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Ever wonder why "be home before the streetlights come on" felt like more than just a curfew? Or why "what stays in this house" was the golden rule?
Welcome back to Speaking with Gravity. In this heavy-hitting episode, Terance, Kervin, and Sherika dive deep into inherited trauma and the hidden emotional baggage we carry without even knowing it. We aren't just talking about old stories; we’re looking at epigenetics—how the stress and trauma of our ancestors can actually leave chemical marks on our DNA.
If you’re ready to move from being a character in someone else’s history to the author of your own story, this one is for you.
The "Streetlight Rule" Unpacked: Why historical safety for people of color turned a survival tactic into a modern household rule .
Family Business vs. Family Survival: Understanding the roots of "hushing" children and its connection to slavery and historical consequences.
The Science of the Struggle: Terance explains the groundbreaking research on how trauma-induced DNA changes are passed down through generations .
Talking TO vs. Talking AT: A vital shift for parents to promote critical thinking and better relationships with their kids .
Breaking the Cycle: Practical tips on interviewing your elders and using curiosity to understand your own patterns.
01:13 – The People Want to Know: Rules we didn’t realize were trauma responses.
04:40 – "Don't tell people our business": Analyzing the "mute state" .
06:50 – Historical Context: How slavery and the Holocaust shaped intergenerational responses.
11:15 – Epigenetics 101: Environmental factors and DNA changes.
13:56 – The Mouse Study: How trauma responses are born before the child is .
18:59 – Communication Shift: The difference between giving orders and giving the "why" .
24:59 – "Do as I say, not as I do": Why the "Why" matters for development.
38:10 – Final Takeaways: Learning your story and remaining curious.
39:55 – Resource Spotlight: My B.L.A.C.K. Trauma Journal (Building Language, Awareness, Connections, and Knowledge).
"We want to move from being a character in someone else's story to being the author of our own." — Kervin Searles
Connect with the Gravity Team:
🔗 Website: gravitycounselinggroup.com
📸 Social Media: @SpeakingWithGravity 📖 Resource: Pick up the My B.L.A.C.K. Trauma Journal by Terance Dawkins (https://a.co/d/0fRxcnBy).
Subscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with your journey, leave us a review and share it with the family. Remember—everything affects everything.
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Ever wonder why "be home before the streetlights come on" felt like more than just a curfew? Or why "what stays in this house" was the golden rule?
Welcome back to Speaking with Gravity. In this heavy-hitting episode, Terance, Kervin, and Sherika dive deep into inherited trauma and the hidden emotional baggage we carry without even knowing it. We aren't just talking about old stories; we’re looking at epigenetics—how the stress and trauma of our ancestors can actually leave chemical marks on our DNA.
If you’re ready to move from being a character in someone else’s history to the author of your own story, this one is for you.
The "Streetlight Rule" Unpacked: Why historical safety for people of color turned a survival tactic into a modern household rule .
Family Business vs. Family Survival: Understanding the roots of "hushing" children and its connection to slavery and historical consequences.
The Science of the Struggle: Terance explains the groundbreaking research on how trauma-induced DNA changes are passed down through generations .
Talking TO vs. Talking AT: A vital shift for parents to promote critical thinking and better relationships with their kids .
Breaking the Cycle: Practical tips on interviewing your elders and using curiosity to understand your own patterns.
01:13 – The People Want to Know: Rules we didn’t realize were trauma responses.
04:40 – "Don't tell people our business": Analyzing the "mute state" .
06:50 – Historical Context: How slavery and the Holocaust shaped intergenerational responses.
11:15 – Epigenetics 101: Environmental factors and DNA changes.
13:56 – The Mouse Study: How trauma responses are born before the child is .
18:59 – Communication Shift: The difference between giving orders and giving the "why" .
24:59 – "Do as I say, not as I do": Why the "Why" matters for development.
38:10 – Final Takeaways: Learning your story and remaining curious.
39:55 – Resource Spotlight: My B.L.A.C.K. Trauma Journal (Building Language, Awareness, Connections, and Knowledge).
"We want to move from being a character in someone else's story to being the author of our own." — Kervin Searles
Connect with the Gravity Team:
🔗 Website: gravitycounselinggroup.com
📸 Social Media: @SpeakingWithGravity 📖 Resource: Pick up the My B.L.A.C.K. Trauma Journal by Terance Dawkins (https://a.co/d/0fRxcnBy).
Subscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with your journey, leave us a review and share it with the family. Remember—everything affects everything.