(Part Two of the “Strange Man” Mini-Series — read Part One Here.)

Sometimes the most important spiritual work doesn’t happen on a meditation cushion or in the quiet of early morning vows. Sometimes it happens in a kitchen—with kids playing, coffee brewing, and a grown daughter calling you a “strange man.”

If you missed Part One of the story, here’s the short version:

I rescued the used coffee grounds from my daughter’s barista-level machine, packed them neatly into an empty takeout box, and placed the box by the door next to my jacket and knapsack—fully intending to take them home to compost and burn for ash to add to my garden.

When Amber discovered my little treasure box and asked what it was, I explained. She paused… then declared solemnly: “Dad, you are a strange man.”

We laughed. And fortunately, that’s not where the story stayed. Because inside me, another moment unfolded—one I didn’t share in Part One. A moment that mattered even more than the compost or the coffee or the cardboard container.

A moment that could’ve easily slipped into the Dreaded Drama Triangle.

The Micro-Moment Where Everything Could’ve Gone Sideways

When she said “strange man,” the first sensation wasn’t laughter.It was… a pinch. A quick little inner wince. The kind that happens faster than thought. The old, familiar thread: Am I being judged? Mocked? Misunderstood?

That is the Victim voice—the first doorway into the Drama Triangle. As a graduate of Landmark World Wide, I also learned it as the “automatic and mechanical.” In that split-second, without any real awareness, I could have shifted into one of the three roles:

Victim: “I was just trying to help the planet… why is she making fun of me?”

Persecutor: “Well maybe if you composted more… we wouldn’t have so much trash in the first place.”

Rescuer: “I’m sorry, I’m sorry—I’ll just throw it away next time.”

None of these paths lead to connection. None lead to truth, or love, or empowerment. They lead to drama. And drama is a waste stream far more toxic than used coffee grounds.

The Pause That Saved the Moment

What changed everything was one breath.

One beat of awareness that said: “Hold on. This isn’t about being judged. This is about being seen.”

And that’s when the deeper truth surfaced: Amber wasn’t criticizing me. She was naming what the world hasn’t yet caught up to—the emerging, awkward, beautiful phase between one way of living and the next. My “strangeness” is what it looks like when someone begins living the Four Great Truths in a world still arranged around the Four Great Untruths.

In that moment, the entire inner landscape shifted.

From Drama to the Empowerment Dynamic

Instead of slipping into Victimhood, something new rose up—the Creator role from the Empowerment Dynamic. (Check out the book, The Power of TED by David Emerald. )

The Creator asks different questions:

* “What’s really happening here?”

* “What meaning am I adding?”

* “Is there a possibility hidden inside this moment?”

And the answer was simple, and almost funny:

My daughter wasn’t dismissing me. She was witnessing my evolution.

She was naming the gap—lovingly—between the culture she was raised in by my wife and I and the one I’m trying to help midwife into existence—a regenerative future based in the Four Great Truths.

Suddenly, “strange man” felt… accurate. Even honorable.

The Deeper Lesson at 76 (That I Wish I’d Learned at 36)

There was a time—decades ago—when a comment like this would have hooked me for hours. I would have replayed it, analyzed it, defended myself, explained myself. I would have tried to earn approval.

But living by my One Cause Vow—day after day, breath after breath—has been quietly rewiring my emotional reflexes.

The Four Great Truths are not just ecological principles. They are relational principles.

* Interconnectedness softens the old defensiveness because it reminds me how deeply interconnected I am with my daughter.

* Sufficiency dissolves the need for validation because the ‘enoughness’ includes my relationship with myself.

* Reciprocity makes feedback part of the dance; it’s the sharing and receiving of everyday life.

* Stewardship reminds me that my job is to model, not persuade.

So instead of reacting, I smiled. Because it was true. I am a strange man. A man becoming stranger in all the right ways.

Why This Matters in a Time of Cultural Unraveling

We are living through a moment in history when misunderstanding will be rampant. People making conscious, regenerative choices will often look “odd” to a culture still built on extraction, speed, and disposability.

This is where the inner game becomes critical. If we collapse into the Drama Triangle every time someone raises an eyebrow at our choices—we’ll waste our energy defending rather than creating.

If, instead, we shift into the Empowerment Dynamic, moment by moment—we become steady. Grounded. Available for the real work. Living the Great Truths externally requires practicing them internally and expressing them externally through our words and actions.

And that starts in the smallest, most ordinary moments—standing in a kitchen with your daughter…coffee grounds in hand…and an invitation to grow.

A Closing Reflection

(for you, the reader stepping into your own version of this path)

Think of a recent moment when someone questioned, joked about, or didn’t quite “get” one of your emerging values or new behaviors.

* Did it sting?

* Did you slip into one of the drama roles?

* Or was there a pause—a breath—that opened the door to something deeper?

These micro-moments are the training ground. They are where the new world gets built—one reclaimed reaction at a time. And if being called “strange” means we’re becoming more aligned with the future we hope our grandchildren inherit…

Well then—let us be strange, and let us be steady, and let us be fiercely, tenderly awake.

Even in the kitchen.Especially in the kitchen.

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