By Sari de la Motte
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🚨REALITY CHECK: Many lawyers live in what they think is fear, but let’s be honest — most of it is just manufactured worry.
That’s where Gavin de Becker’s book, The Gift of Fear, comes in. He discusses the difference between real fear and everyday worries.
🗨️ “Worry is a way to avoid admitting powerlessness... it is a protection against future disappointment.”
But REAL fear is different — it’s intuitive, it’s a useful signal to get yourself to safety.
AND (despite what y’all seem to think), winning your case is NOT a life-or-death situation. 🙃
When you spend hours obsessing over every possible terrifying outcome of your case, you’re wasting your precious energy.
Not to mention, you are desensitizing yourself against the real fear signals that your body is evolutionarily hardwired to send.
When you learn to separate the do-or-die moments from the not-so-serious ones, you gain the power to control your fear response, instead of letting it control you.
Tune in to fine-tune your fear radar. 🎯
Xo, Sari
PS. I want to give you a trigger warning — in this podcast, I’ll read excerpts from the book that include violent situations that can be triggering for some. If that’s not your cup of tea, I’ll see you in the next episode! ❤️
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“Y’all talk about fear being a motivator, and I'm going to suggest that that is bollocks. Fear is the worst motivator in terms of the type of work that you're doing. And the author, Gavin de Becker, says that if we're scared all the time, we don't leave room for real fear to do its job when needed.”
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I’ve got two INCREDIBLE voices joining me: Coach Jody (a.k.a Jody F’ing Moore 😄) and our newest chief collaborator, Coach Marlo Arnold!
Together, we’re tackling a topic so many attorneys struggle with: prepping expert witnesses for trial.
Some key points we hit:
🔑 Finding the Balance: Jody and Marlo dig into what happens when we underprepare OR overprepare our experts — and why a middle ground is where the magic happens.
🔑 Forget the Script: We’re all about genuine conversations. Scripting your expert to the point they sound robotic? It’s not helping anyone.
🔑 Mindset Matters: We break down why mindset is key, and how SCARF principles can help experts keep calm, stay confident, and connect with the jury.
Whether you’re preparing for a major trial or just want to brush up on best practices, this episode’s got you covered.
Xo, Sari
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"Your expert isn’t there to be a robot on the stand. They need to be human, for fuck’s sake—calm, connected, and ready to throw down if they have to. That’s how you get the jury to actually trust them."
— Coach Jody
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Let’s get one thing straight: if your opening statement is just a list of “what shouldn’t have happened”, then you’re setting yourself up for FAILURE.
In this week’s episode, we’re breaking down HOW to captivate the jury’s attention from the start and teach them the right way to look at the facts — starting with the teaching section in your opening statement.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
⚖️ Why the “what not to do” approach doesn’t work and what to do instead.
⚖️ The strategy that makes the defense’s case look like an intentional mess.
⚖️ The secret to guiding jurors to see the defense’s actions for what they are — choices, not accidents.
Ready to own the courtroom from the very first word?
Ya know what to do. 😉
Xo, Sari
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"When we tell the jury, ‘Here are the things to do,’ we can frame the defense’s actions as choices. They chose not to do this right, they chose to cut corners. But when we say, ‘Here are things to avoid,’ it feels like we’re suggesting the outcome was guaranteed unless they avoided these things. Showing the right way makes the defendant’s actions stand out even more."
— Sari de la Motte
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We create a designed alliance with our jurors—why wouldn’t we do the same with our judge?!
In this episode, we’re diving into the art of building BENCH rapport. ⚖️
Because the last thing you need is your judge side-eyeing you and throwing objections your way just because your approach is unfamiliar.
We need to approach them with a transparent and deferential strategy that makes them feel prioritized in their courtroom.
Tune in to learn how to make your judge your strongest ally! 💪
Xo, Sari
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here:
sariswears.com/jury
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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In this episode, Kent Hammond joins us to break down how he walked away with a $2.4 MILLION VERDICT in a case that could’ve easily gone the other way.
If you’re ready to STOP hoping and START knowing how trusting the jury can lead to massive wins, even when the odds are against you — this is the episode for YOU.
Tune in and crack the code. 🧠💥
Xo, Sari
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There Are No Accidents by Jessie Singer
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"I’ve always thought, and I know you preach the same thing, that juries, at the end of the day, just want to do the right thing. They’re not your enemies. Listening to them afterward, hearing how they deliberated, definitely brought that home to me."
— Kent Hammond
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here:
sariswears.com/jury
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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Ever feel like you're juggling ALL the things? 😩
You know, work, home, life... while STILL feeling totally overwhelmed?
Well, I'm diving into a book that's got everyone buzzing — Fair Play by Eve Rodsky.
This one’s for my ladies 🫶, but guys — DON’T check out.
You need to hear this too.
Tune in NOW.
Xo, Sari
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“You're not supposed to carry the entire mental load for everyone else while pretending it's no big deal. If you’re juggling 17 things, something’s gonna drop — and it shouldn’t always be you. It’s time to stop making invisible work invisible.”
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here:
sariswears.com/jury
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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Resonant conversations with jurors — those moments where you connect deeply on an emotional level — can be a game changer.
BUT.
Is there such a thing as too much connection?
Here’s what we’re diving into:
🗣️ WHY creating resonance with jurors isn’t just about getting them to listen — it’s about making them care and act.
🗣️ The BIG mistake many trial attorneys make when trying to create resonance, and how it might be costing you your strongest jurors.
🗣️ The RIGHT balance between logic and emotion that gives you an edge in trial — and where most attorneys go wrong.
🗣️ WHY the traditional “Can you be fair?” question might be the LEAST effective way to approach voir dire.
This episode is packed with actionable takeaways for your next trial.
Don’t miss this, tune in now!
Xo, Sari
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"Your job in voir dire isn’t to get them to like you—it’s to help them feel safe enough to tell the truth. When jurors feel seen and safe, they’re more willing to lean your way, even before you present a single piece of evidence."
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here:
sariswears.com/jury
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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You’re in the middle of voir dire, talking, they’re nodding, but those blank faces tell you everything — you know they’re not really hearing you.
In this week's episode, we’re tackling exactly how to change that. We’ve got Amy Day, executive coach who knows a thing or two about getting through tough crowds.
We’ll show you how to use coaching techniques like powerful questions, active listening, and trusting your intuition to engage with jurors like never before.
Because what jurors really want is the raw, unpolished truth, NOT a performance.
So stop shying away from those unscripted moments and start owning the room.
TUNE IN NOW!
Xo, Sari
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“So many conversations we have are surface-level and not full of authenticity. People are constantly giving us information about themselves, but we don’t clue in, we don’t listen, and then we don’t make something of it. Resonant conversations are about getting to the deeper level of who someone is and what’s important to them. When we have those conversations, we can resolve conflict quicker, create connections, and actually bring abundance because people are looking to be seen.”
— Amy Day
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here:
sariswears.com/jury
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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I’m SO EXCITED about this week’s podcast because THE mothafuggin’ Jody Moore joined me, and if you’ve heard Jody speak, you already KNOW you’re in for something special.
Jody is a veteran trial attorney with 20+ years in elder abuse and nursing home litigation, and she’s one of our H2H Method™ coaches.
In this episode, we dive into some of the BIGGEST challenges trial attorneys face and HOW to approach them differently.
These aren’t JUST theories — Jody's methods have helped her team secure an 8-FIGURE VERDICT in a 4-month Zoom trial.
Yeah, THAT’S the level she’s playing at, and she’s sharing exactly how she does it.
If you’re serious about not just surviving, but thriving in the courtroom, this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.
Xo, Sari
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"As trial attorneys, we often face immense pressure, but it's crucial to remember that we can choose how we show up in those moments. By shifting our mindset and embracing resilience, we can transform challenges into opportunities for growth and success. This isn't just about winning cases; it's about becoming better advocates for our clients and ourselves."
- Jody Moore
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TOO MANY cases are overloaded with irrelevant facts and scattered strategies that actually give the defense MORE ammunition to use AGAINST YOU.
It’s time to use clarity and simplicity as your secret weapon. ⚔️
Think of it like Marie Kondo-ing your legal strategy — ESSENTIALS ONLY!
Tune in and learn how to clear the clutter, simplify complex issues, and win over the jury.
Xo, Sari
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