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Do you know what the simplest and best way to strengthen your marriage or relationship is? You may laugh when I give you the answer because it's common sense, but I talk to couples all the time who have let this slip from their lives and their marriage suffers because of it. Here’s the answer – spend time together. Just like the phone you have, you’ve got to charge it up for it to work. If you don’t, it will eventually weaken and then die. The same thing is true in a marriage. Even if you are busy and have kids to take care of, if you don’t spend time with each other alone, your relationship is going to run out of power and stop working.
Here’s four keys to spending time with each other:
1. Prioritize - There are things you want to do and things you need to do. Spending time with each other is a need to do type of thing. Yes, there are obstacles that must be overcome to make this happen but when you realize how important it is, you will come up with creative ways to conquer the challenges that are keeping you from spending time together. Some couples feel guilty or selfish spending time with each other. If you want your marriage to be strong and to last. This is essential!
2. Plan – The saying is true that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Get your calendar out and decide when you are going to go on a date. Keep things fresh by adding variety to your plans. Guys like to do side by side activities like watching a game or playing golf. Women usually prefer face to face things like having dinner. Do both. If you can afford it, it’s also helpful to plan big things like going away for a night or two a few times a year along with your weekly date. The key is to consistently get these things on your calendar, then you won’t be swept along by the demands of a busy schedule. When you plan your time together, think too about what will make the event special for your spouse. Doing something he prefers or buying her roses adds a lot to the time you are spending together. Your goal is to make your spouse feel loved.
3. Prepare – get a baby sitter, make the dinner reservation, and look up the location so you know how long it will take you to get there. All of these things make the date go smoothly. Think of what needs to happen before you leave the house and take care of those things.
4. Proceed – get out of the house and have fun together, just the two of you. I hope this is helpful. If you liked it, please subscribe to my channel.
Check out www.turnitup.coach for more marriage resources and www.turnitup.coach/book to get my book, Turn it Up! – how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Also, you’re invited to join my free Facebook group: Turn it Up – a group about relationships and marriage.
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Do you know what the simplest and best way to strengthen your marriage or relationship is? You may laugh when I give you the answer because it's common sense, but I talk to couples all the time who have let this slip from their lives and their marriage suffers because of it. Here’s the answer – spend time together. Just like the phone you have, you’ve got to charge it up for it to work. If you don’t, it will eventually weaken and then die. The same thing is true in a marriage. Even if you are busy and have kids to take care of, if you don’t spend time with each other alone, your relationship is going to run out of power and stop working.
Here’s four keys to spending time with each other:
1. Prioritize - There are things you want to do and things you need to do. Spending time with each other is a need to do type of thing. Yes, there are obstacles that must be overcome to make this happen but when you realize how important it is, you will come up with creative ways to conquer the challenges that are keeping you from spending time together. Some couples feel guilty or selfish spending time with each other. If you want your marriage to be strong and to last. This is essential!
2. Plan – The saying is true that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Get your calendar out and decide when you are going to go on a date. Keep things fresh by adding variety to your plans. Guys like to do side by side activities like watching a game or playing golf. Women usually prefer face to face things like having dinner. Do both. If you can afford it, it’s also helpful to plan big things like going away for a night or two a few times a year along with your weekly date. The key is to consistently get these things on your calendar, then you won’t be swept along by the demands of a busy schedule. When you plan your time together, think too about what will make the event special for your spouse. Doing something he prefers or buying her roses adds a lot to the time you are spending together. Your goal is to make your spouse feel loved.
3. Prepare – get a baby sitter, make the dinner reservation, and look up the location so you know how long it will take you to get there. All of these things make the date go smoothly. Think of what needs to happen before you leave the house and take care of those things.
4. Proceed – get out of the house and have fun together, just the two of you. I hope this is helpful. If you liked it, please subscribe to my channel.
Check out www.turnitup.coach for more marriage resources and www.turnitup.coach/book to get my book, Turn it Up! – how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Also, you’re invited to join my free Facebook group: Turn it Up – a group about relationships and marriage.