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In this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on their personal beliefs and the impact of societal and religious messages on their 'sexpectations.' The episode emphasizes the need for communication, intentionality, and understanding to overcome myths about natural sexual prowess. By addressing issues like gender scripts, poor sex education, and religious shame, the discussion aims to help couples enhance their intimacy and connection. Additionally, it explores factors that affect libido, such as the energy and beliefs around sex, and offers strategies to strengthen sexual relationships post-childbirth.

00:00 Introduction to The Brick Wall Series
01:01 Cultural and Spiritual Dimensions
01:39 Great Sexpectations: Unrealistic Media Portrayals
03:29 The Importance of Communication in Sex
04:38 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles
05:41 Debunking the Myth of Constant Readiness
06:54 Understanding Libido, Arousal, and Connection
07:01 Gender Scripts and Sexual Expectations
07:41 The Impact of Shitty Sex Ed
08:17 Religious Beliefs and Sexuality
10:26 Exploring Energy and Tantra
12:31 Recap and Moving Forward

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

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In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast we continue our series exploring what factors impact libido and our desire and drive to have sex and connect with our partner after kids. In part 2 we explore the emotional dynamics at play including:  the importance of communication, equitable division of labor, and modeling healthy intimacy for children. Practical advice, including resources like 'Fair Play,' and reflections on trauma, shame, and societal expectations round out the conversation. The episode encourages listeners to engage in dialogue and reflect on their personal experiences.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:29 Understanding the Brick Wall
01:48 Exploring Emotional Shifts
03:01 Gender Scripts and Relationship Dynamics
05:37 Impact of Parenting on Intimacy
11:19 Emotional and Hormonal Interplay
13:56 Body Image and Self-Perception
16:09 The Importance of Healthy Intimacy
16:51 Navigating Postpartum Sexual Concerns
18:19 Addressing Emotional Bricks in Relationships
21:30 The Impact of Gender Scripts on Relationships
25:37 Balancing Chores and Emotional Labor
27:22 Cultural Narratives and Sexual Shame
28:42 Understanding Trauma and Sexual Boundaries
30:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In the next three episodes we are going to start by helping you map the new sex drive landscape post-kids. So many clients I talk to don't know where their desire or interest for sex went after kids - and the truth is, there are a lot of potential culprits. So let's help you get to the bottom of it.

In the first of the three part mini series we'll explore the physical dimensions of change in your sex life after kids.

01:34 Understanding the Libido Brick Wall
04:07 Four Dimensions Affecting Post-Kids Sexuality
07:05 Physical Changes and Their Impact
10:06 Navigating Postpartum Physical Challenges
12:18 Hormonal Changes and Their Impact on Libido
12:49 Breastfeeding and Vaginal Lubrication
13:14 Hormone Fluctuations and Health Conditions
14:02 Identifying Your Bricks
14:49 Medication and Birth Control Effects
16:17 Stress and Fatigue
18:43 Sensory Overwhelm and Libido
20:04 Disability and Chronic Pain
21:00 Summarizing Physical Dimensions
22:30 Personal Reflections and Conclusion

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Hello world! Welcome to the first ever episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast. The place to be if you are in a sexual stalemate after children and don't know what to do about it. We are one part science, one magic and one part real talk to help you find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids. 

From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes.

Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted. 

00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding
00:09 Navigating Tough Seasons
00:11 Staying Connected Through the Early Years
00:16 Emerging Together Stronger

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.

Send us a text

Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

Episodes released every Tuesday. 

Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.