The Soulful Self Show with April Kirkwood, LPC

Your listening to "Living Soulfully" discovering positive practices to navigate our crazy world. The world spins to be spinning out of control and is taking so many of down a slippery slope of self-loathing, anxiety, depression, and more.Each show we discuss a spiritual way to handle the everyday issues we all encounter. We encourage you to ask and share your questions, thoughts, ideas at: [email protected] to AprilKirkwood.com for more tips about not just surviving but thriving in your world today.

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We often mislabel a breakup as something bad, a disgrace, a failure. For some, the breakup is caused by the successful completion of what lessons were shared. Let us learn to breakup with better insight so the love you shared is lifted up, not diminished. So mote it is!

Love,

April of Course

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Situations seem to pop up out of the clear blue. Some bring heroes, lovers and great friends. Others seem to be more like nightmares with villains out to get us.

I have tried to manage them...some not so well. But then I went deep inside and looked at even the worst individuals and events through a different lens.

It has helped me see others differently, carry less guilt as well as less anger.

Here is how I deal with situations....hope this inspires you to look at all situations as relationships urging each of us to learn and heal.

Love,

April of Course

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We ask ourselves, "Who am I," "What do I want?" "Why don't I know" fumbling through each moment looking for answers. It's not easy and that's because we have so many diverse messages trying to control and tell us how and who we are supposed to be.Listen and consider if the messages and the person you are is truly you. Additional helps and tips are at Aprilkirkwood.com

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Talking to someone who is in the cycle of addiction can be frustrating until no one in the room is thinking clearly and nothing is accomplished except more pain and feelings of isolation for all involved. In short,  more harm is done than good.I believe that family is key to both our personal strengths and weaknesses.  It is where we both fall and rise up.  Families, therefore, can be part of the problem and more importantly, part of the solution.  So how do we reach out to someone that seems like a stranger to us.  They are not only a stranger but an unlikeable one at that!

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So he did you wrong!  The scoundral lied, cheated, and corrupted the core of everything you thought you ever believed about love, commitment, and all that you had together.  Ok, I get it.When my husband married my first cousin almost immediately after the ink on our divorce papers were dry.  I was devastated and embarrassed and bewildered about everything I thought I knew about him and marriage.And, I admit, I felt uncontrollable rage running through every part of my being. This was way beyond mad.  I had one goal; make him hurt bad. I ruthlessly tried everything to do just that.Now that my emotions are more collected, I realize I hurt myself more then I could have ever hurt him or my cousin.  And what's work, You know what, it didn't work.  I was humiliated and ashamed.  And let's not even mention  the agony I caused my entire family and most importantly the damage especially involving  my children's ability to move on in a healthy way.But guess what, now after all of these years, the love I had for my husband has returned with a deeper understanding of who he is and who I am.  The thought of him still warms my soul with a sincere peace and I see clearly that I consider what we had to be one of the best experiences of my life.How did I forgive, move on, and return to thoughts of him with genuine kindness and insight.?There were many steps, one of which I'm going to share with you right now.  You can get over a broken heart and become even better, wiser, and more enchanted with the thought of future relationships then you ever thought.Letting Him Go!Need more tips: aprilkirkwood.comComplimentary session when you sign up for newsletter

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So much research has been done about the mental and physical mechanics of the process of finding a mate.  As a counselor, I was talk that love at first sight is nothing more then a DNA process for mating based on certain precondition that has been constructed in our minds due mostly to early upbringing.  As a practitioner, I completely concur with their findings  and mix that into my coaching. I have used the strategies of self-discovery and healing with myself and others.  But.......................................................................What if there is more?

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After Detox, Now What? is a series to inform, educate, and provide support for addicts and those who care for them.Drugs and alcohol affect your judgment, thoughts, feelings, and more.  All of this clouds your ability to make sound decisions; even about getting clean.  Going to detox is an important step and one that  needs to be made utilizing facts.  Here is a summary to help you in your recovery.Today's show covers the three real reasons people go to detox, what is detox, what is rehab, three factors that affect choice of detox centers, and the success of detox.

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As children we have have been taught to use the five senses and our cognitive intellect to navigate through life.  Skills very necessary for survival.   Before we knew it, we become so entwined with this method of thinking we didn't even notice that we had become slaves to events and actions of others.  In the process, we lost our true selves. We begin to look forward to special events, vacations, praise from others, as well as the rush of attraction from others until it became our mode of functioning and getting through each day.But we began to rely on these events to determine our happiness.  So many elements began to toy with our lives.....our emotions were like yo-yos.Today we live monitoring all of our ability to be happy on  a crazy pendulum of daily ups and downs. Get a compliment - feel wonderful.  New shoes - so excited.  Get demoted at work - feel awful.  Have a great meal - feel content.  Your mate is cranky - feel anxious.  On and on it goes.Go to Aprilkirkwood.com for more hints on being the best YOU can be!

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