The Sharing Space: Conversations for Mental Wellbeing

Work harder! Don't sleep! Don't take holidays! Win at all costs!

Vijay drops in to talk about getting entangled in HC, alternative approaches, motivation vs discipline and other tangents.

Take some time out to listen in and if you want to contact us with any of your thoughts you can do so here: [email protected]

Books mentioned:

Tribal Leadership

Sapiens

The 4-hour Workweek

00:00:00 Welcome to The Sharing Space

00:01:02 What is Hustle Culture and why do we do it?

00:03:02 Vaynerchuk, Hormozi

00:08:33 Rejecting Hustle Culture

00:10:26 Putting a divider between work and life

00:11:55 External pressures & working 12-hour days

00:13:11 Learning to value rest

00:15:25 Are Hustle videos harmful or helpful?

00:16:33 Vulnerable people

00:17:20 Filling the void: loneliness and boredom

00:19:40 Wanting to be different from the crowd

00:21:26 Identity in your 20s

00:22:25 Hustle culture and mental health

00:23:40 Tim Ferriss and the 4-Hour Workweek

00:26:10 Who is Hormozi's advice for?

00:26:36 Motivation vs discipline

00:27:44 The gym analogy

00:30:41 What keeps you disciplined: carrot vs stick

00:34:05 Identity-based motivation

00:35:11 Vijay's turning point

00:39:48 The post-COVID reality check

00:40:18 Deathbed regrets

00:41:04 Tribes, community and parenting

00:43:11 Modern overload and choosing an identity

00:46:17 Stepping into leadership roles

00:49:00 Shared values and a noble cause

00:49:51 What are you proud of?

00:56:28 Values

00:58:58 Why purpose changes over time

01:00:10 Losing faith in NLP

01:02:46 Beliefs vs Values

01:03:35 Motivating low-performers

01:06:44 Closing thoughts

Worried that people will 'find out', that you will be exposed as a fraud, that you don't really have any idea what you're doing?

Our friend Zanne returns for a convo about Imposter Phenomenon.

And guess what's one of the solutions? Normalising it by sharing it. And that's what we're here for....welcome to The Sharing Space.

Hope you enjoy and if you want to contact us with any of your thoughts you can do so here: [email protected]

00:00:37 Intro

00:02:22 Our Definitions of Imposter Syndrome

00:04:43 Public Speaking Anxiety and Experiences

00:06:30 Self-Doubt vs. Imposter Syndrome

00:07:27 A Career Luck Story & Resulting Imposter Phenomenon

00:09:52 External vs. Internal Reality

00:11:56 Trying to be Normal and the Fear of Being "Found Out"

00:12:22 Social Anxiety and Imposter Phenomenon

00:13:52 Staying in Your Comfort Zone

00:15:18 3 Ways We Discount Success: Luck, Charisma, Hard Work

00:18:33 Comfort Zones & Imposter Syndrome

00:19:42 The Imposter Cycle: Procrastination vs. Over-Preparing

00:21:34 ADHD, Brain RAM and Managing Distractions

00:22:04 How Open Loops and Unfinished Tasks Cause Anxiety

00:25:06 Getting Away With It

00:25:36 Identity and Self-Image mismatch

00:27:26 Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage

00:30:41 Showing Your Worth around Peers and Authority Figures

00:31:53 5 Imposter Syndrome Archetypes: The Perfectionist & The Natural Genius

00:33:04 The Soloist Archetype: Asking for Help Feels Like Incompetence

00:33:43 The Expert Archetype: The Constant Pursuit of Self-Improvement

00:35:16 The Dunning-Kruger Effect: The More You Know The Less Confident You Feel

00:36:30 The Superperson Archetype: Burnout and the Gifted Child

00:39:04 Albert Einstein and Celebrity Imposter Syndrome

00:40:44 Strategy: Sharing Your Worries Normalises Imposter Phenomenon

00:41:29 The Power of Social Connection and Podcast Communities for Mental Health

00:42:22 Environmental Effects on Confidence

00:45:20 You Don’t See What Others Go Through

00:46:08 Target Fixation: Focusing on Negatives Creates Negative Outcomes

00:47:01 Positive Reinforcement

00:49:15 Reframing Anxiety into Excitement: The Radical Positivity Approach

00:51:19 Developing a Growth Mindset vs. a Fixed Mindset

00:53:30 Different Causes

00:56:10 Shock Your Subconscious into Submission

00:57:25 Medication Experience

00:58:06 Regular Comfort Zone Expansion to Increase Your Baseline

Conversationalists: Kat, Luke, Crispin

Finding the life To Do list never gets any smaller? Struggling to fit it all in? Avoiding small tasks because your mind just can't deal with another job?

Us too!!

We know we should be spending time on rest and recovery to recharge ourselves but it's easier said than done, right?

Check out our experiences, thoughts and potential strategies.

And if you want to get in touch:

[email protected]

Bounce Back-ability, Flexibility, Growth Mindset. However you want to describe it, Resilience is the topic for this episode. Luke & Crispin are joined by Kat and Ray for a chat around experiences, fluctuating resilience levels and our current strategies.

Hope you enjoy and if you want to contact us with any of your thoughts you can do so here: [email protected]

A pared down episode with just Luke & Crispin delving deep into personal and uncomfortable experiences of comfort zone limitations and avoidance techniques.

If any of this resonates with you then you may find this episode brings you some comfort to hear others vocalise similar struggles and perhaps even motivates you to push yourself beyond your own limitations.

Enjoy!

Share your stories: [email protected]

00:00:00 Welcome to The Sharing Space

00:00:38 Defining Comfort Zones & Avoidance

00:01:37 Host Backgrounds & Introductions

00:05:33 Overcoming Mental Health Layers

00:10:54 Lockdown & Teams Meeting Anxiety

00:16:32 Widening Your Zone Step-by-Step

00:22:02 Cultural Impacts on Confidence

00:25:24 Embarrassing Teenage Avoidance Stories

00:29:30 Three Types of Avoidance

00:32:23 Travel and Connections

00:38:58 Email as an Avoidance Technique

00:40:22 Uni, Low Self-Esteem & Tension

00:44:15 Using Alcohol as a Coping Tool

00:48:00 Presentation Axiety Story & Imposter Syndrome

00:50:31 Feedback and Feed Forward

00:53:55 Advice to My 21-Year-Old Self

00:56:52 Opening Up About Antidepressants

01:04:53 Tech, Boundaries & Avoidance

01:07:26 Strategies & benefits of pushing beyond comfort zones

01:12:35 Like-minded people & Regret

Matthew shares with us some significant life events, his personal growth story and his inspirational journey towards creating a charity to help people connect with each other.

Sit back and enjoy Matthew's tales of his eventful life and his ambitious aspirations.

Share your thoughts: [email protected]

00:00:01 Welcome to The Sharing Space

00:01:24 Formats, Headline Topics & Growth

00:02:56 Live, Love, Learn, Grow, Evolve

00:04:18 Turning Knowledge into Wisdom

00:05:40 Shifting from Logic to Intuition

00:06:39 Grief, Travel & Weight Loss

00:09:50 Limits of Science and Religion

00:12:33 Reframing Death & Continuation

00:14:46 Breaking Cycles of Conformity

00:17:17 From Military to Airline Pilot

00:20:37 The Simon Sinek Car Analogy

00:22:59 Resigning on the 4th of the 4th

00:26:05 Space for New Creativity

00:27:49 Mind Dumps and Dream Lists

00:30:00 Terrifying Online Interviews

00:33:09 Documentaries & Hypnotherapy

00:36:14 Charity Work for Lonely Souls

00:40:00 Conscious vs Subconscious Mind

00:43:12 Childhood and Familiar Gravity

00:45:36 Tools for Emotional Awareness

00:47:10 The Subconscious 90% Filter

00:51:06 Replacing Judgment with Curiosity

00:54:21 Thoughts and Emotional Charges

00:57:39 Surrender, Acceptance, Gratitude

00:59:33 Shifting Perspective on Thoughts

01:03:23 The Present-Past Loop & Anxiety

01:09:54 Duality and Discomfort in Change

01:12:05 Tuning Into the Energy Body

01:15:14 Reclaiming Vital Alone Time

01:16:47 Heart Processing & Hypnotherapy

01:20:18 Luke's Calling Toward Counseling

01:22:42 A Literal Breaking Point Hike

01:24:56 Stepping Through the Three Doors

01:27:28 Episode Wrap-up & Final Remarks

Hello!

In this episode, Crispin, Luke and Zanne discuss the topic of purpose & aimlessness.

Why do we feel pressure to have a purpose?

Can we be content without a purpose?

Can you live without purpose without being aimless?

Does having a purpose cause stress?

We discuss these questions as well as our personal experiences, thoughts and strategies.

Share your thoughts: [email protected]

00:00:00 Welcome to The Sharing Space

00:01:07 Special Guest Zanne & Topic Definition

00:03:03 Scoring Personal Purpose Out of Ten

00:05:34 Religious Upbringings & Shared Values

00:07:09 Latent Potential vs Chosen Paths

00:09:10 Can you live without purpose without being aimless?

00:10:56 Is this a modern phenomena?

00:12:05 Social Media Grind Cult & False Purposes

00:13:41 Can a search for Purpose be a cause of stress?

00:16:45 Mel Robbins & Shifting Energy Levels

00:20:27 Age Box Anxiety & Biological Timelines

00:22:20 Carl Jung's Archetypes & The Self

00:23:46 The Eternal Child Urge & Nostalgia

00:27:53 Self Development & Self Discovery

00:31:58 Ikigai: The Four Intersecting Elements

00:33:40 Viktor Frankl & Man's Search for Meaning

00:37:20 Is Everyone's Purpose to Serve Others?

00:38:29 Triggers of Aimlessness: Boredom & Psychological Pain

00:43:00 Social Anxiety as a Motivator

00:46:13 Toastmasters & Reigniting Creativity

00:50:31 The Rat Park Experiment

00:52:30 Strategies to at least reduce aimlessness if findng a purpose is too challenging

00:55:30 Hot Ears

Hi!

In this episode, Luke, Nick & myself chat about making friends (sometimes in in unusual places), the importance of social connection, self awareness, the detrimental impacts of loneliness & isolation, getting outside your comfort zone and lots of other bits & pieces.

If you're feeling lost or looking for help in dealing with your struggles then I hope that this brings you some comfort, relief, insights & inspiration.

Enjoy!

Crispin.

Email: [email protected]

00:01:08 does it get harder to make friends as you get older?

00:02:04 defining connections

00:04:09 stats, loneliness, sleep & mortality

00:06:30 Nick Littlehales TED talk on sleep

00:07:40 lacking capacity for new relationships

00:08:10 isolation & solo travelling

00:14:20 meditation downsides

00:18:10 blushing, feeling on show

00:20:20 making friends later in life

00:30:00 normalising the normal - getting outside comfort zone

00:30:40 self help can be a lonely activity

00:32:00 three needs for good mental health

00:32:55 the impact of rejection on mental health

00:35:50 everyone likes you more than you think they do

00:36:30 tips for making friends & stories from the sauna

00:43:40 small talk tactics

00:44:40 strategies for making connections

00:46:15 self-awareness & insecurities

00:48:20 public speaking

00:49:30 having things in common

00:50:05 Nick’s experience of being the outsider

00:52:00 strategies continued

00:53:20 NLP and CBT differences

00:57:00 childhood experiences

00:59:25 parental and environmental impact

01:00:20 attachment theory

01:02:39 things not to do

Hello!

In this episode Nick and Ray join me to chat about anxieties, fears, embarrassments and the fight/flight/freeze response when speaking in front of groups.

There is also chat around origins of issues, TV appearances, ADHD, upbringings, strategies and Toastmasters.

Hopefully you will feel comforted from other people talking similar things that may be affecting you.

00:00 intro

01:20 learning public speaking vs natural confidence

05:25 experience of asking a question at a gambling summit

07:50 the benefits of social connections

09:00 delving into Nick’s experience

11:40 being on TV

12:40 not seeing improvements

13:50 Nick’s journey to Toastmasters & school stories

16:15 intrinsic personalities

17:00 possible childhood traumas

17:50 unable to understand the fight or flight response

18:50 the difference between normal and abnormal nervousness

21:20 anxiety experiences

22:10 delayed/dormant anxieties

27:00 neurodiversity

29:30 same upbringing different results

32:00 confident kids

34:00 intelligence & confidence

35:05 inheriting confidence/shyness

37:45 intense daydreaming

40:30 stimming, Autism & layers of quirks

44:00 a career that fits your quirks

45:40 thoughts on how the episode went & some random chat

Welcome to the debut episode and thanks for joining us.

I hope some of our conversations resonate with you, help you feel less alone and spur you on to improving your situation.

Future episodes will feature conversations between 3-4 people for a more diverse perspective but for this debut outing we're keeping it simple with just Crispin and Luke.

We spend some time delving into the intention of the podcast before discussing our first ever topic: goals & ambitions.

Enjoy!

00:00 intro

01:25 The Sharing Space concept and intentions

04:45 the loneliness of self help

07:15 how we’ll manage the topics

07:50 goals & ambitions discussion

09:58 why should we have goals?

11:22 is goal-setting a stressor?

14:40 the dilemma of comparison

18:28 infectious generosity (Chris Anderson TED talk)

19:40 a story of an unachieved goal

23:40 having big goals

27:00 our values

32:40 the importance of social connections & friendships

41:30 some thoughts & strategies