In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Arrianna Cervantes, LPC-Associate, explore the messages children absorb during divorce—and how the “soundtrack” parents create can shape a child’s emotional experience and long-term relationships. They discuss the difference between what kids need to hear and what they don’t, highlighting how parents often share information with good intentions, believing it will protect their child, without fully realizing the impact it can have. Michael and Arrianna emphasize the importance of being intentional with what is said—and what is left unsaid—so children are not carrying emotional weight that isn’t theirs to hold.

Arrianna introduces a simple but powerful “Decision Tree” to help parents filter what they share with their child. Questions include: Is this information necessary for my child? Will this help my child emotionally? Does this support their relationship with both parents? Am I sharing this for their needs, or mine? Can I say this without blaming, shaming, or diagnosing the other parent? They also walk through common questions kids ask and how to respond in a way that protects your child while still being honest and age-appropriate. Most parents have good intentions—this framework helps ensure those intentions truly support your child’s well-being.

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