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Spontaneity. Most people live a life of habit and routine. But the by-product of routine is a comfort zone. The human brain conspires to keep you safe and sound in that comfort zone. But are you happy there? How do you bring more spontaneity into your life? How do you say “yes” more often? David shares how you can embrace the spontaneous life he lives in this episode of My Extra Mile.
In this episode, you will hear:Think about the times you did something unexpectedly. Maybe it was unplanned or last-minute—but you had the best time. David believes you’ll have hundreds of examples in your life where the unexpected became a beautiful memory. But our brains run contrary to spontaneity. Why? Because the brain is afraid of the unknown.
David believes there are three zones that we are caught between, the comfort zone, the uncomfortable zone, and the unknown zone. David attempts to live his life in the unknown zone. He believes it all comes down to self-trust. To flow in the unknown means, you have to trust yourself to handle and navigate what will unfold.
David’s spontaneous adventures
When David travels, he aims to get lost entirely. He goes with the flow and ends up taking wild adventures. But it’s rare for someone to live their lives and exist and flourish in the unknown zone. So how does David do it? David built the muscle from 10 years of backpacking around the world. He didn’t know where he was going or what he would do. He didn’t know what the food was like or what the language would be.
When David was in Europe last year, he ended up in Slovakia, Slovenia, Austria, and even Budapest, Hungary. They were driving and saw a sign for Vienna. So they took the exit and decided to take a horse carriage ride through Vienna. It was beautiful. They had no idea where they’d end up that night.
People book vacations for all-inclusive resorts. They go to places that remind them of home. David emphasizes that you need to fight that urge. Because the magic happens when you lose control, David understands that fear comes up in the unknown. But when you develop the ability to navigate the unknown, it does become fun. Something unplanned and spontaneous can feel even better than the planned.
Bring more spontaneity into your life.Spontaneity has sculpted David’s life. He lives in a level of self-trust where the unknown zone is the exciting part of his journey. You absorb, taste, smell, and hear differently. David believes you’ll find the connection to the experience becomes richer. You vibrate at a higher level.
How can you bring more spontaneity into your life? You have to drown out the voice in your head. Overcome the “logic” in your brain. Say yes to what you wouldn’t usually say yes too. When you feel nervous or out of control, stay in it. See what shows up. David flips a coin at every crossroads and lets it take him where it does.
When you do the same thing year after year, it feels as if time passes faster. You’re repeating similar things over and over. Imagine if you could make a day feel like two days, a week feel like two weeks, or a month feel like two months.
Flip a coin and get lost in your city. Discover places you haven’t walked. Do something impractical that makes no logical sense. Make choices that are more spontaneous and vibrant. Break up the monotony and do something outside of your comfort zone.
Why not try it, embrace it, and go after it?
Connect with David T. S. WoodIt doesn't matter what type of partnership you're in; you should regularly ask relationship questions to keep your communication lines open and healthy. From business partnerships to personal connections, there will always be obstacles that you will need to conquer together. There is a reason you chose your person as a partner, but do you ever take the time to remember what that reason is?
In this interview, Beth Hanishewski, the swiss-army knife of coaching, and David T. S. Wood share some powerful questions you should ask yourself and your partner. Beth and David are both experts in the field of relationship repair, and they aren't afraid to get real about the root of the issue. If you're ready to move your relationships to the next level and transform your partnerships for the better, this episode is a must-see!
In today's episode you will learn:
How to rate your relationship on a scale of 10–0
As a seasoned relationship expert, Beth always challenges her clients to take a moment to rate the relationship in question on a scale of 10–0.
Take a moment to choose a number for your relationship before you read on.
If you chose 10–9–8…
You're happy, for the most part.
You have some bad moments, but they don't have a lasting impact.
You may experience a temporary loss of connection, intimacy, or in how you speak to each other.
If you fight or argue, it doesn't even occur to you that you will leave the partnership.
No REAL threats to the relationship.
If you scored 7–6...
You may find yourself saying, "I love them… BUT…".
There is one big reason or "but" that you're struggling to move past.
Most of your issues have been resolved, except that "but".
If you rated your partnership a 5–4...
You WANT better your situation.
The relationship is threatened, and you're considering leaving.
You may have been contemplating leaving for a while.
There isn't just one issue, but several that you're concerned about.
But if you rated your relationship a 3–2–1–0...
This area is the most dangerous.
You may have completely given up on your relationship already.
You may not even care to put in the work to fix your situation.
What can you do to start building your score?
Both Beth and David agree that it's best to work on getting your relationship to a ten before making any drastic decisions on your partnership. While you can start to do the work on your own, it's best to include your partner by inviting them to be part of your process. Calmly and respectfully open the conversation to see if you can both agree to do something for 30-days. If they don't agree, commit to making the change yourself. Chances are, your partner will see a drastic change in you, which could allow you to approach the subject again in the future.
Remind yourself why you love that person, and why you chose them in the first place rather than focusing on the issue. Try to notice the little things you appreciate about them, instead of what they do that bother you. Taking these steps to change your mindset will help you close the gap to reach that perfect 10.
The two most important relationship questions you can ask
Beth mentions two easy relationship questions that you can ask today to start generating a conversation with your partner. Even if you aren't sure where the issue is, this can gauge what areas your partner may see problems:
Did you notice the focus of these questions? These allow your partner to share some things that THEY need from YOU, rather than opening up the conversation with things YOU need from THEM. This gentle opening can make even the most apprehensive partners feel open to sharing with you. Plus, chances are, once they've answered your questions, they will probably ask the same of you!
Whoever it is that you choose to do this work with, you chose them for a reason. Even if it's someone you decide to part with, David suggests that you should do your best to only say positive things about them to people you both know. If you're able to do this, you may be able to end your relationship on good terms and continue having a positive relationship with them for years to come.
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The power of giving is something that has withstood the test of time. In this bonus episode of My Extra Mile, David T. S. Wood interviews a generous power couple, Jennifer Shultz and Jono Patch. In this episode, they discuss the joy of giving freely without any expectations.
It's also crucial to learn how to receive graciously, so you don't deny others the excitement that giving can provide. It's not about trying to pay someone back but instead working always to pay it forward. If you want to learn about the impact a generous heart can have on your life, this episode is a must-hear!
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Anna and Morgan have been together for 15 years and they’ve developed an extraordinary relationship. But how did they get there? What is the foundation of their strong relationship? What did their journey look like? In this episode of My Extra Mile, Anna + Morgan share how they developed their relationship and what ‘life together’ looks like for them.
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Anna + Morgan do ALL of life together. They work from home together, they work out together, and they travel the world together. Morgan jokes that the only reason they don’t have kids yet is because he doesn’t like going to the gym alone.
Has it always been easy? Of course not. Things were toxic when they were young and in the “party” phase of their life. They’re careful to point out that they’re not perfect and their life journey is unique to them.
You simply have to know what you want. Anna knew from the time she met Morgan that he was always going to be in her life. They failed forward together and held each other through the lowest of the lows. They’ve navigated the highs together as well.
They’ve had so many ups and downs. Morgan has spent many nights on the couch. But they’ve gotten to a beautiful stage in their 30’s. They don’t really fight—they disagree, then they’re over it. But how did they get there?
Unconditional trust + Self-love
Morgan points out that their relationship is built on unconditional trust. He trusts Anna with his life. Whatever is going on, they always come back together. They know that they can’t live without each other in their lives. They’re a team, a unit, lovers, & best friends. They take those responsibilities seriously.
But they also love themselves—and unconditional love for yourself spills over into your relationships. You have to feel whole in yourself first to feel whole in a relationship. As you learn to love and trust yourself more, your relationship can flourish. Anna loves the quote by Maya Angelou: “I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.'”
People run into issues because they look for motivation from external circumstances or other people. External factors can be motivating, but the motivation for real and lasting change—physical or otherwise—has to come from within.
Because Anna and Morgan strive towards becoming their own powerful individuals their life together has become sweeter and more grounded. But they admit it’s a journey.
You NEED alignment on core values
What are your shared values? If your highest value doesn’t align with your significant others, the simple truth is that you probably won't work out. That’s not saying you have to agree on everything—because that’s not how relationships work. But your life-values need to align and adapt together. You can have separate growth journeys, but they need to intersect.
Morgan’s example is Protestants and Catholics: Their core beliefs are completely different, but their values are the same. You need to sit down and hash out what your values are together. For Anna and Morgan, the things that matter most to them—honesty, integrity, humor, and trust—bind them together.
So how do you develop an extraordinary relationship? How do you find out if your values align? Anna and Morgan state you need to determine your values.
Determine your values by taking Dr. DeMartini's Value Determination Test. Most people think they know where their values lie and then find out they were dead wrong. It’s perfectly fine—but it’s better to know. You can then navigate and work out your life around your values. If your relationship is in turmoil and you’re at a crossroads, nail down your individual values. If they don’t intersect, it may be time to move on.
Anna and Morgan share other resources that they believe impacted their relationship positively—be sure to listen for their recommendations.
Connect with Anna + MorganHow do you find your purpose and passion? How do you overcome years of abuse that the world has thrown at you? How do you shine your light? Mahima Klinge firmly believes that we need to explore how our culture has taught us limiting beliefs and redefine how we live life. If you’re ready to take that step, listen to this episode of My Extra Mile.
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Many women know they’re capable of more, but don’t dare to push for more. Mahima works to support women to accept their story—everything that has ever happened—as part of their power. Her passion is to help women strip away their limiting beliefs to realize they can do anything they set their heart and mind to.
Mahima knows that from personal experience. She has a seven-figure business and a beautiful marriage. She wakes up every day with purpose. But she comes from a background of abuse, both physical and emotional. She also grew up in Zimbabwe during apartheid. In that environment, you feel like your voice doesn’t matter. But she’s learned a different way of thinking, operating, and being in the world.
Her goal is to help her students understand that you come into this world with nothing and you will leave this world with nothing. So she strives to teach others how to live. She points out that once you understand how precious and fragile your time is, you can stop wasting it.
Don’t be in relationships that don’t serve you. Don’t be in a job that isn’t your passion or something that you don’t love. Allow yourself to start operating with more presence. How you show up in a room matters. What you say to people matters. What people feel around you matters. How do you amplify the voice that you have? Listen to learn more from Mahima.
Set a clear vision for your future
Mahima implores you to create a clear vision for your future. Do you want to write a book? Build a community? Have a committed relationship? Make decisions that guide you to what you want. What are your values? What makes your heart sing? What makes you come alive?
Your vision will change. But it just needs to be aligned with your value and your purpose. Mahima struggled in the past because she wasn’t moving towards something—she was just floating. Decisions were being made based on what was convenient or comfortable at the time. But she emphasizes that all of the magic happens when you step outside of your comfort zone.
What would make you feel like 2020 was an epic year for you?
What would need to happen in your existence to feel that 2020 was an epic year? Whatever you do, Mahima says to choose something that stretches you. You can ask, “Does this really light up my soul? You have to ask yourself some tough questions to get to an answer.
It all starts with awareness and the willingness to be honest with yourself. Then you need to do something to change. You need to start planting seeds today. What is the story you want to be telling 10 years from now? What is the conversation you want to be having?
Mahima has created a training that helps people to see more and be more. It simply starts with being present. Where do you want to focus right now? You have to center yourself and live in the moment. It’s the beginning of liberation. You can see things in a new light.
How do you learn to navigate the disruption in your life? How do you learn to move from “me” to “we?” How do you become the best version of yourself? Listen to this whole episode for Mahima’s eye-opening approach.
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Are you aware that your childhood experiences can influence your money mindset? You may not be aware how deeply your life experiences influence the decisions you make regarding money and finances—and how destructive it can be.
In this episode of My Extra Mile, Allan and Lari Hilzinger join Dave T.S. Wood to share some exercises that can help you overcome negative beliefs and reprogram your money mindset. If you need some money tips that will help move your future in the right direction, this is the episode for you.
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Where is your money mindset rooted?
Allan & Lari have been through their fair share of ups and downs with money. Lari remembers feeling responsible for money at a young age. She’s experienced having it all—and having nothing. It took her a long time to realize she was repeating childhood patterns in her adulthood. It was pounded into Lari that you need to work hard for everything in life. A lot was expected of her, and she was expected to show up for her family and her community.
Allan never had money as a kid. He was talented in sports but putting pressure on his parents to help pay for gear, travel, etc. was out of the question. They always had enough to get by but that was it. Despite it all, his Dad always said: “At least we’re happy.” Allan grew up with the mindset that people who have wealth just happened to get lucky or they came into wealth. He would gamble thinking if he could get lucky, he could make money. Instead, he got himself into a lot of debt.
How do you reprogram your money mindset?
Lari and Allan point out that you must acknowledge and understand that your money mindset has stemmed from everything you’ve experienced and modeled up until this moment. To overcome your mindset, you must dig deep into where it comes from. One of their money tips is to write down what your mindset is, look at it, understand it, and accept it. You must learn to appreciate that it’s the journey you’re on.
Lari took a course—that she talks about in depth in this episode—where she realized that she always ran to her Dad when she was in trouble. Do you run to someone else to solve your problems? When things get tough, where do you turn? Can you reprogram your actions? Keep listening to hear their thoughts.
Making behavioral changes regarding money
You have to be open to change. One of the money tips Lari and Allan recommend is learning one new thing about money every day. Turn your cars into universities. When you’re hiking or working out—listen to a podcast or read a book. Your wealth can only grow to the extent you grow yourself.
Another one of their money tips is to surround yourself with people who are in a better financial position than you so you can learn from them. Who are the people in your life that do have a handle on their finances? Ask them questions! Recognize that behavioral and mindset changes are a continual shift and change that will require effort.
Lari and Allan emphasize that you must also take responsibility and start budgeting. Budgeting is NOT a constraint—it’s a freedom. How can you live your life with the money you have? It’s the best way to set yourself up for success. Verbalize where you’re at and what you want. Know and understand that it’s a journey—you can’t change it overnight.
Lari and Allan got clear on what they wanted, they set goals, and they took action. They were focused on their goals—and then the money came. Where focus goes, energy shows. How do money archetypes play in? What are the archetypes? Listen to the whole episode to learn more!
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How did David come about buying his boat? How did the process end in a beautiful and unexpected partnership? In this episode of My Extra Mile, David tells the story in detail, demonstrating the power of his philosophy of 100% trust—100% of the time.
In today's show you will hear:
David is admittedly the happiest in water—sailing boating, scuba-diving, swimming—it doesn't matter. David was living through a Canadian winter, and it struck him: why not buy a boat? And when David decides something, it usually happens within 24 hours. So he started looking for a boat immediately.
When David first started looking, he found a boat in Mexico, on the Sea of Cortez. So he flew to see this 72-foot boat and felt like he had to talk himself into it. Now, he points out that it's very easy to see how people look after things when you look at a boat. You can see if they take the time to maintain something well.
David walked on the boat and immediately knew it wasn't a boat he would buy. It was apparent that the boat was now well looked after. He spent the night, and early the next morning told the Captain he wouldn't be buying it.
David takes a detour.After looking online again, David came across a boat in Antigua (in the Caribbean) that looked promising. So he called the broker (Mike) but was told the boat was sold, and that the potential buyer would be closing the next Wednesday. David asked Mike to let him know if the sale fell through.
David stayed in Mexico and waited to hear back. The buyer backed out. The boat was perfect, and this guy loved it. But he was in the middle of a divorce, and his wife wouldn't release the funds. It took David 17 hours to fly there. David walked on the plane from Miami and sat in his seat. The woman beside him apologized and asked if he minded switching seats with her husband. David switched seats and immediately lets the broker know he was on his last flight.
6.5 hours later—after they land—this guy (Bud) stands up and asks David about the boat. He had overheard David's conversation. Apparently, he had been on the boat twice and was thinking about buying it. The only reason he hadn't was because his boat dock wasn't long enough. He told David the boat was immaculate. David asked for his number to keep in touch if any questions came up.
From a bar to a boat
David took the boat out, and it was everything he had heard. It was gorgeous. The engines were immaculate. The family selling the boat was beautiful. David started to think about his personality style. David likes making quick decisions. But he was worried about caring for such a large boat so far from home. The boat was a great deal.
David went to bed that night, hoping to decide by the next day and leaning toward passing on it. He decided to go out and grab a beer. As he walked up to the bar, this beautiful woman called out his name and asked him to join her. Then he sees the man from the plane next to her. They spent the evening laughing their heads off and having a fantastic time together.
An unlikely partnership
The next morning, David texted Bud and asked him "Would you like to be partners in the boat?" He texted back immediately and said, "I'm not into partnerships, they never work for me." David responded and said, "Well, you've never been partners with a guy like me." One minute later, he said, "Alright, let's do it." David told the owner they were going to buy the boat. They show up and looked over the boat one more time.
They've been partners for almost a year now. David had a deep sense of who Bud was when he met him. It was easy to tell by how he treated his wife and his children. David didn't have any doubts about working with them. It's proven to be wonderful. Now they have half the expenses and half the cost.
100% trust 100% of the time
How much time do we spend distrusting others? How much energy do you waste worrying about being safe? David's approach to life leads to many beautiful stories. If they prove him wrong, it's okay. That experience won't become his lens to view the rest of the world. Because of his life philosophy, he has this amazing story and brand new friendship.
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What labels have you assigned yourself? What ‘bio’ do you project as who you are? Are you placing limitations on yourself because of what society says about you? In this episode of My Extra Mile, Andrea Henkart Joins David T.S. Wood to talk about becoming an awakened person and moving beyond the limitations that you’ve set for yourself.
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There’s so much pressure on men and women to look, act, and show up a certain way. Andrea points out that the perception that women have of themselves isn’t based on reality—it’s based on society. Women have lost sight of who they are and what their value is.
But she emphasizes when we can quiet ourselves and listen, we can come to a place where we believe and trust our own self: “When we value ourselves from the inside, we ignite from the outside.” Unfortunately, society and social media are all about comparing—and comparison truly is the thief of joy.
Andrea notes that adults need to show up as an example for their children. Modeling is how kids learn. How ‘mom’ is feeling about herself is what she is projecting to her child—insecurities and all. Embracing yourself leads to setting better examples for your children. Focus on creating more love, more peace, and more friendships. When you feel beautiful it radiates from within.
Move beyond your bio
A lot of women struggle with self-worth and self-love. How does Andrea help someone awaken in the workshops she offers? She puts women in groups to talk, share, and go deep. When given the opportunity, women can be real, raw, and move beyond their bios. They’re allowed to question: Who am I? It’s about being real and showing up—and being radically honest with yourself.
One attendee told Andrea that she had never really trusted women before. She was a businesswoman and always related better with men. But she was allowed to be raw and open with a group of women. She realized it was what she’d craved for so long. Women walk away feeling empowered.
Re-establish self-trust and authenticity
Andrea lost her husband in a tragic plane crash. It was a struggle to pull herself out of the ashes and recover from the loss. She had to reevaluate who she was, what she was going to do next, and how she was going to show up as a human. And it was painful. But she notes that it was David that helped pull her out. He said, “Andrea, how much longer do you want to feel this?”. It was a pivotal moment. She knew she needed to start letting go of her fears and start saying “Yes.”
Andrea points out that we all have adversity in our lives that we must accept and overcome. But you must reflect on the adversity and acknowledge: How much longer do I want to stay in this space? It’s okay to be in a place of not knowing or not having an answer. But you can find depth within yourself to grow and rise from that. You can’t change your world without changing yourself first.
But how do you do that? Andrea shares that you shouldn’t take yourself too seriously. Find ways to have more fun, say yes more often, and live in gratitude. When things look really dark and you feel your worst, focus on what you’re grateful for. There is a voice inside all of us that is wise—but we don’t listen to it. Tune into that voice. Listen and trust your intuition.
Andrea shares a powerful story about kindness, some practices to ground yourself in the moment, and how to change your environment to change your energy. Don’t miss this episode!
Connect with Andrea HenkartHave you ever received relationship advice that is so simple and easy to implement that it seems too good to be true? Energy + Value + Currency = Happiness! In this episode, David T. S. Wood and his guest, relationship guru Beth Hanishewski, discuss this proven formula that can help you find happiness and hope in your relationships. If you want to learn more about this formula, this episode is a must-hear!
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Think of energy in 4 quadrants: feminine light, feminine dark, masculine light, and masculine dark. These names aren't speaking to gender classifications but rather the characteristics that accompany different types of energy.
For example:
Now, think about how your energy changes when you're around this person. When you think about that person, do you feel yourself anticipating their energetic effects on you? What energy makes you feel your best? Try to pinpoint that feeling to focus on when you're around that person. When you change your energy, you may see a shift in theirs as well!
The secret to nurturing their values
Have you taken the time to consider what your person values most in life? Their values are the unconscious, intangible things they hold highest in their life. If you aren't aware of their values, you could be unintentionally robbing them of the most crucial elements in their life.
The feminine tends to value safety the most, which includes physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, and even financial matters. When you do or say something that makes them feel unsafe, you will be able to see their energy change. If you're not sure if you're affecting them, ask! Once you know, talk with them to see what you can do to help them feel safer.
The masculine values freedom, including their time and energy. Do you ever tell your partner to do something with the expectation they do it right away? Consider giving them the time to decide when and how they'll do it instead.
Identifying their "currency"
In the relationship formula, currency is how you show your person you care. Some examples of the different types of currency are:
When both sides of the relationship are paying out the right type of currency, you will achieve that perfect connection. You can then work towards creating synergy to see who they truly are, instead of criticizing them for their flaws. Be sincere in how you work towards your happiness, and the results will speak for themselves!
Relationship advice to help you move forward
When used correctly, the relationship formula results in happiness and hope for yourself and your relationship. But, if you take away any of the pieces, you could see the energy shift back into the dark/negative zone.
If you aren't sure where to start, ask your partner these simple, but effective questions:
Take responsibility for your actions and forgive yourself and your person for not knowing better. When you're in your light, everything around you is affected. But, when you move into the dark, everything around you becomes INFECTED.
HOMEWORK: Apply the formula to your relationship, note what happens, and see how it changes things for you. Focus on keeping your energy positive, shower your partner with the currency that means the most to them, focus on the values they crave, and don't set any expectations. Expectations are the thief of joy.
Going first isn't easy, but the most important influence in a relationship is YOU!
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Are you ready for ONE tip—one simple exercise—that can radically change your life? Are you ready to shift your focus to shift your reality? In this episode of My Extra Mile, Allan and Lari Hilzinger share the vision exercise that has been a game-changer in their life. What is it? Listen to find out!
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Before Lari embraced this life-changing exercise, she always found herself dealing with financial concerns and relationship issues. She spent all of her time trying to get out of the current situation—not focusing on her future. She didn’t have the time to define ultimate goals and was spiraling out of control. She was stuck in what she didn’t want, which is a dangerous place to be in.
Allan and Lari point out that when we look at the average person, their reality creates their life. Some people are crap magnets where everything goes wrong. Why is that? Because they’ve accepted their reality and do not strive for change. So of course, nothing changes. They continue to attract struggle.
Once they realized they could change their vision to what they wanted to create things began to change.
A vision exercise: “I choose the end result of”
The exercise Lari & Allan embrace is simple but profound. You create a list of positive choices and your heart’s desires: It starts with “I choose the end result of” and YOU fill in the blanks. Allan shares some of his:
Lari shares some of hers:
You take your vision statements and envision what each item looks like every single day. You visualize what the end result looks like. No limitations. No conditions. Imagine it as crazy, amazing, and as beautiful as you can imagine it.
How to bridge the gap between current reality and the future
They admit that it’s not easy to do right away but the exercise becomes easier as you begin to believe it. To help bridge the gap and find actionable steps you can take towards the future you’re claiming they recommend doing this:
In Allan’s example, he envisioned the end result of building a highly successful and profitable business empire. In his vision, he sees himself doing business deals, making tens of millions of dollars, and using money to make more money.
In his current reality, he’s made six figures but the last year has been a rough go. So he looks over the bridge and decides on an action step:
I need to talk to more people about the opportunity of network marketing.
Don’t get caught up in the how
They both emphasize that you can’t get caught up in the how. Instead, get caught up in the vision. It doesn’t have to happen a certain way. If you succeed, focus on the success and not the negatives along the journey—because it’s all about the end result. However, that happens, it happens. It often won’t happen the way you think it will so you must be open to how it will unfold.
They use the example of a rubber band: one end is your current reality and the other end is your vision (your end result). As you stretch the rubber band—holding your vision and focusing on the end result—it’s structurally impossible for you not to get there because you’re creating tension. The only way to quit is to quit on the end result. If you have negative tension, you get pulled more towards negativity.
At every single moment, we get to choose what we focus on—the negative or the positive. Hold that tension and hope for your vision. A vast vision is scary for a lot of people. But it IS possible. Listen to the whole episode for an in-depth discussion on this powerful vision exercise.
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