This one’s for all my people pleasers out there. The sensitive ones. The empaths. The ones that never learned the value of a solid “no”—no explanation necessary. Because the truth is, when you say no to one thing, it’s actually saying yes to something else. When we clarify our values & remind ourselves daily of what is important to us as individuals, saying “no” to everything that doesn’t align is the only thing that makes sense anymore. If you find yourself feeling deflated, burnout out or simply off, it may be because you’re not prioritizing your current self. “No” takes practice. “No” protects your boundaries. “No” is empowering. Most importantly, “no”creates space for all things “yes” on your bison board.

Let's talk about stress management for a sec. How are you managing? Are you aware you have power over your emotional regulation? Because you do. Per usual, the tools of self~love, self~awareness, & self~realization are the answer to all your problems. Stress is in an inevitable part of life & all that matters is how you choose to respond. If we can reframe our stress, learn to manage what we can & release what we can, & simply even notice how stress shows up in the present moment, we're well on our way to satisfaction. Take a deep breath, phone a friend, & sit with it. By allowing our stress to pass through us instead of constantly distracting ourselves or running from it, we give our nervous systems such a wonderful gift while building resilience to future stressors. As Richard Carlson says, "don't sweat the small stuff... & it's all small stuff."

Self~care has many faces. What works for you one day, may not the next. & what works for someone else, may not be for you. The key to keeping self~care consistent is remembering that it is unconditional. It’s also extremely personal. If it’s bound to conditions or restrictions, then it’s not true self~care. Self~care is a vibe to be experienced by you & you alone. If it feels good, it is good. If you regret it, that doesn’t necessarily mean it wasn’t good.. it just means you’ve got some rewiring to do. Self~care is your source. Your North Star. Your guiding light. Make it meaningful to you.

Can you guess what they are? Small talk is BORING, especially when it’s negatively charged. You may not even notice you’re doing it half the time cause it’s become habitual.. but it doesn’t have to be part of your future! Complaining about anything out of our control is simply a waste of time, & while our feelings & opinions are totally valid, they may just be sucking the life out of us. Tune in to tune out of dramatizing your inner & outer dialogue. You will feel start to feel better almost instantly. You got this!

Have you ever experienced an ego death? News flash: you have! Whether you realize it or not parts are constantly dying while other parts are growing & expanding.. if you are attuned to your inner knowing it can be exhausting, overwhelming & painful. Even more so if you’re unaware. Here is a stream of consciousness about my feelings on the last two weeks. Also, watch me struggle to let go of guilt & shame over a silly decision I made last year. Free 1:1 self~care session to anyone who can decipher what I’m saying! Haha—the message remains the same… above all else, love yo self.

The holiday season is upon us & it’s easy to get swept up in the stress of it all.. but not for you, my friend. In a time where things seem to speed up & all of our love & energy pours outward, tune into the micro moments to stay connected admist the chaos. All it takes is a few deep breaths to remember who you are & what it’s really all about. So in a time where self~care routines can feel shattered, take what you can get & focus your attention on the quality of your micro moments. Life is good & so are you, boo boo!

You are what you eat. You are what you drink. You are what you read. You are getting the point? Don’t let your consumption consume you. Whether it’s coffee or Coca Cola, Tik Tok or Reddit, booze or bitches, it all ultimately affects the way you feel. I’m not here to restrict your diet or tell you how to spend your free time, just simply suggesting some self~awareness & accountability when it comes your health & wellness. If you’re drinking 4 cups of coffee a day & wondering why you can’t sleep at night, maybe there’s a connection there? Maybe not! What do I know.. tune in to hear my take & say “like” a zillion times. As if.

Seasonal Affective Disorder may be real, but what if it didn't have to be? If you find your mood shifting with the seasons (particularly Fall & Winter), just know that you're not alone. As the darkness creeps in, make sure you keep up with your simple self-care rituals so you don't get swept up in a silly story you keep telling yourself. You might not want to hear it, but you don't have to be a sad bitch cause Winter is coming. Tune in for a few simple practices you're gonna wanna prioritize.. Oh & I forgot to mention it (eeeek!) but if you need to bust out bigger guns check out infrared saunas & other light therapies.

Why does honesty seem like it's the hardest with yourself? We're always hyping up our BFF telling them they can do anything, or that person isn't good enough for them or *insert any belief here. But when it comes within, we stay with that person for way too long, we grip to old beliefs that we’re not enough, or we make excuses while shrinking back from our dreams... Honesty is everything. & trusting in your instincts, your values, your heart, is a constant experience & evolution. Can you handle the truth?

Grief & gratitude are quite possibly two of the strongest of human emotions. They are at two opposite ends of the spectrum, yet you can feel them both simultaneously & not at all at the same time... Wait what? Yeah, it makes absolutely no sense but if you've experienced grief, you know it rarely does. Gratitude is the light, the beacon of hope when you need it most. Tune into the nonsense of me experiencing new levels of grief & gratitude & rest assured you are not alone.