Psychotherapist, author, and parenting expert Katie Hurley has spent her career helping
children and families navigate a world that can feel increasingly anxious, demanding, and
disconnected. Her work challenges the idea that today’s youth mental health crisis has a single
cause, pointing instead to a childhood reshaped by less free play, greater academic pressure,
technology, social isolation, and a culture increasingly organized around achievement.
In this episode of Fatherhood, Gordon LaForge—host of the series and a writer and policy
thinker exploring the forces shaping families, communities, and the lives of young people—sits
down with Hurley to ask a fundamental question: What do children actually need from the
adults raising them? They explore the importance of play, boredom, failure, and conflict; why
building distress tolerance matters more than solving every problem; and how parents can help
children develop healthier relationships with technology.
The conversation also takes a deeper look at boys and young men, an area Hurley has explored
extensively in her writing and clinical work. At a time when many boys are struggling with
loneliness, emotional expression, belonging, and narrow ideas about masculinity, Hurley makes
the case for giving boys permission to be vulnerable, ask for help, form meaningful
relationships, and develop a fuller emotional vocabulary. Rather than shielding children from
difficulty, she argues for giving them the experiences, relationships, and support they need to
meet difficulty with confidence.
At its heart, this is a conversation about resilience as something we build, not something we
simply possess. It is about giving children the freedom to be children while helping them
develop the confidence, emotional strength, and sense of connection to navigate a complicated
world—and, ultimately, to become the adults we hope they will be.