Most of us were taught to override what we feel and put everyone else’s comfort first.
We learned to hug people we didn’t want to hug.
To sit next to people who made us uncomfortable.
To keep quiet so no one else had to feel awkward.
And sometimes, without even realizing it we turn around and do the same thing to the people we love.
We pressure our kids to “be polite.”
We push someone to stay when they want to leave.
We need others to keep the peace so we can feel okay.
In this episode, we’ll talk about both sides of this dynamic the one who’s been hurt, and the one who’s been hurting. You’ll learn how to name what feels bad, create a simple plan to protect yourself, and start practicing what to say. And you’ll also learn how to notice when you’re overriding others and what to do instead. You’ll walk away with words for what you’ve been feeling, and steps to help you stay with yourself while letting others do the same.
🎧 Listen now and join me next week for Part 2, where we’ll talk about how to handle the pushback when you finally start advocating for yourself.
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