TSL 0122 – 2 Simple Ways to Get Sexual with What You Say (and you’re being totally honest)
This is a quick little audio/article comes directly from a TSL Online call where we are workshopping our identity. Our Identity Workbook is massive and it is where we start with all of our social dynamics design. If we are going to be using social dynamics by design we need to have a thorough understanding of ourselves.
In our third grouping of the Identity Workbook we talk about ‘Attraction’. More specifically we talk about 2 things –
What are we attracted to?
What’s attractive about us?
When we can talk about those things we can not only empower ourselves, but we can also move conversations into what naturally motivates us. If we are talking to a woman and we are able to specifically target what we are attracted to mentally, physically and emotionally from a women, just think about how much easier your conversations can be. Your anxiety lowers and you end up having better relationships and sex. In literally every way this model will out perform the traditional approach to social dynamics.
If we can get women to talk about what we find is attractive about our lives it is almost like game over. Imagine if you’re into your creativity with solving problems at work, most men think women can’t relate with that, but you can structure your conversations around having women want to know more about those things and when that happens you’re naturally motivated for the connection.
Let’s Start With Sex
Many men, when they list what they’re attracted to talk about sex. The shitty thing about this is most men think you can’t talk about sex or your urge and desire for a woman’s body to a woman you just met. The fact is, it is easy. We follow the same principle that we follow always in TSL – If you can get someone to understand you, you can get someone to express. This is super easy and we not only break it down in the audio, but we break it down a little bit lower.
ON THE CALL
This audio comes from a TSL Online Call, where one of our TSL brothers wanted to workshop this one question from the Attraction Section of the Identity Workbook.
What are the 3 most attractive qualities about a woman, and how do they interact with one another?
Confusing…I know. But let us show you how easy it can be.
His answers –
Most attractive qualities – Her mentality is healthy, her emotions are balanced and he affection she gives me.
How they connect is that if she is going to be able to give me affection the affection that I like she needs to be balanced mentally and emotionally. Her life needs to be stable.
You might be thinking, ‘How the hell is someone supposed to express and share that with a woman?’
I say, WHY AREN’T YOU SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH?
Sadly most social dynamics is based not on your truth, but a concept or an idea about masculinity that you are supposed to ‘act out’ in order to learn it. Kinda like the die hard PUA Direct game guys. They open direct then the rest of them and their lives is the most passive fear based representation of a man, it is like there are 2 women trying to figure out ‘who’s the man’. Fun game…
I asked our buddy on the call, “How would you define affection that you like?”
He boldly said,
“There’s 2, when you are really connected emotionally with a girl and she shows her adoration and affection for you and then when you fuck the shit out of her”
(I hope the ‘fuck the shit out of her’ doesn’t bother you, but hey on the TSL calls we talk like men about sex…it happens)
I started thinking this is GREAT! Most people think that this is something that cannot communicate to women. It is really a sad thing. The fact of the matter is, you can easily communicate it.
Remember, if they can understand it then they can connect with it.
