The Sensory Playspace Podcast

Connecting with owning our own sexual pleasure through solo sex. We had a chat with Jordan D'Nelle from the non profit organization, Something Positive for Positive People, a support resource for people navigating herpes stigma.

In this episode we talked about:

• The difference between self pleasure, solo practice, and masturbation.

• Importance of masturbation and the claiming of your own pleasure.

• Why do we maturbate, self explored benefits, and the balance of healthy and unhealthy practices.

• Masturbation for avoidance.

• Queerness, societal perceptions, and expectations on sexuality.

• Women, sex drive, desire, shame, and mix-matched libido.

• "Sexpectations" and externalizing expectations for fulfillment of needs.

• Why we have partnered sex.

• Mutual maturbation.

• Getting what you need and the orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships.

• Expanding what sex looks like and having sex for achieving pleasure.

• Defining and creating language for what sex is to you.

• Honoring what your body wants, not forcing for pleasure, and practicing self consent in solo play.

• What does it feel like when the body is inviting you in verses resisting.

• Slowness, breath, and taking your time with sex.

• Guiding into the body through breath and round breathing for awakening and expanding sexual and sensual energy.

• Hot take on sex and solo sex as a medical professional outside the office

• Stresses and different aspects of health impact, and seeing sexual health as an indicator of overall health.

About Jordan:

Jordan D’Nelle inspires women to find power in their sexuality and create a pleasure filled life in and out of the bedroom. She is a Pleasure Positive Intimacy Coach, Physician Associate, Sexual Health Educator, speaker and the Founder of the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators Podcast. An award nominated and top 100 Podcast. Her goal is to have taboo conversations about sexuality, sexual intimacy, women’s health and relationships that specifically affect women. She wants to help normalize women’s sexual health and create a safe space for women to feel validated. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan magazine, Women’s Health Magazine, and many other podcasts. In her 13 years of experience, she has helped many woman overcome shame and have better intimacy with themselves and their partners.

Find + connect with Jordan online at:

jordandnelle.com

instagram.com/jordandnelle

Free Guide to Foreplay: Foreplay.jordandnelle.com

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What makes a relationship rich and sustainable? IMO - Space holding and reciprocity in relationships is vital. This has grown into something that is also a non-negotiable for me and admittedly as a person who has lived most of their life giving with a lot of pleasure and ease, and holding a lot of fear and refusal in the taking and receiving, it’s a dedicated practice that begins with how I show up with myself before I even connect with anyone else.

I remember hearing this quote from Brené Brown a few years back that softly stuck as a reminder to try to find balance in both the ways I connect with other, but most importantly, it was an invitation to dive deeper into truer vulnerability. Vulnerability not founded on agenda, power, control, or imbalances in reciprocity. This quote came back up recently in a book I’ve been reading, Claim your Power in the chapter on The Benefit of Letting Go. Brené says,

Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgement to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attachment to giving help.

I have experienced relationships in ways of connection with agenda more frequently than I have connection from a place of exploration, curiosity, creativity, collaboration, pleasure, play, and expansion of purpose + love. I have sought out relationships to fulfill my “role” of being able to take care of or fix another in exchange for love. I’ve experienced being pursued by another to fill the void of loneliness, to avoid what they needed to face, and to take in order to feel powerful to overshadow ways they’ve felt weak before. I’ve found myself in relationships playing out roles - mirroring the recreation of the ways I’ve felt unseen, unloved, and abandoned by the ones I loved.

The truth is, we all move through life playing out our childhood stories until we become aware of them. And in the moments that we do, we get the opportunity to slow down, take a look at who we’ve become over all these years, and to lean into our courage and creativity to create the life, love, and relationships we want the most.

Reciprocity has become something that has allowed me to connect, heal, reclaim, and release in relationships.

Reciprocity has created space for deeper and more fulfilling ways to relate build on a foundation of connection and not what one person does for the other.

Reciprocity has given me spaciousness to heal by allowing me to move through fears, insecurities, and provided ways that I could relax, rest, and use my voice to speak my truths.

Reciprocity has helped me reclaim agency over my entire self. Especially when connecting with others. It’s given me space to know that I can receive without being owned and give without feeling entitled to take ownership or expect in return.

Reciprocity has given me space to release past experiences that have become compasses for how I move through the world. It’s allowed me to soften, let down my guard, and release the protective response that often comes out as control.

Through practicing reciprocity as the foundation for relationship building, I have been able to experience more connectivity and intimacy and fulfillment in every type of relationship no matter if it is casual, platonic, professional, romantic, or sexual.

Have a listen to Episode 3 of The Sensory Playspace Podcast I have a little chat about Reciprocity in Relationships and leave a comment in the substack post to share what you’re taking away. Share this episode with your friends/lovers/family and let’s keep the conversation going.

SHOW NOTES

In this episode we talk about:

* Relating creates possibility

* Exploration reciprocity across different relationship dynamics

* What does reciprocity feel like?

* Green flags in relationships and reciprocal connections

* Intentionality in connection

* Giving permission and leading by example

* Honesty, directness, and the courage to tell the truth

* Practicing active listening and creating space for really understanding what is being said

* Connection from a place of acting beyond the bare minimum, creating space for desire, pleasure and authenticity in feeling

* Allowing and creating space for self connection, individuality, and separateness

* Giving and receiving abundantly

* Permission to practice connecting and showing up

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Annnndddddd… we’re live! I’m so excited to share with you the first interview + chat on The Sensory Playspace Podcast. You can find + follow us on Spotify, Apple, and Youtube (for now). Each episode, I’ll also be sharing the show notes here so you have direct links and access to tune in. Please use these chats as inspiration and an invitation to start a conversation with us here inside the Sensory Playspace substack. You can leave a comment on the episode post, send me a direct message, and - if you love it - share it with people you know, like + love!

Thanks for your grace as I roll this out. I’ve let my perfectionism take a side-seat and I hope that being invited into the conversation will support you in ways that you need. Take + expand what aligns for you, leave the rest. If you’d like to be a guest or know someone perfect for the show - submit a topic idea (link’s included at the bottom of the show notes).

Safety in Intimacy and Holding Space for Men with Courtney Brame

What's it like to take up space beyond the stigmas of herpes? We had a chat with Courtney Brame (he/him) from the non profit organization, Something Positive for Positive People, a support resource for people navigating herpes stigma.

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SHOW NOTES

In this episode we talked about:

• HSV and managing outbreaks through yoga + yoga therapy

• Choosing to take up space and managing stereotypes and expectations as a straight, Black Man in the wellness community

• The responsibility of holding cultural reverence, carrying this responsibility as a person of color, and being intentional in the environments we exist within

• Boundaries, consent, and self ownership

• Holding space for women in exploring communication, sex, relationships, and herpes diagnosis

• Stepping into leadership and creating community with Black men exploring with curiosity, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence

• Understanding and practicing the art of vulnerability

• Dating, connection, and being a good conversationalist vs. communicator

• How to make men feel heard, held, and softening safely into what it means to be a man/masculine in the evolution of society

• Physical, mental + emotional safety in dating and connection

About Courtney:

As founder of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney combines his expertise as a 500-hour registered yoga teacher with his passion for destigmatizing herpes. Through SPFPP, he offers restorative yoga and meditation in support groups, enhancing holistic well-being for those living with herpes. As the host of the SPFPP podcast, Courtney shares inspiring stories of individuals navigating herpes stigma. He extends his advocacy to sexual health education and STD prevention, promoting stigma-free communication among healthcare providers and organizations. Driven to create a world where herpes discussions are empowering and stigma-free, Courtney's work at SPFPP is reshaping sexual health dialogue, offering a blend of wellness practices and empathetic advocacy to build a more understanding community.

Find + connect with Courtney online at:

Website: www.spfpp.org

Instagram: instagram.com/CourtneyBrame_

Safe Sex Expo (September 2024): https://www.spfpp.org/offerings/p/safe-sex-expo

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Welcome to Sensory Playspace! So happy you're here. A little nervous chatter from euni to help you settle in.

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Let your breath guide you into feeling deeper pleasure, play, and intimacy with movement. This guided meditation will open your curiosity to what it feels like to follow the flow of your breath and creating harmony and intentionality with the ways you move your body.

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Explore creative expansion and feeling into your body through your breath with tension, pace, and depth of breath.

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This guided breath play will guide you into creatively exploring pace, depth, and variation of breath in your body and pelvic floor with 3 styles of breath.

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This guided breath play will lead you into deeper connection and exploration with expanding space, pressure, and tension in your core and pelvic floor with intentional inhale, holding, and expansive release.

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Day 1 of 5 of Guided Embodied Breathing for Tantric Play will help you drop into deeper connection with your body while building trust, capacity, control, and shifting discomfort into pleasure. This 5 day guided breath exercise is designed to help you open up wider towards activating feeling, release, and holding pressure and control so that you can move into new layers of pleasure in solo and partnered play.

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Come breathe with me. Our breath opens, expands, and transforms us. Settle into your seat, no matter where you are and let your words follow the breath. In this guided meditation we will clear our minds and open up possibility to clear, create, and dream. 

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