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We have all had situations where we wanted something and went for it.  Far more often than not, there were multiple moments along that journey that felt challenging, perhaps discouraging, even insurmountable.  Yet, we persevered and succeeded despite of our doubts and difficulties.  Looking back, it's likely that our decision to stay the course helped us grow into the person we are.  In retrospect, we are grateful we did.  

Yet sometimes, when we look back on our endeavors, knowing what we know now, we would not have even began in the first place.  Whether it's a job, a relationship or developing a new skill in an area that we place little to no value on.  Persisting down that road for any period of time may be a complete waste of energy, yielding little satisfaction when you arrive at your destination, as well as along the way.   

In what situations can quitting actually be a win? And when is it not? In this episode, Tiffanee and I delve into the nuances of quitting, exploring when it can be a good thing, and when it may not be. As with everything in life, context matters, and blindly following catchphrases without understanding our own goals can limit us and send us in the wrong direction.

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It's fair to say Tiffanee has a hell of a passion for engaging in meaningful conversations, which is why, when the world as we knew it shut down in 2020, she grabbed the opportunity with both hands to dive into the conversational deep-end and launch her podcast, Roll With the Punches.  

 With the uncertainty of the pandemic, she wanted to invest her time into something that couldn't be taken away, should that crazy turn of events threaten her finances.

Through the process of holding and hosting hundreds of conversations, with the most recognized experts in the world, she gained valuable insights and experiences that have helped her grow into an extraordinary podcaster, communicator and public speaker.  

In this episode, Tiffanee and I delve into the art of conversation and the importance of effective communication. We explore some of the lessons Tiffanee has learned along the way and discuss ways to improve our conversational skills. 

I thoroughly enjoyed our discussion and I hope you find it insightful as well.

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Staying focused and positive in a negative world filled with unproductive distractions is no doubt challenging.  Yet, it's critical for our mental, emotional, social and even physical wellbeing.  

There are tools we can use to change our mindset and cultivate feelings of gratitude, both of which are useful.  However, what happens when our positivity negatively impacts our resilience?  

What's not often talked about are the damaging effects of blind positivity.  Sometimes, rather than putting a positive spin on our circumstances, it may be better to explore our expectations and our willingness to accept the reality of our situation (in the moment anyway).  

What cannot be discounted is the value of our self-talk, mindfulness and the strength of our relationships we have with the people around us.  By working on our relationships, and experimenting with these tools we can find out what works for us and adapt them into our daily lives.  These tools and strategies can serve as a positive anchor as well as our compass.

 

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If you are a trainer, coach or are considering working with one, chances are you’ll find this episode to be packed with value.  

My guest is a therapist, coach, podcast host and presenter for the National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM).  In my conversation with Angie Miller we discuss what coaching is (and what it’s not), why it works, and how to effectively apply different  coaching strategies in a variety of environments. 

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The most common advice in dealing with negative people is don't surround yourself with them!  

Ok, fair enough.  But what happens when these are people you can't avoid, like co-workers?  Or, what if this is someone you care deeply about, like a close friend or family member?  

Can we have a positive influence on them?  Should we even try?  And if so, how do we go about it, while preserving our own mental health and wellbeing?  

In this episode Tiff and I discuss our thoughts on this, and offer tools and insights that we believe you'll find helpful.  

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Who are you, really?  Most of us think we know ourselves fairly well.  Yet, many of us can’t help but feel something is missing.  Despite spending months, years, and even decades on our own personal development we find ourselves somewhat stuck.  

 In his book “Awaken to Your True Self”, author Andrew Daniel offers us a different view on transformation, embodiment, healing and shadow work, to help guide us through the process of awakening to our true selves.  

 Andrew forces us to take a deep and honest look at ourselves and discover the reasons for not having and being what we truly want.  Yes, I found parts of this book to be really irritating! Ha ha ha.  But I found my conversation with Andrew Daniel to be fascinating.  

 We talked about truth being the pathway to freedom and fulfillment.  We discussed the holistic philosophies, mindfulness work, psychology, spirituality, and somatic therapy modalities that make up the content of the book.  

 Our conversation, as well as his book, is about how we can overcome our greatest challenge, ourselves.  

 Andrew Daniel is an award-winning author, and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development.  At the age of 18, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine that was utilized by multiple fortune 100 companies. Yeah so, not too impressive.  He is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization and teaches his Cinesomatics workshops globally from London to New York, Tuscany and Switzerland-helping professionals to identify the elusive patterns that keep them stuck.  

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 Awaken to Your True Self can be found on audible, itunes, amazon and wherever books are typically found. 

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Having a growth mindset is important.  It's something we hear all the time.  It's something that most of us would agree with.  But what exactly is a growth mindset actually?  

In her book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success", author Carol Deck explains the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.  She illustrates the meaning and application of a growth mindset through a masterful use of storytelling, research and practical answers to the most common questions around the subject.  

In this episode Tiff and I explore an aspect of the book we found particularly interesting; Carol Dwecks explanation of what a growth mindset is not.  

According to Dr. Dweck, there are a few common misconceptions around a growth mindset.  We discuss what they are, as well as why they can have a damaging effect on your ability to fully reap the rewards of applying the true principles of a growth mindset to your life.  

We also discuss questions like, when is hard work and tenacity counter productive?  We also challenge idioms like "never quit." When is that saying absolutely correct and when is it more damaging to your life than useful?  

There's nothing wrong with failure.  If fact, it's not only unavoidable, but critical to long-term success.  But succeeding at something you wouldn't even get started working on if you had to do it all over again, that's a tragedy.  

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It seems like most of us have dysfunctional families in one way or another.  

However, there's a clear difference between experiencing challenges in our childhood, or growing up in an idiosyncratic family environment, and suffering serious trauma at the hands of people who have hurt you.  What's even worse in when the people who have wounded you the deepest were supposed to love and protect you the most.  But, due to mental illness, addiction, their own trauma and maybe for reasons we will never understand, our relationships with those closest to us, don't always work out that way.  

Rather than developing strong formative relationships, we grow up with feelings of guilt, anger and inner conflict.  

But even though these experiences were not our fault, how do we reconcile them, so we can live fully and freely in spite of the pain of our past?  One pathway forward may be forgiveness.  In this episode we discuss how forgiveness can help mend the wounds of the past, free us from ongoing suffering and allow us to live more fully.   If we find it hard to forgive others, perhaps we can extend forgiveness for ourselves.   

Don't we all deserve love and emotional freedom?  

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If you want to succeed, get rid of all your friends.  The truly successful person values his or her own company and needs no one but themselves.  Average people, especially your friends will only hold you back with their disloyalty and mediocrity.  

In this episode Tiff and I explore this topic, along with other insane bullshit advocated in certain self-help circles.  

Granted, not every friend you have is a good friend or a good fit for you.  However, the research and very likely, our own personal experience provides more than enough evidence that good friends will give your life more inspiration, meaning, excitement, and happiness than nearly anything else.  Don't fire your friends just yet.  You may regret it.  

Also in this episode we examine the notion that work must be hard, and completely void of enjoyment to be effective.  In general this episode is skeptical of anything that is packaged in absolute thinking, the hallmark of the fixed mindset.  

Let's keep the bullshit in check.  

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Resilience.  We all want more of it.  We've all likely run low on stat times throughout these past couple of years.  And we're being told to develop it from each and every angle.  

In this episode Tiff and I have a conversation around what we consider to be the facts and fallacies when it comes to resilience.  We talk about trauma, healing, memories, forgiveness and exposure.  A deeper dive into a topic we've bantered on before.  And will likely do again to be fair. 

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