The English teacher you wanted to be bffs with, that cartoon you were strangely attracted to, the time you dabbled in witchcraft, the binder of hot women you carried around. When you look back, it all seems SO OBVIOUS that you were not straight. Or did it? Actor and writer Mackenzie Lansing (Mare of Easttown, The Deuce) joins us to talk about all the signs that should have let us know we were queer YEARS before we figured it out. Some signs are painfully obvious, while others are just part of growing up and figuring out who you are. So should we really beat ourselves up for not putting the puzzle together sooner? And whose to know when the puzzle is actually complete? We also sneak in a couple of questions about what it's like to act across from Kate Winslet. Plus, Carolyn and Melody share a gayest thing of the week. And as always, we end with a listener question from a young U-Hauler who wants to overshare with her parents.

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