The Self-Led Leader

Ever finish a conversation thinking something about it was just a little off, but you couldn't quite put your finger on it? That's likely because you were picking up on the other person's non-verbal cues that didn't match what they said to you. Non-verbal cues matter more than your words do - before they happen ALL THE TIME, without you even realizing.

But there is a difference between picking up on others' cues and learning to be mindful of your own. When you learn to understand what your own body cues are saying to others, this will help you convey the right message to the person you're speaking with - the message you actually intend to make. This is SO important, especially as a leader or founder, who carries more authority and responsibility in the business.

Today's episode is actually from the non-verbal cues module from my Intentional Communication Mastery course, designed specifically to help you communicate with more confidence using psychology and behavioural science. The full course is now part of my community, Club Coherence (you can join today for one low monthly fee and cancel anytime) at https://club-coherence.mn.co

If you feel like you've tried every possible tip to feel less anxious before speaking and they STILL don't work, this episode is for you. Today, I unpack the number thing that's overlooked to actually help you feel more calm, confident, and in control - especially while speaking or showing up in front of others.

👉 In this episode, you’ll learn:• How your nervous system regulation is the hidden key to your confidence• 3 techniques most people skip (which is why they don't see results)

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Feeling like you're in a constant state of stress and reactivity, unable to slow down and catch your breath? You're not alone. In today's episode, we're developing your emotional intelligence skills like a top executive, so you can stop performing on autopilot and start developing emotional mastery like a pro.

👉 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why having good emotional intelligence feels so HARD

• My CALM technique to start working on your emotional mastery

• 3 luxurious ways to develop your emotional mastery and EQ so you can show up in control and with confidence.

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Club Coherence is your space to turn overthinking into clarity and nerves into confidence, so you can stop second-guessing how you look and sound and develop confident authority that feels good and gets remembered.

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⏱️ TIME STAMPS

00:00 Intro

01:09 Emotional Intelligence (why it’s hard to develop)

04:10 My CALM technique for high EQ

07:30 The importance of nervous system regulation

09:35 Technique 1 for high EQ

10:57 Technique 2 for increased productivity

13:31 Technique 3 for regulating your EQ

16:51 Why you need to improve your emotional intelligence

17:52 Next steps: Club Coherence

In this episode of The Self-Led Leader, I'm talking about the importance (and power) of self-reflection in today's fast-paced world. It's one of the most effective - and overlooked - skills that will give you way more ROI than you expected, consistently.

I talk about why self-reflection is so hard (and why you were never taught this skill), how it can give you tangible results you already crave, and share practical steps to build a sustainable self-reflection practice.

Self-reflection doesn't just help you understand your own emotions, but it also improves your decision-making, communication, relationships, and even reduces burnout.

So, yes: be selfish and think about yourself. Specifically, start thinking about your thinking. I can't wait for you to share your breakthroughs!

Have you ever second-guessed yourself because you assumed you may not "have what it takes" to succeed in your dream role? The good news: you were likely wrong.

In this episode of The Self-Led Leader, I dismantle three common misconceptions about personality and explore how understanding and optimizing your personality can actually lead you to develop a more authentic leadership style.

Listen now to discover the big six personality traits from the HEXACO model and learn how you can leverage your natural strengths to improve your leadership presence.

I can't wait to hear about your breakthroughs.

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Welcome to the Self-Led Leader!

If you struggle with speaking confidently, whether in meetings, on Zoom, or in everyday conversations, this episode is for you.

In this reflective episode, I’m sharing:

• The hidden reason you might be holding back when you speak (it’s not what you think)

• How your past and present environments quietly shape your confidence

• The real first step to building calm, authentic presence when you speak

The real reason people doubt themselves and lack confidence speaking? It often comes down to your environment.

In this episode, I leave you with two powerful reflection questions:

1. Where are you continuing to silence yourself because of who’s around you, or who’s been around you in the past?

2. What would shift if you stopped outsourcing your confidence to your environment and started building self-trust instead?

   
   

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Your voice matters. And it’s time to use it: not from fear, but from self-trust and presence.

I can't wait to hear about your breakthroughs.

Have you ever felt like your career just wasn't moving in the direction you thought it would, but you had no idea why? In this episode, I had the chance to speak with Michael Merrill, former executive at Disney and Netflix, all about leadership development and career growth. We chatted about:

- the common mistakes you could be making that actually harm your career growth

- ways specific personal development strategies can help you gain clarity on your goals and career path

- what to do to stand out as a leader, no matter what level you're currently at

... and so much more.

This episode is filled with gold nuggets of wisdom and strategy. I can't wait for you to hear it. As usual, reach out to me or comment below with your biggest breakthroughs.

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Forget every cliche you've heard. In this episode of the Self-Led Leader, I challenge the common belief that social comparison is detrimental. Instead, I'm going to show you how intentional comparison can be a powerful tool for self-leadership. By understanding the psychology behind social comparisons, I'll help you understand the distinction between the different types of comparisons you're already making and how each can impact your self-perception, confidence, and motivation. I'll also dive into three common mistakes people make while comparing themselves to others, and I'll give you three powerful questions to ask yourself when you feel the self-doubt creeping in, so you can strategically turn into into a moment for growth. We all compare ourselves to others, so you may as well learn to do it well!

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In this episode, I share the three things that are most often overlooked by leaders; three psychology hacks that change the way they lead, communicate with their team, and manage their productivity.

Listen now to discover the importance of recognizing different learning styles, mastering active listening, and managing your mental and emotional state as a leader.

By implementing these simple yet powerful shifts, you can reduce miscommunication and enhance the overall functionality and morale of your team.. and become a much better leader in the process.

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In this episode of the Self-Led Leader, I had the pleasure of interviewing Simone Schiassi, the former Global Director at Google, to explore the intricacies of modern leadership. We talked all things executive presence, emotional intelligence, and authenticity for leaders (and aspiring leaders) to see success in the workplace.

With his vast experience managing global operations, Simone provides practical advice on how to develop leadership skills that stand out, including how going back to specific basics is the most overlooked key to success - and to real leadership growth.

Tune in to understand why executive presence isn’t about being loud but about connection, being aligned, and the small moments that make you memorable. By the end, you'll walk away with actionable steps for becoming a more effective, recognized leader at work, starting today.

I can't wait to hear about your breakthroughs.

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