What if grief isn't something you move through, but something you get stuck inside, and nobody around you knows how to help?
In this episode of The Soulful Catalyst, I'm joined by Dr. Tina Fornwald, Founder and CEO of Widowhood Real Talk with Tina, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting widows, widowers, and the people who love them.
A retired US Army Chief Warrant Officer, ordained minister, bestselling author of The Five Widows Club, and breast cancer survivor, Dr. Tina is also the creator of the Where Grief Gets Stuck™ framework, which identifies five survival patterns that can quietly become the thing keeping people from moving forward.
Her path to this work is deeply personal. Ten years ago, Dr. Tina lost her late husband Mark while they were on holiday together. She describes stepping away from all the obligations of life in the aftermath, not because she couldn't cope, but because the only thing that mattered was facing what her life now actually looked like.
That experience, combined with years of supporting bereaved military families and serving as an ordained minister, gave her a perspective on grief she says she could never have gained any other way.
What she noticed, again and again, was that the people around the bereaved often didn't know how to show up past the first few weeks, and that the grieving themselves had learned to hide how much they were still struggling.
What I found quietly powerful about this conversation is how gently Dr. Tina reframes widowhood itself.
She points out that the goal of a marriage, if you're lucky, is to become a widow or widower. You completed your vows. That doesn't make it less painful, but it does make it worth honouring.
In this episode, we explore:
➤ Why the five stages of grief were never designed for the bereaved, and what Dr. Tina's five survival patterns reveal instead
➤ The signs that grief has moved from a natural response to feeling genuinely stuck, including isolation that's quietly cut you off from everyone who loves you
➤ How Dr. Tina works with organisations and places of faith, helping leaders learn to show up for people who are struggling long after the bereavement leave runs out
➤ What support actually looks like in practice, and why taking out the bins or dropping off a gift card can matter more than any words
➤ The Five Widows Club and what's coming next, including a 30-day companion journal and a Children of Widowhood Secret Santa campaign for families who've lost a parent
This episode is for anyone navigating loss who has started to wonder if they'll always feel this way, and for anyone who loves someone who's grieving and doesn't know what to do.
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