How to Stop Seeking Permission from Everyone Around YouHave you ever caught yourself asking everyone else what you should do—while quietly ignoring what you already know?In this episode of Conversations in Becoming, we explore why so many women spend years waiting for permission to speak up, make decisions, set boundaries, or simply trust themselves.We'll talk about where that pattern begins, why seeking approval can feel safer than listening to your own voice, and how to begin rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time.If you've ever felt stuck between what you want and what everyone else expects, this conversation is for you.In this episode, we'll explore:• Why many women learn to seek permission instead of trusting themselves. • The connection between approval, safety, and people-pleasing. • How permission-seeking slowly erodes self-trust. • A simple practice to begin strengthening your own inner voice. Reflection Question:Where in your life are you waiting for permission that only you can give yourself?Continue the ConversationIf today's episode resonated with you, my guide, Boundaries Are Beautiful, is a wonderful next step. Inside, you'll learn practical ways to set healthy boundaries with confidence, communicate your needs clearly, and begin trusting yourself without guilt.🌿 Learn more at: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderformAbout the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

Episode 4: The First Place You Learned Your Needs Didn't MatterWhat if the patterns that showed up in your marriage didn't actually begin there?In this episode of Conversations in Becoming, we explore one of the most important questions in healing:Where did you first learn that your needs didn't matter?Many of us assume our people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, or constant need for reassurance began in adulthood. But often, those patterns were learned much earlier—through hundreds of ordinary moments that quietly taught us that belonging was more important than being ourselves.This conversation isn't about blame.It's about understanding yourself with compassion so you can begin choosing differently today.In this episode:✨ Why children choose belonging over authenticity—and why that's a normal survival response.✨ How survival strategies become identities that follow us into adulthood.✨ Why healing begins when we replace shame with understanding instead of blaming ourselves or others.✨ A gentle reminder that what you learned as a child doesn't have to define the woman you're becoming.Reflection QuestionsTake a few moments to sit with these questions after today's conversation.• What messages did I receive about having needs? • Which of those messages am I still living by today? • What would change if I truly believed my needs mattered, too? Continue the ConversationBecoming doesn't end when the episode does.If today's conversation sparked something in you, I invite you to explore Boundaries Are Beautiful—a practical guide to understanding why boundaries feel so uncomfortable and how to begin honoring your needs with greater confidence, compassion, and self-trust.📖 Learn more here: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderformConnect with Mickey🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: Pohttps://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=g8t-R8lLTKyXqQw7byuDAwdcasts: [Show Link]🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod

You Don't Need More Confidence—You Need Self-Trust | Episode 3Why do so many women wait until they "feel confident" before making a decision, setting a boundary, or starting over?What if confidence isn't the thing you're actually missing?In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I explore why self-trust—not confidence—is the foundation for lasting change. Confidence comes and goes, but self-trust is what allows you to move forward even when you're uncertain.If you've been waiting to feel "ready," this conversation is for you.In this episode:✨ Why confidence is often treated like a prerequisite instead of a byproduct✨ How waiting for certainty keeps us stuck✨ The difference between confidence and self-trust✨ Simple ways to begin rebuilding trust in yourself through everyday choicesReflection QuestionsWhere in your life are you waiting to feel confident before trusting yourself to take the next step?And what would change if you trusted yourself enough to take the next step anyway?About the PodcastThe Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit.Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.Connect with me🌐 Websitehttps://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this episode encouraged you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need this conversation today.Until next time... keep becoming.— Mickey

#Boundaries #PeoplePleasing #SelfTrust #EmotionalHealing #DivorceRecovery #PersonalGrowth #SoftButSavageMethodWhy do boundaries feel so uncomfortable—even when you know they're healthy?If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, worried about disappointing someone, or questioned yourself after setting a boundary, you're not alone. The discomfort isn't a sign you're doing something wrong. More often, it's a sign you're doing something different.In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I explore why boundaries can feel so emotionally challenging, how people-pleasing shapes our responses, and why learning to tolerate temporary discomfort is part of building lasting self-trust.In this episode:✨ Why boundaries often feel uncomfortable at first✨ How people-pleasing trains us to prioritize others over ourselves✨ The difference between guilt and growth✨ Why healthy relationships can withstand healthy boundaries✨ A reflection question to help you strengthen your own boundariesReflection Question:Where in your life are you confusing someone else's discomfort with doing something wrong?About the PodcastThe Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit.Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.Connect with Me🌐 Websitehttps://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need this conversation today.Until next time... keep becoming.— Mickey

🌿 Continue the Conversation

If today's episode resonated with you, I've created a companion guide to help you begin putting these ideas into practice.

📖 Boundaries Are Beautiful
A practical guide to understanding why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, releasing guilt, and learning to protect your peace with greater confidence and self-trust.

Learn more here:

https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderform

What does rebuilding really look like after divorce?

When I first left my marriage, I thought rebuilding meant recreating my old life without my ex. What I eventually discovered was that rebuilding isn't about going backward—it's about creating a life that feels aligned with the woman you're becoming.

In this first episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I share part of my own story and explore why confidence isn't the first step. Self-trust is.

This Episode

✨ Why rebuilding isn't the same as starting over

✨ Why confidence isn't a prerequisite for change✨ How self-trust is built one small promise at a time

✨ A reflection to help you reconnect with yourself

Reflection Question:

What part of your old life are you trying to recreate instead of rebuilding?

About the Podcast

The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit.

Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.

🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.

Connect with Me🌐 Website:https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod

If this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today.

Until next time... keep becoming.

— Mickey