Jess unpacks a hidden truth so many women carry: the shame we feel for simply surviving. When life gets overwhelming – kids, work, relationships, identity – we drop into survival mode. And then we make ourselves wrong for it.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with you? What if survival mode is not a flaw to fix but a truth to honour?

From daily walks in nature with her daughter to the deeper layers of nervous system wiring, Jess offers a reframe that brings both science and soul. She gently challenges the self-help culture that pathologises survival – and instead invites us to soften toward the parts of us that have only ever been trying to keep us safe.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why survival mode is not a failure – it’s biology
• How modern life keeps us disconnected from our natural rhythms
• A nervous system lens on shame, overthinking, procrastination and “frantic energy”
• Why your “flaws” are likely survival strategies that served you once
• A powerful invitation to befriend the parts of you you've tried to fix

Reflection:

What if nothing is wrong with you? What if every part you’ve tried to shame, hate, or hide is actually here to protect you? Jess invites you to stop resisting – and start listening. Because the moment you befriend your survival self is the moment your true self begins to rise.

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