The Ruby Hour

In this episode, we talk shop around the biggest fetish Shelby just found out about (this is a must-listen pro tip, ladies looking for a man), our recent brainchild collaboration "Fragile," do-overs from Jenny's time spent with her mom, the origins of the Bad Girls Club, and horror movies--the last place you'd expect to find epic music playlists. The queen of dance, Chief Mad Scientist herself Jenny Broe -- founder of Dance Lab Charleston comes on the show today, and we discuss starting a safe place for women to express their sexuality, Shelby's failed attempts at doing "the worm" at The Bad Girls Club auditions, and much, much more.

To BOOK one of the badass classes at Dance Lab - visit https://www.dancelabcharleston.com. 

To watch our recent creative collaboration music video, "Fragile" - depicting the woman entrepreneur's journey through COVID-19, visit https://www.rubyriotcreatives.com/fragile. 

To take a look at recent class recaps at Dance Lab or see when the Bad Girl Club auditions are -- check out https://www.instagram.com/dancelab_843 and see the deets on the SICKEST dance crew around -- The Bad Girls Club over at https://www.badgirlsclubcharleston.com/. 

Being raised on "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" to Kris Vallotton's "Purity: The New Moral Revolution," -- here's my story as a Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry graduate of the damaging effects of young and impressionable teens (both young men and women) following reckless dogma, growing up in cult evangelical purity culture, getting married as a virgin, and the moral betrayal against myself in purity culture. This podcast is a MUST-LISTEN if you want to learn about the damage purity culture does, have a loved one (or daughter) who grew up in this radical evangelical Christian phase in the 2000s, and how to escape it!

If you're fed up with purity culture damage, have someone you care about who's referenced Purity Culture, or are recognizing the damaging effects of purity culture in your life, then you need to listen to this podcast!

This episode is part of our limited series sound-scored intimate short-story sessions for this season of The Ruby Hour.

To see the visual story of this episode, and reflect on the journaling prompts and questions that accompany this episode, access the video podcast extras here: https://www.rubyriotcreatives.com/blog/mom-life-first-love-moral-betrayal

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Season 2 Overview: Season 2: Stories around the inner workings of spirituality, emotional resilience, and sexuality and self-image in times of uncertainty and unknown.

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For the family I mention in this episode, you know who you are, I love you, thank you for the beauty you've added to my life.

This episode was recorded and produced in our dear friends' Davíd's AirBnB tree-top getaway in West Asheville -- if you're looking for an amazing mountain getaway - check out their sweet mountain hideaway: https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/8362668 

Do you work late hours working in the hospitality industry and feel totally drained the next day? Well, we’ve got our girl Rachel Starling here with us today to talk all about that. This main chick knows all about the world of hospitality, from becoming a pro at talking with clients to working those brutal late hours.

In this episode, Rachel talks about:

• knowing how to speak to clients

Rachel Starling On The Ruby Hour Show Notes

30:00 Who is Rachel Starling?

1:55 How Rachel got involved in the world of hospitality

10:30 How to be an introvert in a leadership role

13:07 Rachel’s secret super power

16:09 How to have productive and energetic conversations with clients

18:11 Having thick skin in the hospitality industry

24:54 Rachel’s message to the world

27:12 How to not let working late hours affect your mental health

31:07 What Rachel does for fun

33:40 Why doing things solo can be the best gift you ever gave yourself

35:56 Why Shelby can’t run in downtown Charleston

Visit Rachel at Parcel 32, and check out the restaurant at https://parcel32.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/parcel32/?hl=en

Have you ever thought your dog was an absolute maniac? Well, maybe it's not your dog after all.

Shannon Wooten is a world-renown hunting dog trainer, based out of Camden, SC. Her and her husband have taught me numerable lessons about working with dogs and myself. She will literally blow your mind with things you think you’re doing right by your dog…but actually you’d be surprised.

In today’s episode, we talk about:

• practical ways you can change your home life with your dog

Shannon Wooten On The Ruby Hour Show Notes:

00:50 Meet Shannon Wooten!

2:12 Getting started with Palmetto Gun Dogs

6:26 Everything you’re doing wrong with dogs that you think is right

13:35 Enabling certain behaviors in your life

15:30 Is your dog a maniac? The one thing you might not be considering

20:10 Every dog has a purpose

23:35 Projecting negative energy onto your dog

25:38 There’s more than meets the eye: Creative ways to bond with your pup while living in a city

26:23 The impact Shannon and her team have on clients

27:40 Redneck yoga

29:20 Balancing work life when work is literally living at your home

31:52 Calling people on their dog $#!t

32:47 Implementing daily repetition in your dog’s life

41:05 Recognizing differences in breeds

41:30 How to train your puppy

47:19 Why it’s really not cute when dogs jump on you

Get in touch with Shannon and check out Palmetto Gun dogs on Facebook at @palmettogundogs and on Instagram at @palmettogundogs !

Do you hate social media most days? We’ve all been there, trust me. We judge ourselves and our lives constantly by looking at what we THINK people’s lives are like.

We’ve got another cat herder in the house today; the amaazzinngg Sunny Dublick is here to talk marketing! This cat’s got all the experience in dealing with not knowing what the heck she wanted to do as a career, and now she’s freaking crushing it by owning her own business!

In this episode, Sunny talks about:

• the perks of being your own boss

Sunny Dublick On The Ruby Hour Show Notes:

00:39 Meet Sunny Dublick!

1:20 Starting out in the marketing world

5:14 Working a flexible job

7:47 How Sunny balances her solopreneur work life and her personal life

12:03 How to come to terms with saying no to clients or projects

14:59 Sunny’s favorite form of self care

20:49 Social media shifts in today’s society

24:00 What people are actually looking for on social media

28:42 JOMO: Joy Of Missing Out…and taking care of yourself

41:30 Imposter syndrome: Who do you think you are?

43:40 Putting priorities on the back burner

50:20 Asking for help from professionals is not embarrassing

Check out Sunny's site and get to know her more at sunnydublick.com and @sdublickmarketing on Facebook!

We took a trip down memory lane with our good friend and wedding photographer Sol Basconcillo. This guy is literally the bomb, and we’re super excited to share some nuggets of his wisdom today with you!

In this episode, Sol takes photography to the next level by:

• advising photographers who are just getting started in the industry

Sol Basconcillo On The Ruby Hour Show Notes

0:43 Meet Sol!

1:40 Getting started in photography

4:23 How to transition into photographing weddings and events

5:20 Advice to couples evaluating their big day

6:46 Pro tips for photographers/videographers to stay alive on long shoot days

9:58 Who is Sol beyond the camera?

11:32 How to manage your business as a solo entrepreneur

13:21 Balancing work and family time

16:00 Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

19:08 Sol’s past life

22:55 Advice to couples who aren’t exactly camera hogs

25:16 The importance of "taking five” on your wedding day

35:44 Sol’s philosophy in energy positivity

40:21 Shifting in your business

43:08 Sol’s favorite Charleston venues

45:55 How to delegate funds for what you really want on your wedding day

Check out Sol and his portfolio at https://sol.photography/ and @solography on Instagram!

Are you an introvert finding yourself in an extroverted role in your job? This episode is for you! Erica Peper, founder of Peper Events, shares her journey on how to rock a luxury wedding planning service here in Charleston as an introvert.

In this episode, Erica shares:

• moving across the country

Erica Peper On The Ruby Hour Show Notes:

1:02 Meet Erica Peper!

4:15 What herding kindergarteners and groomsmen have in common

5:30 Being an introvert in an extroverted job position

7:10 How to get your energy back after a draining work event

8:01 How to generate additional business from a “One Hit Wonder” industry

13:03 The real cost of going with “a good deal” instead of trusting your gut

15:55 The power of working with your squad

17:15 How to spread your baby-bird wings when you’re a grown-ass adult

18:58 How to not pay people to be your friends when you’re twenty-something

21:48 How to create an inclusive, collaborative community with partners in your industry

26:28 How to deliver exceptional service when shit hits the fan

33:13 Advice to couples when having sticky conversations about budget and family involvement

35:29 How to wheel and deal to get exactly what you want on your wedding day

39:53 Erica’s number one regret on her wedding day

41:00 That time Shelby gunned down all her bridesmaids

Visit Erica's website and check her out at http://peperevents.com/services/

Have you ever experienced physical pain from something that has emotionally hurt you? I think we can all say yes to that one. Today, we’ve brought in massage therapist Mark Foil. We have experienced his amazing work at first hand and can truly testify to this massage guru’s words.

In this episode, we dig deep into:

• how emotional trauma can trigger certain parts of our bodies

Mark Foil On The Ruby Hour Show Notes

00:46 Meet Mark Foil

2:00 Origin of becoming a massage therapist

7:14 Recognizing the energy and tension of a patient’s body

11:13 How emotional trauma can physically affect your body

15:12 How Mark decompresses after a long day of taking care of other people

18:24 Energy forcefield

22:50 Energetically traveling back in time with clients

27:45 Mark’s dream client

33:49 Mark’s cold-blooded patient

42:16 How Mark enjoys winding down from a long day

43:47 The secret life of Mark

47:54 Balancing energy for self-care

Contact Mark Foil at [email protected] to book an appointment with him!

Ever wondered what goes on behind DJ booths? We’re breaking it down *wink wink* with David Fox who shares his DJ experience at weddings and behind the scenes. We take it way back with our friend David and may even get a little off-topic…multiple times.

In this episode, David talks about:

       -the secrets to becoming the best DJ

       -why being a good MC is so important

       -and the inappropriate middle school trickery that got him to where he is today

David Fox On The Ruby Hour Show Notes

00:45 - Meet David Fox

1:47 - Origin of becoming a DJ?

5:00 - How to find legit employees that match your company

8:00 - If looks could kill: The secret to making a fantastic impression with your clients

11:55 - How to get comfortable using a microphone

17:03 - Shelby’s lav mic nightmare

20:23 - David’s videographer horror stories

26:40 - How to make David uncomfortable

32:33 - David’s three movies he’d take on a desert island

34:36 - Lord of the rings impressions and such

36:40 - David’s craziest nature story

37:20 - Boydholes

40:20 - Would you rather

42:17 - What DJs go through on wedding days

46:45 - A walk down David’s middle school memory lane

49:08 - The flasher

49:30 - David’s spirit animal

Visit the BunnDJ website and check them out at https://bunndjcompany.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/bunndjchs/?hl=en

If you’ve ever been in a role of leadership, yet haaaaate confrontation — this episode is for you. In today’s episode, we talk with Haley Kelly — mama of 2 little ones, and one of the most brilliant and soulful power-house planners here in our city. 

If you’ve ever wondered how to maneuver:

• scaling your business while balancing your home life and friendships,

You’re gonna wanna jump in this episode.

Listen now!

Haley Kelly On The Ruby Hour Show Notes:

00:38 Who is Haley Kelly?

1:40 How did you get to where you are today?

3:50 How to balance being a mom and a business owner

7:55 Working your way from the ground up

10:21 Working as a full-service wedding planner

12:21 Haley Kelly’s mantra to live by

13:55 Haley Kelly’s happy place

15:22 What the heck is a babymoon?

16:08 How to be assertive while hating conflict?

20:36 Haley Kelly’s lady squad

23:30 How to launch and scale a wedding planning business

27:12 How to stay relevant on social media

29:00 Best advice for a couple planning a wedding

31:08 How do you like to unwind?

32:14 Behind the scenes wedding stories

35:23 Haley Kelly’s wedding day

37:38 Wedding venues in Charleston, SC

40:27 Tips for handling family involvement in your wedding plan