We call Tom "the King of the Kranium".  This week, we find out why, a little, with strategies Tom uses in session.

The Session: Tom’s 3 Top Parenting Strategies 

Psalm 127:3-4: Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.
 

Have A New Kid By Friday

Reality Therapy

• Build a good relationship.
• – Examine the current behavior

           Discuss it

• – Evaluate behavior-helpful or not?
• – Brainstorm alternatives.
• – Commit to new plan.
• – Evaluate results-no punish/excuses.
• – Accept logical & natural consequences.
• – Don't get discouraged. 

Have A New Kid By Friday

• Let reality be the teacher. Learn to respond rather than react. Attitude, behavior and character are caught, catch your child doing it right
• Attempt to stop the behavior, either by ignoring it or by issuing a concept
• Introduce a new behavior that you prefer and reinforce it by celebrating your child 

Celebration Of Success-YAY!  I KNEW WE WOULD GET TO IT!

• How Celebrating Success is Different Than Positive Reinforcement 
• Put Children In Position To Be Successful
• Discuss What Being Successful Would Feel Like
• Set Realistic Goals That Facilitate Success
• List Of Celebrations
• Eight Top Emotional Needs Are Met

        Acceptance

        Approval

        Affirmation

        Attention

        Affection

        Respect

        Encouragement

        Security

• Speak life. Give them a glimpse of their potential. “You are a man of God. ...
• Let love guide your discipline. If you feel angry or out of control when you discipline, stop. Seek help from godly counsel. ...
• Celebrate each child. Seek out what is special about your children. 

Get to the Root of the Behavior

Be Consistent

Discipline, Don’t Punish

To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.