The Session, Reaching Out To The Widowed And Widower

 

He will cover you with his feathers. Under his wings, you will find refuge. His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. (Psalm 91:4)

 

Seven Tips to help a widow by Miriam Neff.

· It’s important to stay connected. Don’t assume they need space to grieve.

· Do you say sorry for your loss? It is important to say I am at a loss for what to say rather than telling them your story. Do not say I understand.

· Do attempt to engage them in some activity like going for a walk or going for coffee. Do not say “call if you anything.”

· It is important to tell stories about the deceased one. It doesn’t matter whether they were serious or human (humerous???). They are appreciated. Do not leave the deceased out of the discussion.

· It is important to invite the widow or widower do anything. They still want to be involved in couple’s events.

· Do not assume that they are going through the same grieving process as the books lay out. Keep in mind their grieving could be totally different.

· If you’re going to make an offer to a grieving person, make sure you follow through and go or do whatever you say.

More from Miriam Neff

· If you have experienced loss, take the time to identify what is the place that energizes you. Focus on what energizes you.

· Do not neglect your own health. Stress will make you more vulnerable to illness.

· Exercise is a great stress reliever, and very beneficial to your health

· A professional massage may compensate for the lack of touch in your life.

· Journaling is a good way to help you express what you feel

· Continue to pray even if you don’t know the right words God will hear you.

· Continue to ask for help - remind yourself that those who love you really do you want to help.

https://www.widowmight.org/7-tips-to-help-a-widow/

 

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