Episode Description

"The part of your grief that hurts the most is often the part you never say out loud."

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about the stories grievers carry but rarely share.

After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about missing someone. It is also about the moments that changed everything—the phone call, the hospital room, the last words, the unanswered questions.

These are the parts most people don't talk about.

Not because they don't want to. But because they don't feel safe to.

In this episode, Sharon explains why grievers stop sharing their stories, how silence builds over time, and what happens when those memories have nowhere to go.

She breaks down how the brain replays painful moments, why these memories stay stuck, and why speaking them out loud is one of the most important parts of processing grief.

She also introduces The Story Room, a space created for grievers to share the full truth of their experience—without judgment, interruption, or being corrected.

This conversation is not about making grief smaller. It is about giving it a place to be heard.

Because healing does not begin when the pain goes away. It begins when the story is finally spoken.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

Why grievers are afraid to share certain parts of their story

• What happens when grief stories are kept inside
• Why painful memories replay over and over again
• How silence increases isolation and emotional weight
• Why telling your grief story helps the brain process it
• The importance of being witnessed in your grief
• How The Story Room creates a safe space for real grief

Questions to Sit With After Listening

Take your time with these.

• What parts of my grief have I never said out loud?
• Am I holding back my story to protect other people's comfort?
• What memories keep replaying in my mind?
• Where do I feel like I have no place to share this?

Homework for You

Write this at the top of a page:

"This is the part of my grief I've never said out loud."

Then write it.

Not the edited version. Not the acceptable version.

The real one.

Because what stays unspoken stays heavy.

Resources + Next Steps

If this episode spoke to you, it is because there is a part of your story that needs to be heard.

You do not have to carry it alone.

👉 Join The Story Room: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Because your healing begins when your story is finally witnessed.