Why I’m Letting Go of Every Negative Thought This Month

In this bonus episode, I talk about what triggered today’s mindset shift, why fear keeps showing up when we’re leveling up, and how editing out negativity can completely reset your energy before 2026.

I talk about what fear is teaching me right now, why I’m doubling down on my goals for 2026, and how our words shape our energy more than we realize.

I share the Q4 challenge I’ve been doing, the real reason I tag Dear Media every day, and why I believe tracking negativity for the next 30 days could change everything.

What You'll Hear:

• how negativity drains your momentum and energy
• why acknowledging fear can move your life forward
• how to map out goals with actual action steps
• why tracking negativity for 30 days shifts your subconscious
• how to release old energy before the new year

I’m hosting a YouTube live on December 30th at 5pm MST — a collective reset to release the negativity before 2026.

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This episode is for anyone who’s ready to let go of old stories, clear out the negativity they’ve been carrying, and step into 2026 with stronger energy, clearer goals, and a grounded plan for personal change.

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This week’s solo episode lands on Thanksgiving, and honestly, I’m feeling exceptionally grateful.

The Scarlet Edit has now reached listeners in 52 countries, which blows my mind. Australia, Canada… you’re showing up big, and I appreciate it more than you know.

In this episode, I break down a recent Vogue opinion piece asking a pretty wild question: “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?”

As a 47-year-old single woman who has been married, divorced, partnered, and in a very bad situationship… I have thoughts. A lot of them.

Together we explore:

• Why calling relationships an “achievement” is bizarre — and honestly a little sad
• How our experiences, environment, wants, and needs shape our perceptions (and why that matters)
• The pressure women feel to be hyper-independent — and why wanting a boyfriend doesn’t cancel out your strength
• The difference between wanting a partner and needing one
• Why you’re already whole, even if you’re single
• How social media distorts relationship narratives (engagement → wedding → baby… you know the drill)
• Why joy shouldn’t be hidden just because dating feels impossible right now
• And what it actually means to welcome someone into a life you’ve built on your own terms

By the end, I circle back to one simple truth:

Wanting a relationship doesn’t make you less independent — and being single doesn’t make you less whole.

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Happy Thanksgiving. I’m so grateful for you!

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In this episode of The Scarlet Edit, I sit down with Melise — a woman whose words hit you straight in the gut in the best possible way. Her TikTok about watching a family by the pool went viral… but it’s her story behind that moment that matters even more.

We talk about the slow unraveling of an eight-year relationship with a covert narcissist, the difference between “earning love” and believing you're worthy of it, and the moment she chose to reclaim her life. This conversation covers abuse, self-worth, the power of feminine energy, and what it looks like to rebuild from the inside out.

In this episode, we get into:

• The poolside moment that woke something up inside her
• Why she used the word “earn” — and what she now sees differently
• Life with a covert narcissist and how subtle manipulation works
• The cycle of love bombing, withholding, and self-betrayal
• The moment she knew she had to leave (and why it wasn’t clean or instant)
• How speaking her truth on TikTok became the catalyst for healing
• Reclaiming femininity after years of abuse
• Why purpose shows up the moment you choose yourself
• Her next chapter: stepping into makeup artistry and never serving from lack again

If you're navigating narcissistic abuse, rebuilding your identity, or rediscovering your feminine power — you’re not alone. You are not defined by your past choices.

If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support.

Want more conversations on affairs, toxic relationships, choosing yourself, and rewriting your story?

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🌐 https://www.tiktok.com/@.melsi.e

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Welcome to a very unplanned solo episode where I tried to record something polished and instead… well… this happened.

Today I’m coming to you from my brand-new studio!! Dog hair, moving chaos, missing flowers, fake plants I keep thinking are dying (??), and all. I upgraded everything: new desk, new lighting, a mic flag that makes me feel like a news anchor, and wallpaper in my exact brand hex code. Yes, I’m that person now.

This episode is one long stream of consciousness — part studio tour, part interior design commentary, part “am I actually looking into the camera right now?” tech experiment, part manifestation of Dear Media noticing me. Spoiler: I’m still determined.

It’s messy. It’s funny. It’s very me.

And honestly? I’m proud of it.

Inside this episode I get into:

• Why peel-and-stick wallpaper is a lie
• My continuing relationship with dog hair
• The neighbor who accidentally gave me free nightstands
• My belief that I will end up on Dear Media
• Designing a studio that finally feels like home
• The joy of recording with an iPhone + a dream

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In this episode, I’m joined by relationship and self-love coach Christina Ketchen for an honest and nuanced conversation about infidelity; what drives it, what it reveals, and how it changes us.

We unpack how core wounds — our earliest needs to be seen, heard, loved, and safe — can lead us to repeat familiar emotional patterns in love. Christina shares her experience coaching hundreds of people through divorce and betrayal, while I reflect on my own story of being the other woman and what it taught me about self-worth.

We explore:

• Why most affairs don’t begin with bad intentions
• The three roles in infidelity and how each carries its own grief
• How shame and self-forgiveness intertwine
• What limerence really is — and why it feels so intoxicating
• The difference between setting boundaries and enforcing them
• Why we’re sometimes comfortable in sadness and chaos

This episode is about compassion, not judgment, and about reclaiming your self-worth no matter what role you’ve played in love.

If this episode resonates:

Listen next:

• I Had to Walk Away: Ending a Long-Term Affair
• I Had an Affair: How it Feels to Tell the World You Were the Other Woman
• The Truth About Affairs: Sexless Marriages, Emotional Validation, and Modern Love

And don’t forget to follow, rate, and share The Scarlet Edit, where we face the stories we’re not supposed to talk about, and rewrite them together.

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When Julie Barth’s husband died of pancreatic cancer, she was left with four children and a heart still trying to make sense of loss.

In her grief, she met a man who promised comfort, protection, and a fresh start. Instead, he isolated her, manipulated her, and tore down every piece of confidence she had left.

In this raw conversation, Julie shares what it’s like to fall into the hands of a narcissist while still grieving — the quiet erosion of self-trust, the slow isolation from family, the shame, the gaslighting, and the moment she finally decided to break free.

You’ll hear how emotional and financial abuse often disguise themselves as “love,” why intelligent women can still fall into toxic dynamics, and what it takes to rebuild after being completely broken down. Julie’s story isn’t just about survival — it’s about rebirth.

Today, she’s channeling her pain into purpose through her nonprofit work, helping other women facing crisis, caregiving burnout, or economic abuse find real, practical support. Her message is clear: you can lose everything and still come back stronger.

If you’ve ever questioned how you ended up in a relationship that dimmed your light — or if you’re finding your way out — this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and you are absolutely capable of rebuilding your life on your own terms.

Julie’s Website & Art for Charity: juliebarthauthor.com

National Domestic Violence Hotline: thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-SAFE

Support Services for Financial Abuse: nnedv.org

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What if your relationship ran like a successful business?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Robin Buckley, executive coach, psychologist, and author of Marriage Incorporated: The Boardroom Blueprint to a Lasting Love. We talk about how applying strategic, business-minded frameworks to your marriage or relationship can actually deepen connection, improve communication, and prevent the kind of emotional burnout that leads to divorce.

Dr. Robin shares her Ideal Companion Avatar (ICA) concept for intentional dating, her 5-minute daily and weekly check-ins that keep couples connected, and her ABCZ List for rebuilding intimacy. We also get into love languages, how to have uncomfortable conversations early, and why structure doesn’t kill romance — it gives it space to thrive.

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep love strong without losing yourself (or your sanity), this conversation is a must-listen.

🎧 Topics we cover:

• How to treat your marriage like a CEO would
• The power of check-ins and quarterly “relationship retreats”
• Creating your Ideal Companion Avatar for dating
• Love languages, intimacy, and communication after divorce
• When therapy helps vs. when coaching works better

Guest Info.

🌐 https://drrobinbuckley.com/

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I just moved to Arizona, I’m building my home studio, and it feels like the start of something big. After fifteen months of traveling the world, I was ready to unpack my life, ground myself, and bring new energy to The Scarlet Edit.

In this solo episode, I talk about what it means to create space — physically and emotionally — for the next chapter. I share memories from past relationships, what I’ve learned about self-worth, and how an old conversation reminded me that sometimes growth comes from the moments we least expect.

If you’ve ever looked back at who you were and realized you finally like where you’ve landed, this one’s for you.

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This week, I was joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There, Got Out — a domestic violence advocate and high-conflict divorce strategist who survived 20 years of narcissistic abuse.

Lisa’s story goes far beyond heartbreak. She exposes how coercive control operates behind closed doors, how manipulation hides in plain sight, and what it takes to rebuild your life after escaping a narcissist.

From self-representation in court to changing Connecticut law, Lisa’s courage has helped thousands of survivors take back their power.

If you’ve ever doubted your strength or wondered how to start over after abuse, this episode will remind you that healing is not only possible, it’s your birthright.

If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support.

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🌐 https://beentheregotout.com/

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100 episodes. Countless stories. One powerful evolution.

In this special milestone episode, I look back at the journey that started with Round Two and led to The Scarlet Edit — from launching my very first show, to finding my voice, to building a platform where no story is off-limits. I share the lessons I’ve learned about storytelling, self-trust, and showing up authentically, even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever dreamed of starting a podcast, pivoting your story, or simply hearing the truth about what it takes to create something that matters, this one’s for you.

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