Are you the kind of person who is always apologizing for every little thing, even just for taking up space? The truth is that apologizing is typically not the most effective way to communicate with others and can actually cause you to be out of alignment with your own values. Today, co-hosts Ben and Paige talk about the concept of forgiveness, how to properly apologize when it is warranted, and how to stop apologizing when it is not necessary. 

Every interaction you have with another person teaches them something about who you are. By always apologizing for things like simply taking up space, you are teaching people that you are a burden to be around. Most apologies are not genuine or made with intention, but instead are about overcoming guilt or shame. Instead of being a person who feels guilty simply for being yourself, try to behave as a person who is comfortable taking up space in the world. 

The most effective apology is the one you make to yourself. If you do something that you later realize was not in alignment with how you want to show up in the world, then go ahead and apologize! But that apology is for your benefit, not the benefit of others. Learn more about the trap of over apologizing, the importance of communicating with intentionality, and how to build your self-esteem so that you can stop apologizing for just being yourself. 

Quotes

• “You’re telling other people how to see you all the time, in every way that you’re showing up, in every interaction.” (15:45-15:49 | Ben)
• “Behave as though you are the kind of person who belongs at the center of the room. Behave as though you are the kind of person who is comfortable having eyes on you. Behave as though you are the kind of person who takes up space in the world, that you have a right to take up space in the world.” (17:34-17:51 | Ben)
• “If the tendency to apologize is part of your common vernacular, figure out what you can replace that with so that every time you say ‘sorry’ you can say something else instead.” (19:06-19:17 | Paige) 
• “A true apology is about realigning yourself with who you really are and coming to a new awareness about yourself, so that you show up in a different way in the world.” (25:55-26:06 | Ben)
• “My rule of thumb is that all apologies are actually apologies to yourself.” (28:17-28:21 | Ben)

Links

Connect with Ben and Paige:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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The trick to better relationships is better communication, and the trick to better communication skills is using values based communication. Today, co-hosts Ben and Paige Easter explain the benefits of switching to a values based model of communication. 

When you enter a conversation from a place of knowing your values and understanding your personal responsibility for getting those values met, you will have more meaningful communications. Instead of making demands of others, reword your conversations into requests. By giving people the chance to decline a request without risk of consequences, you are respecting their agency and enabling them to make choices that are in alignment with their own values.

If you want to strengthen your interpersonal relationships and feel like your values are being met, you can benefit tremendously from switching to a values based model of communication. Learn the four steps to values based communication and how to begin implementing them in your daily interactions. 

Quotes

• “If you just take nothing else from this podcast, and you start thinking of communication in terms of what do I want from this, what is important to me about this conversation, and what's important to that person about this conversation, your conversations are likely to go up in quality.” (8:35-8:49 | Ben)
• “I think about from there what that does to the quality of the relationship and then how willing I am to engage with that person when the impact of spending time with them is having this feeling that I don't get to have my values met, because I have to do something a certain way.” (13:09-13:26 | Paige)
• “If I can figure out a way to invite somebody to contribute to my reality in a way that will also contribute to their reality, that is a win-win.” (16:40-16:47 | Ben)
• “Maybe you can welcome me into an alternate reality where I see things from your perspective, and then it's no longer a problem for me.” (23:12-23:18 | Paige)
• “Am I believing right now that I'm okay if this person says no to this request? Because if not, then it's a demand.” (24:23-24:29 | Ben)

Links

Connect with Ben and Paige:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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Hypnotherapy can be a great tool for transforming limiting beliefs. Today, co-hosts Ben and Paige Easter dispel some of the common misconceptions around hypnotherapy, explain how hypnotherapy actually works, and talk about the benefits of hypnotherapy for personal transformation.

Rapid Transformational Therapy is a form of hypnotherapy designed to help solve a problem within one to three sessions. After your sessions, you will continue to experience transformation thanks to the 20 minute audio recording created while you are still in a subconscious state. By listening to this recording daily for 21 days, you can expect to see improvements in the areas you were working on in hypnotherapy. While hypnotherapy does drop you into a subconscious state similar to one attained through meditation, it cannot make you do anything that you wouldn’t normally be aligned with. 

If you are struggling with making a change in your life, hypnotherapy can help. Often we are being held back by limiting beliefs that we don’t even realize are there. Through hypnotherapy, you can find the root cause of that belief and show your brain that it is running outdated software. 

Quotes

• “Being in a hypnotic state is not the same as surrendering your autonomy, you will only make the kinds of decisions that are already in alignment for you.” (2:41-2:52 | Paige)
• “The last phase before coming out of a hypnotic state is to create the transformation, and this is a 15 to 20 minute recorded audio of all the things that the person wants to see transformed in their life.” (18:14-18:27 | Paige)
• “Everybody wants the pill, the push button solution to things and what hypnosis can do, especially this process where you get the recording, and then you listen to the recording over and over again, what it can do is sort of give you the easy version of transformation.” (20:10-20:25 | Ben)

Links

Connect with Ben and Paige:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

Schedule a Hypnotherapy Intake Call with Paige: https://calendly.com/paigelucidshiftcoaching/hypno-intake?month=2023-01 

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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Affirmations are a very useful tool for becoming the person you want to be in life, but you may not have tried them simply because the concept sounds a little woo-woo at first. However, the impact of simple affirmations are very much based in neuroscience. Today, co-hosts Ben and Paige Easter talk about the scientific approach to affirmations and the way that they can benefit your personal development.

The way you talk to yourself matters, and oftentimes, it is easier for us to be negative towards ourselves. By practicing affirmations, you learn to replace those ingrained negative thoughts with something positive. In order to understand the world around you, your brain uses shortcuts called cognitive biases, which often cause us to believe things about ourselves and the world that are not true. When you create an affirmation, you are priming your reticular activating system to instead look for evidence that back up that positive affirmation thought. To create your affirmations, it helps to engage in visualization and think hard about that ideal version of yourself so that you can work backwards from there. 

Affirmations are powerful tools for changing the way you think about yourself and show up in the world. They may seem very metaphysical and woo-woo, but they are actually rooted in science. 

Quotes

• “What we're really trying to do when we're creating an affirmation is we're priming our brain, we're priming that reticular activating system to look for evidence that the affirmation thought is true.” (8:08-8:20 | Ben)
• “When we feel different, we show up differently. And we can increase our likelihood that we'll have the requisite internal resources to go out and act in a way that gets us the kind of results that we want in the world.” (13:54-14:06 | Paige)
• “You'll know your affirmation is starting to really take root when you find yourself thinking the thought without intending to think it.” (15:33-15:39 | Ben)  
• “Saying nice things to yourself is better than not saying nice things to yourself. But if those affirmations aren't in perfect alignment with your vision for yourself and your future, they're going to be a little bit less impactful.” (18:59-19:10 | Ben)
• “It might be super easy and be a really seamless transition to start thinking positive thoughts about yourself and taking on an affirmation practice. But if it isn't, just know that something in you is trying to keep you safe. Your brain is trying to save energy by doing things the way it's always done.” (33:09-33:23 | Paige)

Links

Connect with Ben and Paige:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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“People pleasing brings a ton of limitations and really gets in the way of us being able to create adult relationships where there's vulnerability, authenticity, transparency, and a resilience in the connection where both people can be seen and actually loved,” explains co-host Clayton Olson. If you have a tendency toward people pleasing, you are likely not being your authentic self and may even be struggling to find your tribe. Truthfully, it takes a lot of inner work to reverse the childhood conditioning that reinforces people pleasing behaviors, but it is worth it to build better relationships. Today, co-host Ben Easter talks with Clayton about why people pleasing exists and how to stop people pleasing and start forming more authentic relationships. 

When we are children, we rely on the relationship with our caregivers for everything. This means that we tend to learn pretty quickly that it works in our favor to try to please them. However, this type of relationship is very unbalanced and doesn’t work in adulthood. If we constantly try to please everyone, we can never show our true selves. And instead of attracting our tribe, we will attract the tribe that fits the false self that we created to please others. In order to stop people pleasing and start living authentically, we must figure out what our own principles are and stick to them. 

People pleasing can be a really problematic tendency for many people because it is a survival technique we learn in childhood. Even though people pleasing may seem harmless, it tends to lead to resentment, poor boundaries, and inauthentic relationships. 

Links

Connect with Clayton:

Website: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtKW9swe4-j596iCIh2_nrA 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claytonrolson/ 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/

Connect with Ben:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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“Get really curious about why we are the way that we are with respect and awareness. And then with a sense of embracing and honoring, ask where is it that we want to go? Who do we want to be? And if we had full agency to create that, what would that look like?”, asks co-host Clayton Olson. Today, co-host Paige Easter picks Clayton Olson’s brain on the steps to end the war within ourselves so that we can move forward in our lives and become the person we want to be. Taking examples from her own life and experiences with hypnotherapy, Paige asks Clayton to walk her through how he would coach someone in her position of wanting to be a more confident person. Clayton explains the model of logical levels, developed by Robert Dilts, to showcase the six levels of ways reality can be organized and uses it to illustrate where limiting beliefs come from.

Self improvement begins with taking responsibility for yourself and your life instead of continuing to blame external factors. Many of the beliefs holding you back are actually beliefs that were created during childhood. And when you realize these are outdated, then you can start to see your present situation differently. In order to make changes at the identity level, you need to fully embrace your vision for who you want to be and the life you want to have. If you are still in a victim mindset, you will not be ready to step into your journey of self improvement. Personal development requires you to look at those beliefs from your past through a lens of curiosity rather than judgment.

Stopping the war with yourself requires you to take agency for your present circumstances. Learn more about the model of logical levels, the ways childhood experiences can cause our past selves to get ‘stuck’, and how to use enhanced awareness and curiosity to propel your personal growth forward. 

Connect with Clayton:

Website: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtKW9swe4-j596iCIh2_nrA 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claytonrolson/ 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/

Connect with Paige:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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“There's so many people out there that have money mindset problems because they strongly believe that what they should be doing is giving away what they have for the sake of other people,” explains co-host Paige Easter. Also, the wife of host Ben Easter, Paige, returns for part two of the Money Mindset series. Today, they discuss changing your relationship with money to provide yourself with true financial freedom.

While analyzing the classic “Robin Hood” story, Paige and Ben find that it overemphasizes “need” as a higher value than creating. If we actually stole from the rich to give to the poor, then there would be less resources for those who create systems for societies to function. Instead, Paige and Ben encourage listeners to use their money to benefit themselves but also invest in the causes they care about. By taking care of ourselves, we can create the value to help the world.

Having a financial mindset shift can lead to great benefits. Learn more about value creation, the mistrust around sales tactics, and how investing can have positive outcomes.

Quotes

• “There's so many people out there that have money mindset problems because they strongly believe that what they should be doing is giving away what they have for the sake of other people.” (10:42-10:52 | Paige)
• “There's this really big incentive to sell in a way that is emphasizing the generation of income for a person, and not the generation of positive relationships.” (14:58-15:08 | Paige)
• “By keeping yourself from providing a service and having the experience of fulfillment that you want in your reality, you are also keeping other people from getting the beautiful benefit of the work that you do in the world.” (24:32-24:44 | Paige)
• “As we create abundance in the things that we really care about, we get more energy, more time, and more value to create those things in the world.” (28:28-28:37 | Ben)
• “Asking people to invest in the service or product that you provide is actually in service to them. Because when you give it away for free, they don't value it as much. And then they might not actually extract the benefit of it.” (28:57-29:15 | Paige) 

Links

Connect with Paige Easter:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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In this episode, we talked about the role of money in our lives and how our beliefs about money can impact our experience of it.

Money is a way to exchange value and it can be used to facilitate trust between people, even if they do not know each other. However, because of this abstraction of value, we can wind up telling a whole lot of stories about money that don’t contribute to its flow through our lives.

Our beliefs about money and value can influence the economy and shape our experiences with scarcity or abundance. Conflicting beliefs about money and values can lead to inaction, so recognizing and addressing these conflicts can allow us to take aligned action towards abundance.

If you want to create more abundance and value in your life, then check out part 1 of this 2 part discussion of money mindset.

In this episode we discuss:

8:42 - money was never bartering

10:15 - how money gets into circulation

12:01 - keeping money in flow: currency

13:20 - that time that toilet paper was money

16:32 - the solution to recession

20:00 - do you have these limiting beliefs about money?

29:50 - Exercise: discovering your beliefs about money

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lucidshiftcoaching.com

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https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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If you've ever wanted to become the best version of yourself, this episode could be especially helpful to you.

In it, Clayton and I discuss the practices we use to improve their mental health and well-being. The importance of setting clear intentions in the morning, incorporating meditation, breath work, and free writing into your daily routine, and finding a routine that works best for you (whether that be in the morning or at night). We also discuss the value of setting aside time for reflection and intention setting before or after sleep.

These practices can help to reduce stress and increase feelings of calm and clarity, allowing you to approach your day with a sense of purpose and intention. Treat this episode like a buffet of ideas: Take what resonates and discard the rest in order to find what works best for you.

Whether you're a morning person or a night owl, there are suggestions for practices that can fit into your daily routine and help you to feel more grounded and centered.

3:45 - Clayton's morning practices

5:30 - the 8 areas of human balance and practices that support

10:25 - opening your creative channel

13:15 - focus your mind with meditation

15:00 - the practice of powerful questions

17:30 - becoming the best version of yourself

19:20 - cultivate your keystone habit

22:00 - use the power of environment to charge your practice

24:40 - getting out of your head

27:00 - movement for creativity

29:00 - thought practices

Resources:

Wheel of Life

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet by Byron Katie

The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success by Dan Sullivan

Connect with Clayton :

Website | YouTube | LinkedIn l IG

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Lucid Shift Coaching IG

instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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Have you ever felt like there was something fundamentally wrong with you? That no matter how hard you try, you'll just never be good enough, smart enough, strong enough? If so, you're not alone. This is one of the most common challenges that I see people face in personal development.

In fact, it's one of the major themes explored in the Lion King.

We all know it's a classic movie, but did you know that it's a rich source of lessons about our own journeys to freedom and transformation? In this episode of the Shift to Freedom Podcast, we discuss the movie's themes of balance, responsibility, worthiness, worry, and the importance of pain in healing.

(11:00) - Scar: the harbinger of death

(12:30) - the problem in leading by fear

(14:00) - is there something fundamentally wrong with me?

(17:30) - the importance of insight PLUS practice - make sure to future pace

(20:40 - waking yourself up from your trance

(21:50) - don't take anything personally

(25:01) - the pros and cons of Hakuna Matata

(29:15) - the role of pain in healing

Connect with Ben and Paige:

lucidshiftcoaching.com

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https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

This podcast that helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity by diving into practical strategies for breaking through self-imposed ceilings, tackling the fear of not being good enough or worthy enough, and overcoming the fear of failure. Learn how to become more efficient with your day, stop procrastinating, and manage insecurity, while also mastering delegation, growing your team, and expanding your bandwidth for greater success. If you've ever felt slowed down by self-doubt, this podcast is your guide to breaking free and achieving more.

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