The Story in My Head: Healing & Self-Improvement for the Lazy

It sucks when we are faced with a decision to make or a problem to solve and we don't know what to do.  At times we have too many options, at times there seems to be too few.  The worst times are when can't perceive of options we like!  Regardless, we all know feeling stuck or trapped SUCKS!  Here's a mid-week quickie on decision making.  This time, use your change (yep, coins!) to help you make a change.  Just an experiment.  Try it! Ya just may change the way you see things.  And when we change the way we see the world, the world we see will change! 

decision making, problem solving, change, transition, feeling stuck, self care

The Story in My Head often leads to expectations.... unrealistic ones!  And to be honest I've had expectations of how people around me 'should communicate, should behave, and should provide' whenever I am experiencing angst or am in a crisis.  Well, needless to say, my unrealistic expectations were not met and I was angry about it!!!  I was hurt and I felt more alone.  Today's quickie is about knowing we are not alone, even when we feel as though we are.  Cause most of the time when we are in crisis, those around us are in crisis too!  Let's give ourselves and our tribe some grace.

crisis, stress, loneliness, anger, fear, coping, family, expectations, anxiety, grace  

This mid-week quickie starts fun and ends serious.  This Story in My Head begins dark and smelly, and now offers me permission to feel proud of myself.  Celebrate your skills, successes, accomplishments and talents.

success, humility, arrogance, self care, pride, self love, change, self esteem 

Kudos to Kate!

Today I am practicing new coping skills to help reduce stress and anxiety.  I've learned I need to practice when I am NOT feeling stressed or overwhelmed.  I'm committed to setting myself up for success; and I invite you to join me in my latest experiment.  Today we are going to practice Being Present. 

anxiety, grief, depression, addiction, stress, coping, change, awareness, self care

Over the last week I have used visualization to help me inventory the tools I have to reduce anxiety, and then I began creating an Anxiety Toolbelt.  The process has been more difficult than I had expected.  The process has proven quite effective in increasing my self awareness about the coping mechanisms I currently use, as well as the ones I want to practice.    

anxiety, depression, grief, self awareness, honesty, change, transformation, coping

I'm starting a new project...REDUCING ANXIETY!  I am motivated to do the work required to make the changes.  I am determined to tackle this project honestly.  I am hopeful I will succeed in this project once I have the right tools for the job.  Today I began building my Anxiety Toolkit.  

anxiety, fear, stress, coping, change, self talk, self aware, self esteem, self care  

We all have stories of good versus evil, the heroes and the villains, the good guys versus the bad guys.  Where do your stories come from?  Are they based in YOUR experiences or someone else's?  The villainous characters in the stories in our heads are just that...characters!  Sometimes we need to change the story, and sometimes we just need to change the characters.  This is my story of how the villain in my head changed, which completely changed the story and me!  

disability, addiction, poverty, racism, sexism, bias, tolerance, CHANGE 

The Story in My Head this week was a product of my insecurities, my attitude and my imagination!  I re-told an event in my head several times, and I changed it slightly each time.  I ended up with a whole new version of the event and shot myself in the foot.  Here is a mid-week quickie about changing the tone of your story. 

anxiety, insecurity, communication, tone of voice, self awareness, relationships

The Story in My Head about being a failure changed dramatically (and quickly) when a man in a coffee shop called me a failure... and my insides went nuts!  Today's mid-week quickly is my experience changing my definition of being a failure.  

self esteem, self image, anxiety, depression, failure, success, change, healing  

The Story in My Head has completed creating Frank the Forgiveness Octopus.  Today's quickie is the fifth segment of my story...my journey of forgiving myself and others. 

apologizing, making amends, self care, transformation, healing, grief, addiction, change, relationships, communication