10 Ideas for a fresh start

1. First Things First 

        * what are you problem exists real lying yourself with how God loves you.  

        * Paul David Tripp stated relationships are first fixed vertically before they are fixed horizontally

         * Love ones neighbor as oneself Mark 12:28-34

 

2.    Ruthlessly Hunt Gratitude          

 * Studies of brain scans show gratitude has been linked closely to happiness

      3.  Figure Out What’s  Eating Your Grapes

            *Song of Solomon speaks of chasing out the foxes in your vineyard (2:15)

            * lack of rest, no calendar space, or lack of resolution

       4. Set guard rails on your thoughts

            * when thinking about your spouse embrace II Cor. 10:5 take every thought captive  and 

               Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers & sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is

               right . . . . . THINK ON THESE THINGS

        5. Go against the grain

 * create the romance you want to see, even though your feelings are in it just yet. Devise a                                              creative romantic evening write a love note.  Take a shower together

        6. Own Up

            * Psalm 129:23-24 search me oh God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts        and see if there’s any grievous way in me, and leave me in the way everlasting

        7. Spend what’s precious on your mate

            * if that means time, energy, cash or attention make it a top priority

        8. For a fresh start being intentional or proactive

            * use Softening which speaks to how are you feel when a positive need is met

        9. Study hard

            * it’s been said to get your PhD in your spouse.  Know and understand their 

              stress, desires, grieving or joys 

        10.  Get down (on your knees)

               Beg God for oneness, passion, enduring love 

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