Self-care is extremely important for anyone working to support someone through their mental health journey. I'm quite fond of the analogy of a plane crash where, in order to help others, you must first put on your own oxygen mask.

This concept underlies all of my self-care tips for those who find themselves on the end of working diligently to prevent a suicide attempt. You can read a version of this content here: http://wp.me/p6ZIkM-vW

The Suicide Prevention Lifeline, there is a chat and a number to call: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

The wonderful woman I mentioned in the video, I think you all would like her book, "Beyond the Darkness" - here is an interview she has done so you can see what she is about: http://horizonselfdiscovery.com/interview-angie-fenimore/ Her website can be found here: http://www.angiefenimore.com/

SafeTALK Training: https://www.livingworks.net/training-and-trainers/find-a-training-workshop/

Dear listener,

Please be advised this podcast episode is adapted from a YouTube video I put out in September of 2017. As such, it does not have my normal verbal opening or close and there is reference to the fact that it is a video. I don't know why, but I felt a pull to use this audio from the YouTube channel this week. I hope it is helpful. 

Rebecca Lemke 

In this groundbreaking episode, Rebecca Lemke interviews Justin Megna about a topic no one else has touched: the "Counter Purity Movement." The Counter Purity Movement is a phrase they have coined for the scorched-earth social landscape some trod following purity culture, which includes outright hedonism, abuse within recovery communities, and versions of Christianity manipulated to be more sexually permissive.

Justin and Rebecca discuss purity culture, the Counter Purity Movement, and some of the ways in which these cultures are two sides of the same coin. They talk about their own - sometimes painful - journeys in finding their way to a healthy, holistic approach to life, love, and Christianity. They are in complete agreement that Jesus Christ should our all-in-all and any path that leads away from him, whether hyper-legalistic or licentious, should be rejected. 

Justin Megna is the creator of thatcrazychristianromance.com, a blog dedicated to sharing biblical wisdom for romantic relationships. Justin teaches a discipleship-based approach to romantic relationships that defies both legalism and licentiousness in romance. He completed a BA in Pastoral Ministry at University of Valley Forge.

Follow Justin on Twitter at @JustinMegna.

If you've been raised in purity culture, sex can be incredibly frustrating and you may be tempted to fake an orgasm to make your spouse happy...but don't!

In this episode of The Scarlet Virgins Podcast, Rebecca discusses why it isn't a good idea to "fake it" in your sexual relationship with your spouse.

Purity culture often reinforces frigid behaviors that already are impressed upon women when it comes to sex. This leads many spouses to confusion and sexual frustration.

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca offers 10 Tips for Dealing with a Sexually Frigid Spouse. 

For folks who are recovering from childhood abuses (legalism, physical abuse, cults, etc), recovery groups seem like a good resource for recovery. But are some recovery groups worse for you than the thing you were originally recovering from (or at least compounding the trauma)? Kicking wounded people while they are down?

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca shares her thoughts on why we need to use discernment when it comes to these kinds of communities.

In this episode, recorded live in California at Professor Mallinson's home, Rebecca interviews the author of the book "Sexy" about finding erotic virtue in perplexing times.

Among the things discussed: the "sin of Onan," Prostitution, Sexual Assault, Victim Blaming, Hollywood, and Christian Sexual Ethics.

I think you guys are really going to love this interview with Jeff! If you'd like to hear more from him check out his work on virtueinthewasteland.com, and look up his book "Sexy" on Amazon.

No-Touch courtship is a concept that is very popular in Conservative homeschooling circles. It has been made popular by famous families like the Duggars and glamorized to a certain degree that it may not deserve.

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca discusses the pros and cons of no-touch courtship.

If you like this content, you may enjoy The Scarlet Virgins book, available on Amazon!

I mentioned this in another video, but I got my hair fixed up for the first time recently! I'd never colored it or had anything done besides a simple hair cut. What I wasn't anticipating is how I was impacted by getting this done. I grew up in modesty and purity culture and they got in my noggin a bit here. Have you ever had this happen?

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I talked about this a little in my book which is linked below, but I have observed a significant amount of people impacted by purity culture being drawn towards BDSM, Rape Fantasy, and other things that I would classify as sexual band-aids given the circumstances.

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