Habits for Your Happily Ever After

The Single Most Important Habit for Your Marriage


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Are you often tempted to enter your spouse’s experience?

This can look like judgment: “He should brush his teeth.” “She should find a new job.”

Or blending: “He doesn’t tell me he loves me.” “She never appreciates me.”

When you have these thoughts–or speak them aloud–you are in your partner’s business. And that doesn’t bring you closer, it pushes your partner away.

Today, we talk about the single most important habit that will ensure your happily ever after: stay in your own business.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

Notice when you begin to blend.

  • "He doesn’t tell me he loves me."
  • "She never appreciates me."

Notice when you begin to judge.

  • "He should brush his teeth.”
  • “She should find a new job.”

Notice your god-complex.

  • “It snows too much.”
  • “I’m gonna die this year.”

Each time you find yourself in someone else’s business, practice the habit of consciously returning to yourself.

If you get confused, refer to this outline by Byron Katie, or watch a short tutorial here.

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Habits for Your Happily Ever AfterBy Rebecca Mullen

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