There was a moment about five years ago, around age 34, where I thought to myself: Maybe I just don't want a relationship.

Clients will say a similar thing to me, often using language like: I'm not even sure I want to be in a relationship.

In today's episode I'm exploring what rests beneath those words (what they meant for me, what they mean for others) and what it means to intellectualize our pain. I specifically discuss:

• How a debilitating breakup made me never want to try to have a relationship again
• How I very much wanted a partner and a family but struggled so deeply to believe I'd ever have those things, that it made it easier to tell myself I didn't want them
• How and why we intellectualizing our pain
• How focusing on being grateful can serve as a mask to what we want to change in our lives
• What's involved in letting our deep longings and desires breathe

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