What do you mean it’s normal to not want sex with your partner all the time? We talked with Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and globally recognized intimacy educator, to explore what really creates lasting intimacy in modern relationships. From sharing her own relationship publicly to reaching millions through digital education, Vanessa brings an honest and practical perspective to conversations about sex. We talk through some of the most common challenges couples face, including desire discrepancy, communication struggles, and the pressure to feel spontaneous desire. Vanessa reframes these experiences and explains why great s//x is not about waiting to feel in the mood, but about creating experiences that are actually worth wanting and learning how to communicate clearly with your partner. Key takeaways:- Desire discrepancy is normal in every relationship and not something to fix, but to understand.- Specific communication tools and scripts are far more effective than generic advice.- Focusing on the experience of sex and why it is "worth wanting" is more important than waiting for desire to strike. Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Vanessa Marin 01:31 – Sharing intimacy publicly and vulnerability in relationships 03:48 – Vanessa’s origin story and early experiences with sexual shame 04:52 – Why professionals must do their own internal work first 06:07 – Moving beyond vague advice in sex therapy toward specificity 08:22 – Deep dive into understanding desire discrepancy in couples 11:11– Why focusing on sexual experience and sex worth wanting matters more than desire 12:53 – Transitioning from private practice to digital education 15:43 – The Sexology Practice Guide: Scaling impact 18:00 – Working with her husband and teaching as a couple 22:47 – The number one factor for long term intimacy is communication 24:23 – Navigating censorship and the evolving conversation around sex on social media Resources Mentioned in this episode:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/ The Sexology Practice Guide: A short practical guide for incorporating intimacy and sexual health into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from this episode’s guest at: https://vmtherapy.com/ Subscribe and Review:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and share. Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.https://sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!

What do you mean it’s normal to not want sex with your partner all the time? We talked with Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and globally recognized intimacy educator, to explore what really creates lasting intimacy in modern relationships. From sharing her own relationship publicly to reaching millions through digital education, Vanessa brings an honest and practical perspective to conversations about sex. We talk through some of the most common challenges couples face, including desire discrepancy, communication struggles, and the pressure to feel spontaneous desire. Vanessa reframes these experiences and explains why great s//x is not about waiting to feel in the mood, but about creating experiences that are actually worth wanting and learning how to communicate clearly with your partner. Key takeaways: - Desire discrepancy is normal in every relationship and not something to fix, but to understand. - Specific communication tools and scripts are far more effective than generic advice. - Focusing on the experience of sex and why it is "worth wanting" is more important than waiting for desire to strike. Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Vanessa Marin 01:31 – Sharing intimacy publicly and vulnerability in relationships 03:48 – Vanessa’s origin story and early experiences with sexual shame 04:52 – Why professionals must do their own internal work first 06:07 – Moving beyond vague advice in sex therapy toward specificity 08:22 – Deep dive into understanding desire discrepancy in couples 11:11– Why focusing on sexual experience and sex worth wanting matters more than desire 12:53 – Transitioning from private practice to digital education 15:43 – The Sexology Practice Guide: Scaling impact 18:00 – Working with her husband and teaching as a couple 22:47 – The number one factor for long term intimacy is communication 24:23 – Navigating censorship and the evolving conversation around sex on social media Resources Mentioned in this episode: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/ The Sexology Practice Guide: A short practical guide for incorporating intimacy and sexual health into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from this episode’s guest at: https://vmtherapy.com/ Subscribe and Review: If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and share. Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.https://sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!

What do you mean it’s normal to not want sex with your partner all the time? We talked with Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and globally recognized intimacy educator, to explore what really creates lasting intimacy in modern relationships. From sharing her own relationship publicly to reaching millions through digital education, Vanessa brings an honest and practical perspective to conversations about sex. We talk through some of the most common challenges couples face, including desire discrepancy, communication struggles, and the pressure to feel spontaneous desire. Vanessa reframes these experiences and explains why great s//x is not about waiting to feel in the mood, but about creating experiences that are actually worth wanting and learning how to communicate clearly with your partner. Key takeaways:- Desire discrepancy is normal in every relationship and not something to fix, but to understand.- Specific communication tools and scripts are far more effective than generic advice.- Focusing on the experience of sex and why it is "worth wanting" is more important than waiting for desire to strike. Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Vanessa Marin 01:31 – Sharing intimacy publicly and vulnerability in relationships 03:48 – Vanessa’s origin story and early experiences with sexual shame 04:52 – Why professionals must do their own internal work first 06:07 – Moving beyond vague advice in sex therapy toward specificity 08:22 – Deep dive into understanding desire discrepancy in couples 11:11– Why focusing on sexual experience and sex worth wanting matters more than desire 12:53 – Transitioning from private practice to digital education 15:43 – The Sexology Practice Guide: Scaling impact 18:00 – Working with her husband and teaching as a couple 22:47 – The number one factor for long term intimacy is communication 24:23 – Navigating censorship and the evolving conversation around sex on social media Resources Mentioned in this episode:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/ The Sexology Practice Guide: A short practical guide for incorporating intimacy and sexual health into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from this episode’s guest at: https://vmtherapy.com/ Subscribe and Review:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and share. Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.https://sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!

Why Couples Struggle with Desire, Intimacy and Communication | Vanessa Marin | Episode 4

Welcome to the destination where human potential meets erotic intelligence. The Sexology Lab is where science meets intimacy, and research meets real life. We are replacing shame with research-backed curiosity to examine the truths of being human.Each week, we step into The Lab with the most compelling minds in modern sexology, from pioneering researchers and visionary clinicians to sextech innovators and skilled educators. We go beyond the headlines and into the physiology of pleasure, the psychology of attachment, and the business of sexology.Inside the Lab:<ol><li>Science-Forward Discussions: Explore the research behind attraction and the science of arousal.</li><li>Expert Insights: Hear from global leaders like Dr. Chris Donaghue, Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, and Dr. Amy Pearlman.</li><li>Global Community: Join a network of professionals advancing sexual health and wellness worldwide.</li></ol>The Sexology Lab is powered by the <a href="https://sexualhealthalliance.com/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Sexual Health Alliance (SHA)</a>, the global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals.Subscribe and join us as we ask better questions, rethink old assumptions, and redefine what wellness really means.

Welcome to the destination where human potential meets erotic intelligence. The Sexology Lab is where science meets intimacy, and research meets real life. We are replacing shame with research-backed curiosity to examine the truths of being human. Each week, we step into The Lab with the most compelling minds in modern sexology, from pioneering researchers and visionary clinicians to sextech innovators and skilled educators. We go beyond the headlines and into the physiology of pleasure, the psychology of attachment, and the business of sexology. Inside the Lab:Science-Forward Discussions: Explore the research behind attraction and the science of arousal.Expert Insights: Hear from global leaders like Dr. Chris Donaghue, Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, and Dr. Amy Pearlman.Global Community: Join a network of professionals advancing sexual health and wellness worldwide.The Sexology Lab is powered by the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), the global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Subscribe and join us as we ask better questions, rethink old assumptions, and redefine what wellness really means.

Welcome to the destination where human potential meets erotic intelligence. The Sexology Lab is where science meets intimacy, and research meets real life. We are replacing shame with research-backed curiosity to examine the truths of being human.Each week, we step into The Lab with the most compelling minds in modern sexology, from pioneering researchers and visionary clinicians to sextech innovators and skilled educators. We go beyond the headlines and into the physiology of pleasure, the psychology of attachment, and the business of sexology.Inside the Lab:<ol><li>Science-Forward Discussions: Explore the research behind attraction and the science of arousal.</li><li>Expert Insights: Hear from global leaders like Dr. Chris Donaghue, Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, and Dr. Amy Pearlman.</li><li>Global Community: Join a network of professionals advancing sexual health and wellness worldwide.</li></ol>The Sexology Lab is powered by the&nbsp;<a href="https://sexualhealthalliance.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Sexual Health Alliance (SHA)</a>, the global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals.Subscribe and join us as we ask better questions, rethink old assumptions, and redefine what wellness really means.

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The conversation on human potential is incomplete without erotic intelligence. The Sexology Lab is where intimacy meets science, and where curiosity replaces shame. Each week, we step inside The Lab with the most compelling minds in modern sexology: pioneering researchers, visionary clinicians, sextech innovators, cultural disruptors, and leading educators. Together, we explore the questions shaping the future of desire, connection, and human wellness. This isn’t a podcast about the physical act. It’s a podcast about being human. Subscribe and join us as redefine wellness.

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