Few things leave women as shaken as a genital herpes diagnosis, and it’s not hard to understand why. 

On top of the STI itself, the discovery of HSV2 often leads to a ton of uncomfortable questions. Where was it contracted? Could a partner have strayed? And perhaps the toughest of all: how do we tell our partners about the diagnosis?

That being said, while we should never downplay the seriousness of genital herpes, it’s far from a death sentence. In fact, we can still lead great, long and healthy lives after contracting the virus - and the same goes for our sex lives. 

In this episode, I’m going to walk you through a discussion of HSV2, and share some tips on how to have the tough conversations post-diagnosis. 

Things We Learned From This Episode

• A rundown of the Herpes family (it’s bigger than you think!)
• How to tell a new partner about a herpes diagnosis
• How to resume your sex life, POST-outbreak
• What to do to ease the symptoms of genital herpes and prevent spreading it

When we hear the word ‘inertia’ most of our minds head straight to physics (that is, unless we’re thinking about how pretty the word sounds), but the truth is, inertia affects us way more than we realize, and it can have a massive impact on our inner sexy. 

In physics, ‘inertia’ refers to matter staying in its state until an external force stops it, and that’s something we can see in multiple areas of our lives; from upholding a status quo because it’s easier that way, to a relationship falling into (and staying in) a rut because it seems like too much effort to change it. 

It should come as no surprise, then, that our sex lives can fall victim to inertia, too. Ever woken up one day to realize it’s been months since you last had an orgasm? Yup. Inertia in action! So, where’s the external force to stop it? 

In this episode, I’m sharing what we can do to stop sexual inertia in its tracks. 

Things We Learned From This Episode

• Examples to prove the universe is dripping with inertia
• Why sexual inertia and relationship inertia AREN’T always linked
• The age group most impacted by sexual inertia (this one is a shocker)
• How to nourish our inner sexy when life gets in the way
• When it’s a good idea to add sex to a to-do list (but NOT as a chore!)

I’ve often overheard women talking about gifting their friends vibrators for the holidays, but I’m of the mind that that’s not a great idea. Sex toys and tools are a little personal, so it’s probably best to avoid giving them to others, unless we’re going for a gag gift. 

When it comes to gifting sex tools to ourselves, however, that’s a different story altogether. Every woman should gift themselves a vibrator. After all, who has the energy to get mad at Aunt Martha and her holiday menu when we’re reveling in a post-orgasm buzz? 

In this episode, I’m sharing tips on how to find the perfect holiday companion. 

Things We Learned From This Episode

• How much we should really be spending on a sex tool
• 1 surprising similarity between a vibrator and other household appliances 
• How to find a vibrator that rocks our world (at a respectable volume) 
• The top tip that’ll save us from vibrator blue-balling

Polyamory isn’t something often discussed in ‘proper’ social circles, but the topic doesn’t need to be salacious by any means. 

We’ve been trained to believe there’s something wrong with polyamory, but many of our reservations stem directly from misunderstanding. As with just about anything outside of our comfort zones, we’ve labeled it as ‘bad,’ not even knowing what it is!

So, what is polarmory, then, and what does a polyamorous relationship entail? How can we assess if it’s something we want to try in our own love lives or if we’re better suited to steering clear?

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on polyamory - because someone has to!

Things We Learned From This Episode

• Different types of polyamorous relationships
• Why polyamory is NOT cheating
• How to broach the idea of polyamory with your monogamous partner
• The TV shows shedding (much needed!) light on polyamory
• The difference between polyamory and swinging

When we hear about celebrities having tantric sex (um, hello, Tom Hanks!) our minds tend to go straight to one understanding of what that means: 72 hours of wild, uninhibited, no-bathroom-breaks passion...but what if we’ve got that all wrong?

The truth is, tantra is about way more than ‘just’ sex, and by understanding it in such narrow terms, we’re really only missing out on something way deeper and more beautiful. 

So, what is tantric sex? More importantly, how can we start getting some of that?

In this episode, I’m talking tantra and the beauty of full-bodied intimacy. 

3 Things We Learned From This Episode

• How to practice tantra without a partner
• 1 thing yoga and tantra have in common (and I’m not talking about next-level flexibility, here)
• The key to a bigger, BETTER orgasm

Most of us love vision boards. Who doesn’t enjoy cutting up pictures of things we love and slapping them on a pretty board? However, one of the biggest reasons we love them is because they give us hope.

Having a roadmap of what we want gives us a break from agonizing over what we don’t. My question is, why aren’t we using these little tools to conjure up the sex lives of our dreams?

Whether we’re using them to manifest a frenzied sex life full of our wildest fantasies, or simply create a more healthy approach to sex, having a vision board is a great way to visualize what we want and remind us it’s possible (all while having fun!). 

In this episode, I’m sharing how putting together a vision board helped one of my past patients create a more fulfilling sex life, so she could fully embrace her inner sexy. 

Things We Learned From This Episode

• Why our upbringing impacts our sex lives more than we think
• How to pinpoint the things holding us back from better sex 
• How to handle a narcissistic ex-partner (that doesn't involve a pig farm!)
• Why talking to our partners about previous encounters is the key to better sex

We tend to think that talking to the youth about sex increases the likelihood of them making bad choices, but the truth is, we're doing more damage by keeping them in the dark.

If we're not talking to the younger generations about sex, someone else is, and there's no telling what they might be exposed to. 

The other benefit to being open and talking about sex is we have the potential to help the new generation define their sexy sooner, so they feel more empowered to explore in a way that works for them. So, what's stopping us from getting started already? 

In this episode, I'm delving into why it's so important to talk about sex with youngsters (and how to do it!).

3 Things We Learned From This Episode

• The age kids begin to shape their beliefs about sex, their bodies and the world
• How to send a more sex-positive message to the youth
• 1 thing we want to avoid when talking to youngins about the deed

In my previous episode on painful intercourse, I spoke about the ‘front porch’ pain many ladies experience during sex, but for some women, that discomfort comes from deep within. 

As a result, those going through it tend to avoid deep penetration altogether, but girls, that just ain’t gonna cut it! 

Everyone deserves to enjoy sex, so it’s time to root out those deep-seated mood killers, once and for all! 

In this episode, I’m going all in on deep sex pain, so you never have to experience it again. 

3 Things We Learned From This Episode

• The Kroger bag analogy you never saw coming 
• An introduction to your vagina’s very own cul-de-sac 
• What can cause a SPRAINED vagina (yep, it’s possible!)

Painful intercourse isn’t a sexy topic, but it is a necessary one, and one we have to have if we want to stop it from messing with our bodies, our interpersonal relationships and our inner sexy.  

As many as 21% of all women have reported that they experience persistent pain during sex. However, while it’s good to know we’re not alone, that doesn’t mean we should accept it as normal.

Sex should be pleasurable, ladies, not painful! So, what’s a girl to do if she’s twisting the sheets for all the wrong reasons? 

In this episode, I’m explaining why so many women experience pain during sex, and more importantly, what to do about it. 

3 Things We Learned From This Episode

• ‘Front Porch’ causes of painful intercourse 
• How something as simple as a yeast infection can traumatize our bodies
• How to pinpoint what’s taking the sexy out of sex

There’s a lot more to sex than penises, vaginas, tongues and buttholes...a lot, lot more. From breasts to knees and hairy armpits, if you can wedge a dick in it, someone’s got off with it (and yes, you read that right, I said armpit). 

Believe it or not, there are dozens of ways people enjoy each other’s bodies, and experience explosive, orgasmic pleasure without vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Now, you’re probably thinking, “Dr. B, I’ve heard it all, and I’ve seen the porn,” but believe me, you’re about to be surprised and maybe even a little intrigued. 

In the third and final installment of our series on sex, we’re going to explore all the creative and less-discussed forms of sexual stimulation people engage in, and how a pair of knees could actually be a huge turn-on! 

3 Things We Learned From This Episode

• What James Joyce had to say about one of the acts on my list (hint: he was a fan).  
• Fisting, buttcheek sex and how to tell the difference between female pleasure and the male fetishization of women’s bodies.
• Why some women prefer fingers to penises, and the erotic potential of your digits.