and loss while also embracing joy. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

The Power of Vulnerability and Reconciliation

One of the best examples of this came for me recently with my kids. I lost my patience with them, and in that moment, I felt like I failed. I could have walked away, thinking, I’m a terrible parent, but instead, I chose to go back into their room, apologize, and ask for forgiveness.

I could let part of the story be true that I was impatient and frustrated. But what’s also true is that I showed up, took responsibility for my actions, and made amends. Both sides of that experience are valid. The tension doesn’t have to be negative—it’s just part of being human.

Balancing Confidence and Doubt

This is where I think the real power of tension comes in: learning how to balance confidence and doubt. We live in a world where we’re told we should either be confident or doubt everything, but in reality, I believe that both can exist simultaneously. It’s okay to be confident in what you believe and still hold space for uncertainty.

When I look at my life, I see both confidence and doubt working together, pushing me forward and keeping me grounded at the same time.

The Beauty of Holding Both Perspectives

There’s beauty in holding two perspectives at once. Life can be both difficult and rewarding. Leadership can be both about pushing forward and being vulnerable. Relationships can be both deeply fulfilling and challenging. The beauty lies in finding the balance between both—and allowing yourself to sit in the tension.

When we do that, we get a fuller picture of life. We get a deeper understanding of ourselves and those around us. And we get the clarity that comes from seeing things from multiple perspectives.

Conclusion 

So, here’s my challenge to you today: Where in your life are you feeling tension? Where could you allow both things to be true at the same time? What if the answer to your current challenge isn’t about picking one side but instead about embracing the discomfort of holding both truths together?

I want to encourage you to think about that and explore the tension in your life. What if, by sitting in that tension, you can open up to a fuller, more authentic version of yourself?

Resources Mentioned

• Join me for my upcoming leadership workshop at rockygarza.com/confidence
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rockygarza 

Key Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction to the Concept of Tension

00:45 – Exploring Work-Life Tension

01:24 – Living in a World of Absolutes

02:29 – Embracing Discomfort and Growth

04:13 – The Power of Vulnerability and Reconciliation

06:18 – Balancing Confidence and Doubt

07:45 – The Beauty of Holding Both Perspectives

08:40 – Conclusion and Invitation

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

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In this episode, I sit down with Charla Storey, an entrepreneur balancing multiple businesses, motherhood, and self-care. We dive into the raw, unresolved parts of leadership, discussing how to navigate uncertainty and redefine success. If something in this conversation resonates with you, stick around. At the end of the show, I’ll share how you can join our monthly leadership training.

Guest Introduction

Charla Storey is the CEO and founder of Charla Storey Photography, a luxury wedding photography team recognized among the top 50 photographers worldwide by Brides, Martha Stewart Weddings, and Over the Moon. As a wife and mother, she's built a global photography business over 13 years, traveling to capture celebrations worldwide while creating "effortlessly editorial photos that will still look damn good in 50 years."

What started as a single mom building a career has evolved into a dual-purpose mission. As co-owner and CEO of Develope Academy, Charla channels her passion for mentoring into comprehensive education for photographers. She helps fellow creatives develop both their technical skills and business acumen through practical, no-nonsense courses and a supportive community—proving you can scale expertise while staying grounded in authenticity.

Charla's work has been featured in Vogue, The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, and Good Morning America. But what she's most proud of? Helping photographers and couples alike feel confident, valued, and heard—whether she's behind the camera or in front of the microphone.

Key Takeaways

• Balancing Multiple Roles: It’s not about perfection; it’s about navigating the tension of juggling business and motherhood without turning yourself into the villain.
• Redefining Success: Success markers from the past may cloud your ability to see what a win looks like today.
• Living in Uncertainty: Real leadership involves living in uncertainty and redefining growth when things aren’t progressing as expected.
• Changing Connection in Business: The traditional ways of launching and marketing don’t hit the same anymore; connecting in new ways is essential for business growth.
• Action Over Certainty: You can’t chase certainty — you need to build momentum through action in the present moment to scale your business.
• The Business That Needs You: Sometimes, the business that needs your attention the most isn’t the one you want the most, and understanding this tension is key to prioritizing effectively.
• Perception vs. Reality: Leaders must check how they’re showing up in the world — perception rarely matches reality, and managing this discrepancy is crucial for long-term success.

Themes We Explored
Balancing Roles

• Running multiple businesses while raising toddlers and managing an adult child.
• The mental loops of feeling like a good parent but struggling as a CEO — or vice versa.
• Finding peace in knowing that sometimes less growth creates more space for life, which is essential for maintaining sustainable business growth.

Redefining Success

• Success can’t be solely tied to past benchmarks.
• The difference between chasing certainty and accepting hopeful action when scaling a business.
• Writing down today’s wins as a reminder that they count — especially when success is more about progress than perfection.

The Reality of Multiple Businesses

• The tug-of-war between businesses, where one often drains attention from another, is common when managing more than one venture.
• The insight that sometimes your “end game” and your “favorite game” aren’t the same, and recognizing this can help you make more strategic business decisions.

Key Quotes

“When all of them are struggling, it’s really hard not to look in the mirror and think — well, they have something in common. I wonder what that is.” — Charla Storey

“Sometimes how it feels feels true, even when it isn’t.” — Charla Storey

“Success right now is peace. It’s the certainty that my effort is building the long game.” — Charla Storey

“Certainty is not always possible — belief plus doubt plus action equals results.” — Rocky Garza

“You can hydrate to survive, not to perpetually hold more water.” — Rocky Garza

Resources Mentioned

• Charla’s websites: www.charlastorey.com and www.developeacademy.com 
• Charla’s social media handles: @charlastorey and @developeacademy
• Join my upcoming LIVE Leadership Training: rockygarza.com/confidence

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today's episode, I want to dive deep into something I find myself talking about with clients almost every week—catastrophizing. As leaders, we often face overwhelming challenges, stress, and uncertainty. And when we’re feeling overwhelmed, our instinct is to catastrophize even the smallest issues. It's natural. It feels like we’re doing everything we can to gain control, but often, we end up turning a molehill into a mountain.

I want to talk about this today because it's one of the most common traps I see high-achieving leaders fall into. It’s not just about stress; it’s about how we react to that stress. The stories we tell ourselves. And how often we spiral out of control in our heads, when the reality is far less dramatic than we think.

Turning Small Issues Into Major Problems

I often see leaders take something small, unintentional, or completely out of context, and blow it up. Here’s what I mean. Let's say someone misses a meeting. Immediately, you might think, That's it. They must not respect me. They probably hate me now. This is the end of our relationship.

Or how about receiving a vague email from your boss? The type that gives just enough information to feel unsettling. The immediate reaction is, That’s it. I’m getting fired. This is the end of my career. I knew it was all going to fall apart sooner or later.

What about receiving tough feedback? Maybe someone gives you constructive criticism, something they truly believe will help you grow. But instead of hearing it for what it is, you immediately think, That’s right. I’m not cut out for this. I knew I was a fake. I’m an imposter.

Does this sound familiar? It’s easy to get caught in these spirals of negative thoughts. But what I want you to think about is this: How often do we react to fear, rather than responding to the truth? How often do we create worst-case scenarios in our heads, only to realize that 90+% of the time, those scenarios don’t happen?

Reacting to Fear vs. Responding to Truth

Let’s be real for a moment. We all react to fear at times. But my question is: How often do we let that reaction dictate our behavior? How often do we find ourselves chasing the chaos, trying to prepare for every worst-case scenario, rather than just responding to what’s true right now?

If you’ve ever catastrophized a situation, think about the last time you did. Maybe it was something small that snowballed into a huge mental hurdle. Maybe you made it bigger in your head than it really was. And by doing so, you burned through emotional fuel on imaginary fires. We all do it, and it’s exhausting.

What if we could step back in those moments? What if we could pause for just a second and say, Wait, what do I actually know to be true right now? What if we didn’t allow ourselves to jump straight into worst-case thinking and instead, we stayed grounded in what’s real?

The Power of Clarity Over Chaos

I think a lot of us mistakenly believe that thinking about every potential negative outcome will help us prepare. But in reality, it’s just adding more chaos into our lives. We’re not planning for what we actually want. Instead, we’re planning for what we fear might happen. And that’s not the same thing.

What happens when we shift from chaos to clarity? What happens when we start focusing on what we truly want instead of obsessing over what could go wrong? You might be surprised to learn that planning for the worst case scenario can often feel more like self-sabotage than it does preparation.

Letting Go of Control

I also want to touch on something I’ve noticed in my own life—this tendency to sabotage success just to maintain control. For years, I’ve moved when things got comfortable. I’d start something new, try something different, just to avoid staying in the same place. But here’s the thing: Just because something could go wrong doesn’t mean that it will. And we’re not doing ourselves any favors by expecting the worst.

Instead, we need to ask ourselves: What do I actually know to be true right now? Not in six months, not in a year, but in this moment. That’s the only place where we can begin to respond with intention.

The Drama of Self-Sabotage

The drama is easier than the honesty. Sometimes, it’s simpler to focus on chaos and the potential for failure than it is to just accept that things are okay in the present. And trust me, I know this because I’ve lived it. As leaders, we want to control everything. But what if letting go of control was the answer?

What if the key to truly growing your business, your leadership, and your personal life was simply to stop creating problems that don’t exist? What if you could stop reacting to fear and start responding to what’s real and true?

Practical Steps to Move Forward

Next time you feel yourself spiraling, I want you to ask yourself, What do I actually know to be true today? Not tomorrow, not six months from now. What’s real right now?

Because we often waste so much energy on hypothetical scenarios that we miss out on the present. We miss out on what’s actually happening today. And that’s where our true power lies.

If you’re ready to start shifting from chaos to clarity, I encourage you to join me for my upcoming leadership training. We’ll dive deeper into how to stay grounded in what’s true and how to stop letting fear and self-doubt dictate your leadership. You can sign up at rockygarza.com/confidence.

Resources Mentioned:

• Join my upcoming free LIVE Leadership Workshop: https://rockygarza.com/confidence

Key Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: The Common Leadership Struggle

00:34 Understanding Catastrophizing

00:53 Real-Life Examples of Catastrophizing

01:32 The Impact of Catastrophizing on Leadership

03:04 Shifting from Fear to Truth

04:10 Planning vs. Self-Sabotage

05:04 Breaking the Cycle of Drama

06:11 Practical Steps to Overcome Catastrophizing

07:18 Conclusion and Invitation

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/trgs/donations

In today’s episode, I sit down with my incredible friend Adriana Martinez—an entrepreneur and a wife who has built and run successful businesses. What makes Adriana’s story so powerful is not just her business acumen, but the deep, personal transformation she’s gone through in her journey as a leader. She’s someone who leads with both heart and mind, and in this episode, we dive deep into the real struggles, the lessons learned, and the challenges of leadership that don’t often get talked about.

About Adriana 

Adriana is the owner of Revel Workshop, a luxury salon focused on elevating stylists careers through top tier education and mentorship. As a personal and professional budgeting coach, she helps individuals and small business owners take control of their finances and build sustainable success. Passionate about connecting people and fostering growth, Adriana thrives on empowering others to achieve financial freedom and business excellence.

The Constant Battle of Leadership

Adriana and I discussed how, in her journey as a business owner, she’s learned the hard way that success is not just about achieving a goal—it’s about navigating relationships. She runs two salons now, but no longer takes clients herself. Instead, she depends on the team she’s built. And as any entrepreneur knows, that reliance on others can be terrifying.

Adriana explained that her success is directly tied to the success of those around her. If an employee leaves, it sends a ripple effect through her business, and it’s hard not to take it personally. She wants the best for her team, but at the same time, she can’t help but feel disappointed and question her role as a leader when someone walks away.

The Struggle with Loyalty and Abandonment

One of the most real and raw moments came when Adriana admitted her fear of abandonment—something that I think many business owners can relate to. She’s fiercely loyal, and she wants to offer the same loyalty in return. But when someone leaves, it can feel like a personal betrayal.

This led us into a powerful conversation about capacity—both the capacity of those who work with you and the capacity of yourself as a leader. I asked her the tough question: Do you really expect everyone to match your capacity?

Her answer was insightful: Not necessarily, but it’s hard to see them leave because it feels like failure.

I reminded her that no one else will ever be able to match her level of commitment and capacity, especially if they are not in the same business-owner role. And the difference between what she expects and what others can deliver is where the disappointment lies.

The Hard Truth of Leadership: Not Everyone Stays

Adriana shared that she knows logically that employees leave because it’s time for them to grow, and that they are not abandoning her. But the emotional side of her—fueled by that deep sense of loyalty—makes it feel like a personal loss.

We both agreed that this is an inherent part of business ownership. You pour so much into people, and when they leave, it can feel like everything you’ve built is crumbling. But the reality is, it’s just part of the process. People come, people go. As leaders, we must embrace this as part of the natural flow of growth.

The Importance of Words of Affirmation

One of the key moments in our conversation was when Adriana admitted something that she had long avoided—she is, in fact, a words of affirmation person. As much as she resisted it, I could tell that hearing those words of appreciation made a difference for her. She shared how she does everything for people, often with no expectation of recognition, but deep down, she craves acknowledgment.

I pointed out that we often mistake confirmation for affirmation. Confirmation simply states that something is true—like a ticket for a flight. It’s factual, impersonal. Affirmation, on the other hand, acknowledges the goodness of what we do and who we are. It’s not about fluff—it’s about recognizing effort, commitment, and value. Adriana hadn’t fully embraced that she needs affirmation too, but the more we unpacked this, the clearer it became.

Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability

One of the things I admire most about Adriana is her ability to create safety for others. She may not always want or seek affirmation, but she unknowingly creates a space where her team and clients feel safe to share, grow, and even leave when the time is right. That safety comes from trust, and I encouraged her to allow herself to experience the same kind of trust in return.

Leaders often think they have to protect themselves from getting hurt, but what if we created spaces where we could allow ourselves to be seen and affirmed too?

Letting Go of Control

Adriana also shared her internal battle with letting go of control. For a long time, she thought that to keep things running smoothly, she needed to handle it all herself. She resisted relying on others. But through the years, she’s realized that leadership doesn’t mean doing everything yourself. It means trusting others, and embracing the idea that not everyone will stay forever, and that’s okay.

I encouraged her to celebrate the contributions of her team, and to reframe the way she looks at people leaving. Rather than feeling abandoned, what if she saw it as the natural progression of their growth? They are moving on to the next phase of their life, and her role was to help them get there.

The Takeaway: Safe Spaces and Growth

The most powerful lesson in this episode? We need to start seeing ourselves for who we are and what we’re doing. We need to recognize that, as leaders, we are not just responsible for the success of our business—we’re also responsible for creating environments that allow people to thrive, grow, and sometimes move on.

Adriana’s story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, clarity, and affirmation. As leaders, we must be open to receiving those things just as much as we offer them.

Resources Mentioned

• Join my free leadership workshop: https://rockygarza.com/confidence 
• Follow Adriana on Instagram: @adrianaymartinez
• Adriana’s website: https://revelworkshop.com

Key Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Unfinished Leadership

00:39 Adriana Martinez's Journey and Challenges

01:27 The Struggles of Relying on Others

02:47 Balancing Personal and Professional Relationships

04:34 The Emotional Impact of Employee Turnover

09:02 Seeking Affirmation and Appreciation

17:24 Creating a Safe and Loyal Work Environment

19:01 Navigating Business Challenges

20:25 Reframing Employee Departures

21:26 Creating a Supportive Culture

22:36 Balancing Vulnerability and Strength

24:38 The Importance of Affirmation

25:36 Building Trust and Safety

27:14 Embracing Words of Affirmation

34:36 Final Reflections and Encouragement

To join Rocky for his next free virtual event, go to https://rockygarza.com/beyondsuccess

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