We don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are. For those of you that are struggling in certain areas: Are you angry? Are you in constant conflict? Do you feel like things are happening to you? In this episode of My Extra Mile, David T.S. Wood shares how to attract what you want in life—not crap.

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

 

• How to create the right projection
• Cultivating awareness of your projections
• How to get to the root of kindness

Airports amplify tension

 

Airports are a place where you often see people at their worst. What happens if your flight is delayed or cancelled and you need to get a room for the night? You’re likely upset, right? The person you’re about to deal with has nothing to do with the plane being grounded. Yet people are rude, angry, and short with these people as if their life is the only one that matters.

 

How do you think the person is going to behave when you’re angry and short with them? They won’t go out of their way to make magic happen for you. They won’t be motivated to fix the problem or go the extra mile. You have to remember that you’re projecting intolerance and frustration at a person.

 

If you are conscious, aware, present, and kind in all situations, the universe bends over backwards to make magic happen. It may not look like what you want. It may not meet your immediate expectations. It will only happen if you’re aware and flowing with what’s happening.

What you project out is what you get back

 

Most people project their history, past, and hurts onto other people. If you’re distrusting, it’s because you were hurt in the past. You carry that burden into relationships. You’re projecting your fear unto the person. They will behave in accordance with how you treat them. If you’ve been hurt in a previous relationship, how often do you project that into a current relationship? How often do you guard yourself?

 

David likes to say, “We don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are—and then the world treats you accordingly.” If you go through life distrusting others, you will be given many opportunities to see distrust. The Reticular Activating System makes you aware of the things you think about. So if you think people are distrusting, you are looking for things in your environment to prove you are right. You project fear, you notice fear, and you attract fear.

What is the root of kindness?

 

The root of kindness is the language you use to talk about yourself. If you notice fears, limitations, or projections that are negative—you can fix it. When you’re in a situation where you normally project anger or frustration, change what you do. Become curious, generous, or kind. The people around you will behave in accordance with what you’re doing. David emphasizes that you live a life of your own making. You’ve got the ultimate power to say “I create the world I’m in.”

 

Are you being kind to yourself? How do you create the world you want on the inside to project out kindness, love, and generosity? Kindness on the inside creates a magical world on the outside. Even if crap happens, you don’t interpret it that way. Planes get grounded or break down. It’s part of life. When it happens, be understanding.

 

Some people scream and yell at store clerks. What is that person’s life like? If they’re putting crap out, they’re probably getting the same back. People won’t want to be around them. They walk through the world with a chip on their shoulder. That chip is projecting their fears, doubts, uncertainty, anger, frustration, jealousy—and bringing it back tenfold.

Look for the magic in everything

 

Davis has always realized how beautiful it can be when things go wrong. David met his girlfriend because his first flight was delayed and then he missed his connecting flight. They met in Germany on the bus to go get new tickets for the flight they missed. They were the only two people who weren’t angry. They’ve now been dating for 4.5 years.

 

Because they were so kind, they ended up with the best rooms at the best hotel closest to the airport. How? He asked if the desk clerk needed a hug, said he was understanding of the situation, and he was kind to her. She thanked him for being kind when others were harsh.

 

You aren’t necessarily projecting kindness and expecting it in return—it’s just what happens. David’s challenge to you? Work on what you project into the world and remember that your inner world creates your outer world.

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