If you know me at all, you know I fucking hate surprises because I’m a NORMAL PERSON.  In today’s episode of the FHTH Podcast, I’m delving into the psychology of why we worry, which is (surprise!) to avoid being surprised. 

Ep. 230 - The Surprising Reason Why You Worry

Sari de la Motte is the host of "From Hostage to Hero" and has been dubbed the "Attorney Whisperer" because of her unique ability to help attorneys communicate their real selves. Join us weekly as Sari shares tips that will help you up your game at trial and connect with your jurors.

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I know your life is a battlefield. As a trial attorney, you're living in a CONSTANT fight-or-flight mode, and your nervous system is paying the price. THIS IS WHY YOU ALWAYS FEEL SO FUCKING TIRED. So, I’m here to teach you short-term and long-term strategies to reclaim your focus, and find your inner calm amidst the chaos. Listen up, take notes, and start implementing these strategies today.   Xo, Sari   Check out other episodes about mindset work:    FHTH Encore Episode – How to Manage Your Brain    FHTH Episode #165 – 7 Indisputable Signs You’re a Great Trial Lawyer (Even if You Don’t Feel Like It)    FHTH Episode #138 – Three Mindset Shifts You Have to Make Around Time     Quote: "Taking meticulous good care of yourself, eating nutritious food, drinking lots of water, getting a lot of rest—these are not things that you should hope that you do one day. These are ESSENTIAL for being a trial lawyer. The more you push yourself, the more you get less sleep, eat crap food, don't drink your water, and subsist on coffee, the more you're going to be in your fight or flight response because that is a biological reality. So taking excellent care of yourself will also help you reduce that fight or flight response, put your parasympathetic nervous system online, and give you more access to that prefrontal cortex."   * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *  THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom. Get the training here:  sariswears.com/jury    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/  

Ep. 255 - Is Your Nervous System Under Attack?

WHY. THE. HELL. DO. YOU. AVOID. VACATIONS?!?  Here’s the deal— Vacations are not a LUXURY. They are a NECESSITY.  Treat yourself because your job is fucking HARD, and for you to be at your best and continue serving your clients, you need to fill your own cup first. Not to mention— burnout SUCKS, and your prefrontal cortex needs a break, damn it!  Xo, Sari P.S. Don’t forget to download my podcasts to listen to on the plane so you are not bored traveling to your dream vacYAY. 

Ep. 254 - The REAL Reason You Don't Take Vacation

Ep. 253 - The Heliotropic Effect: What it Is and How it Can Get You a Verdict

Contrast is the fucking star of the show today ⭐ Picture this: we're painting a badass masterpiece. Each stroke of contrast SHARPENS the narrative, adding depth and impact. Think about how you can leverage contrast to ELEVATE your narrative to motivate the jury to take ACTION.  Trust me, it's a game-changer. Tune into the episode now to dive in deeper. Xo, Sari   Quote:   “But the point is that the contrast is clarifying. It isn't messy. When you have contrast, it strengthens your argument. There's black and there's white, that's why the DVAQ, the Devil's Advocate. Don't do it in your regular voice, it has to be a contrast. There's another place, it has to be a contrast between your regular voice and your, "Yeah, but can you just say you're sorry" voice. It has to be different.”   * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *  THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom. Get the training here:  sariswears.com/jury  Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/  

Ep. 252 - The Power of Contrast

Let's talk about a courtroom taboo: crying. IS IT -REALLY- OK TO CRY IN COURT? Spoiler alert: Mama Sari is giving you the green light. Because here's the thing: showing emotion isn't a sign of weakness — it's a sign of authenticity, passion, and unwavering dedication to your client. So, next time you feel that lump in your throat, embrace that shit. Tune in now. Xo, Sari   Quote:   "If emotions are contagious, my question to you is: why are you not using that opportunity to set the stage, and to set the tone of what happened? It's not facts that make people mad or sad or any of the other things. It's tone of voice, it's word choice, which is nonverbal. It's body language. We have to do these things so that the jury does feel an emotion, and that will then motivate them to act. Remember that your job is hard because you have to motivate the jury to do something when the easiest thing is to leave things as they are."     * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *  THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom. Get the training here:  sariswears.com/jury    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/  

Ep. 230 - The Surprising Reason Why You Worry

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