That's a wrap! As Kate and Ruby wrap up Season 1, they take you through some of this year's Self Study Hot Takes. They share some tips, some learning, some tricks, and some openings.

Trying to get a task done that you can't quite bring yourself to do? Try body doubling (and join us in Heartland to body double or parallel play your Self Study Practice!)

Is it your responsibility?! Maybe? But literally also maybe not.

The ebbs and flow make sense and you make sense. It's ok if you're in an ebb, and it's ok if you're in a flow.

As requested, here are all the necessary links!

- My Self Study Guided Workbook and Journal (and don't forget about this deal!)

- Apply today for the Self Study Program

- Download the free Feelings and Needs workshop

- Shop the You're Doing Great Shop

- Join Heartland, the Heartfelt online community

This episode is allllll about connection, community, and how to make those things happen in your life.

You require a baseline sense of safety *which includes the need of belonging*. What if safety was built into the systems of the community? What would it look like to create a space where belonging was a radical act of inclusion? It would have to be vulnerable, honest, accountable, compassionate... What else? What could that feel like or look like? What would be required? What could be possible?

In this episode, Ruby hits us with this gem: "Acceptance is an action and it involves welcoming, it's not just tolerance. It doesn't feel good to feel like someone is just tolerating your presence." 

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In this episode on Compassion, Kate and Ruby talk about how their experience with and understanding of compassion has evolved over the years. Jack Kornfield, an American writer and mindfulness teacher says, "If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete."

In this episode Ruby hits us with this: "there's a BIG difference between compassion and fixing." And Kate says, "am i actually being helpful or am I just trying to make myself feel less uncomfortable about what I'm seeing in front of me?"

Compassion can be defined as where empathy meets the willingness to radically be with the suffering.

Nurture is defined as the process of caring for and encouraging the growth or development of someone or something.

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Get your My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

Shop the You're Doing Great Collection

Apply for the 2023 Self Study Program

Become a member of Heartland.

Become more self-aware: Learn more about your anger, and your feelings + needs

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We're saying goodbye to the things that are out like entitlement, wellness culture, and gaslighting, and giving a BIG WARM WELCOME to to things like pleasure, boundaries, and rituals that are IN for 2023! Upcoming workshop for Heartland Members: January 23rd @6pm EST

Become a BIG FAN of yourself by joining the Duality Project's Online Community, Heartland.

You're Doing Great Shop: Get something comfy cozy to wear during Self Study Hours

Apply for the 2023 Self Study Program: Parents, 20 Somethings, Coaches, Therapists & Helping Professionals, or All Yall!

Order your My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal today and don't forget to leave a five star review!

Hey, You're Doing Great! The shop is designed to connect you to your SELF. To serve as a reminder that Doing this Work may be uncomfortable, but it can be cozy (and fun!). And to start conversations that deepen intimacy.

Stay cozy and warm: Honestly, you're doing great.

Keep your refrigerator full and your stuff organized.

Keep working on yourself.

Take a deep breath, stay hydrated, and get comfy.

also... stickers :)

This is a short snippet from on Boundaries when Ruby and Kate are talking about the announcement of the book!

My Neck, My Back, *my application, and my favorite life hack*

GREAT NEWS: APPLICATIONS FOR THE 2023 SELF STUDY PROGRAM ARE OPEN! Apply now for one of three cohorts (and if you don't fall into any of these categories, send this episode to someone who DOES! AND email us at [email protected] and let us know what cohort you want to see from the Duality Project):

- the Self Study Program for Parents and Caregivers

- the Self Study Program for 20-Somethings, 20-ANYthings

- the Self Study Program for Therapists, Coaches, and other Helping Professionals

This is a short snippet from on Boundaries when Ruby and Kate are talking about applications and the 2023 Self Study Cohorts!

It's time to cozy up in your jammies for this one because our third to last theme *of the Self Study Program* is rest.

Bet you didn't think rest was coming did ya?! We tell this story in this episode: in the 2020 Self Study Program, the participants were guessing what theme would come next, and one woman guessed "accountability!" When she found out it was rest, the RELIEF that she felt really made us laugh. Accountability is a great theme! But it's not one of the 9 core themes of the Self Study Program because accountability is built into the Self Study Program on every level: first of all, it's up to you to show up and do the exercises and practices. And, "accountability is also built into having a sense of your own self. You keep yourself accountable. Accountability isn't like an external force. You keep yourself accountable because once you start to get in touch with who you are and what you need, the only other thing other than accountability is self-betrayal."

So... Welcome to rest. Get into your jammies, and get out a pen and paper for this one because those stories that are swirling around in your head need a place to live. And it's on paper, not in your life.

IN OTHER GREAT NEWS: APPLICATIONS FOR THE 2023 SELF STUDY PROGRAM ARE OPEN! Apply now for one of three cohorts (and if you don't fall into any of these categories, send this episode to someone who DOES! AND email us at [email protected] and let us know what cohort you want to see from the Duality Project):

- the Self Study Program for Parents and Caregivers

- the Self Study Program for 20-Somethings, 20-ANYthings

- the Self Study Program for Therapists, Coaches, and other Helping Professionals

We dive into WHY we decided to offer 3 cohorts this year and WHO each one is really for in the BOUNDARIES episode.

Check out the You're Doing Great STORE where you can get all sorts of cozy items like a sweatshirt that says "You're Doing Great" and a matching pair of joggers, or a dad hat that says "heartland" to help you block out the haters - learn more about Heartland in this episode too. PS. What do YOU want in an online community?! Email us at [email protected] with your hopes and dreams

Kate and Ruby are OFFICIALLY Co-Authors of the My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal! Use this journal and workbook to reclaim your wellbeing, uncover what it means to be a self-led autonomous adult, unlearn what isn't serving you or the world, and step into your own vitality, empowerment, and wisdom. Expand your understanding of Self-Care and learn more about what it means to be YOU.

You need to know what you're feeling and what you're needing. Click here to download a free 7 day workshop on figuring out both

Follow the Duality Project on Instagram and TikTok: @thedualityproject

Write a testimonial here: www.thedualityproject.com/tdp-links/

Learn more about some of the terms used in this podcast like, “white supremacy,” “harm,” “integrity,” “responsibility,” and “sustainability” by shopping the Self Study Bookshelf: https://bookshop.org/lists/self-study-program-bookshelf

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On loneliness, growth, and the new My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal that's available now on Amazon! 

This is a short snippet from on Boundaries when Ruby and Kate are talking about the announcement of the book!

Like Ruby says, "go get it NOW!"

We cover a LOT in this episode: boundaries are hard and NECESSARY and doable! Kate and Ruby share stories about their experience in their 20s having very few boundaries with people in their lives, how that impacted their businesses, and some of those hard-learned lessons. There's always a relationship between a boundaries and possibility and not setting boundaries ruins relationships.

Prentis Hemphil describes boundaries as, "the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously."

A questions that arises throughout this episode when it comes to setting boundaries is "do you have a trustworthy 'no'"? And Ruby reminds you that "you deserve to have relationships that are mutual in respect, care, support, and love, and meeting of needs... and household chores."

IN OTHER GREAT NEWS: APPLICATIONS FOR THE 2023 SELF STUDY PROGRAM ARE OPEN! Apply now for one of three cohorts (and if you don't fall into any of these categories, send this episode to someone who DOES! AND email us at [email protected] and let us know what cohort you want to see from the Duality Project):

- the Self Study Program for Parents and Caregivers

- the Self Study Program for 20-Somethings, 20-ANYthings

- the Self Study Program for Therapists, Coaches, and other Helping Professionals

We dive into WHY we decided to offer 3 cohorts this year and WHO each one is really for.

drummmrolll WE HAVE BIG NEWS! THE DUALITY PROJECT FINALLY HAS A You're Doing Great STORE where you can get all sorts of cozy items like a sweatshirt that says "You're Doing Great" and a matching pair of joggers, or a dad hat that says "heartland" to help you block out the haters - learn more about Heartland in this episode too. PS. What do YOU want in an online community?! Email us at [email protected] with your hopes and dreams

Kate and Ruby are OFFICIALLY Co-Authors of the My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal! Use this journal and workbook to reclaim your wellbeing, uncover what it means to be a self-led autonomous adult, unlearn what isn't serving you or the world, and step into your own vitality, empowerment, and wisdom. Expand your understanding of Self-Care and learn more about what it means to be YOU.

You need to know what you're feeling and what you're needing. Click here to download a free 7 day workshop on figuring out both

Follow the Duality Project on Instagram and TikTok: @thedualityproject

Write a testimonial here: www.thedualityproject.com/tdp-links/

Learn more about some of the terms used in this podcast like, “white supremacy,” “harm,” “integrity,” “responsibility,” and “sustainability” by shopping the Self Study Bookshelf: https://bookshop.org/lists/self-study-program-bookshelf

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Welcome to the Self Study Podcast by the Duality Project. The next theme of the Self Study Program is all about freedom! The Self Study Program is a 9 month deep dive into yourself. This podcast walks you through each theme individually - and offers practices, journaling prompts, self awareness activities, and meditations for you to practice on your own time, for free!

The Self Study Program is a group coaching curriculum that includes group calls as well as one-on-one calls with Kate and Ruby, your Self Study Coaches.

In this episode Kate and Ruby talk about what freedom feels like in our bodies and how to access that. They discuss the relationship between responsibility and freedom, how empathy plays a roll in our collective freedom, and how positions of leadership are impacted by our own freedom and responsibility.

This episode even shares a great 5 Day Practice to Cultivate More Freedom! There's a bonus episode of this 5 days challenge that Kate walks you through. 

Check out this playlist if you need a place to start!

And as always, don't forget to leave a review!

Applications for the 2023 Self Study Programs open on December 1st! What are you waiting for?!

Follow the Duality Project on Instagram and TikTok: @thedualityproject  

Write a testimonial here   Learn more about some of the terms used in this podcast like, “white supremacy,” “harm,” “integrity,” “responsibility,” and “sustainability” by shopping the Self Study Bookshelf 

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Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0
Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/trust-me-instrumental
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