If delegating feels risky and holding on feels exhausting, this episode will hit home.

On the podcast this week, I'm joined by Coach K and Meredith Berg, an EOS Implementer, to talk about the real reason running your firm feels so damn heavy — and what ACTUALLY fixes it. 🎯

We get into:

👉🏽 Why delegation fails (even when you want to let go) 👉🏽 How accountability (not micromanagement) creates freedom 👉🏽 The biggest mistake law firm owners make with roles and people 👉🏽 Why culture matters just as much as skillset 👉🏽 How to stop spinning and start executing on a real vision

This isn't a theory.

It's structure.

It's clarity.

It's relief.

If you want your firm to support your trial work instead of competing with it, press play.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Quote:

"Everyone hits a ceiling. Whether you're a solo entrepreneur or leading a growing organization, there's only so much time and capacity one person has. At that point, you either choose to grow — by delegating and elevating — or you stay stuck."

Meredith Berg

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This year will look EXACTLY like last year unless something deeper changes.

MOST people don't fail because they lack discipline or ambition.

They fail because they're chasing results instead of identity.

You don't want the verdict.

You want the feeling you think comes with it.

And here's the part no one wants to admit: Willpower is trash. It runs out. Every time.

In this week's podcast, I break down:

⚡ Why goals alone don't work ⚡ Why "doing more" keeps you stuck ⚡ Why everything shifts when you decide who you are first

If you want different results this year, don't write a longer to-do list…

Decide who the hell you are.

Then act like it.

The rest follows.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Resource:

jamesclear.com/identity-based-habits

Quote:

"We think we have to have the thing before we can do the things and then finally be the person. It has never worked that way. You decide who you are first. Then you do the things. Then you get the results."

• Sari de la Motte

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If you're a trial lawyer, you've probably been told some version of this:

🚫 "Don't be arrogant."

🚫 "Stay humble."

🚫 "Let the work speak for itself."

Sounds right… until it starts shrinking how you show up.

In this week's podcast, Coach K and I talk directly to YOU about a mindset trap we see all the time — the humble saboteur 🧠.

It's the voice that tells you:

🗣️ "Don't own that win too much."

🗣️ "You're not there yet."

🗣️ "If you think you're great, you'll get lazy."

That voice is NOT humility.

It's fear.

And juries feel it.

Confidence is NOT arrogance.

This episode breaks down WHY a brag list isn't ego — it's how you have your own back.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Quote:

"Most people want to skip celebrating and move straight to the next thing. But what you celebrate is what you build on—growth doesn't come from self-criticism, it comes from recognizing your wins."

• Coach K

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The year is winding down.

Trials are slowing.

Your brain is STILL going a mile a minute.

This week on Sari Swears, I'm joined by guest speaker Coach K for a conversation that feels like hitting the reset button before the new year.

We talk through the mindset traps that quietly wear trial lawyers down and what to do about them.

We Break Down:

👉🏽 Why chasing "100% prepared" keeps you stuck 👉🏽 How fear bloats your opening and blurs your story 👉🏽 Why isolation lies to you about everyone else having it together 👉🏽 How your saboteur plays its favorite holiday reruns 👉🏽 What it really takes to trust yourself again

If you've been carrying too much into this season, consider this your permission to put some of it down.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Quote:

"Your saboteur is going to try to throw all these things at you that you're never going to be able to achieve. You have to notice it showing up and say, 'I know you're here, but I don't need that right now.' It all starts with awareness—it starts with changing the way you think."

Coach K

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Have you ever felt COMPLETELY drained by this work… even when everything is technically "going fine"?

Not just tired, but heavy?

That's exactly what we're talking about this week on Sari Swears and Coach K is back with me for this episode.

We're diving into secondary trauma — the kind you absorb from:

👉🏽 The cases 👉🏽 The injuries 👉🏽 The families 👉🏽 The devastation

It doesn't just affect your health… it can quietly limit your damages in the courtroom.

If you've been feeling exhausted, disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you're always just pushing through — this episode WILL hit home.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Quote:

"Secondary trauma is when you take on trauma that didn't happen to you directly. You absorb what your clients have gone through — the cases, the deaths, the injuries — and that weight really sits on you. Even though it didn't happen to you, your body still carries it."

Coach K

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Let's talk about money.

Specifically: what money can buy... and what it can't.

That distinction?

It's everything in trial.

And it's everything when it comes to damages.

Economic damages? You've got bills, life care plans, receipts…

Non-economic? You're asking the jury to put a number on grief.

On lost joy. On the inability to hold your child again.

In this podcast episode, I'll show you EXACTLY how to:

✅ Separate price from value in voir dire, opening, and closing ✅ Use stand-in language and metaphor to anchor your ask ✅ Reframe the jury's role so they stop thinking they're buying something and start seeing what their number really represents

If you've ever struggled to confidently ask for a big number… This one is for YOU.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari 💖

P.S. I threw in the 3 questions I use in closing to reframe damages every time. You can thank me later.

Quote:

"You're not pricing the pain. You're pricing the value of relieving that pain. You're pricing the value of reclaiming your life. What would you pay to get that back? That's what you're asking the jury to consider."

Sari

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If you're anything like I was a few years ago…

You're doing everything.

You're hustling.

You're building.

And you're running a successful business.

BUT, you STILL feel trapped.

That's because you're operating like a solopreneur, not an entrepreneur.

(Spoiler: one burns out, the other builds a team.)

In this week's podcast, I'm sharing something outside of the trial world, but essential to your success inside the courtroom:

👉🏽 HOW to get the right people in the right seats 👉🏽 WHY the traditional org chart is completely ass-backwards 👉🏽 WHAT I've learned from implementing the EOS system (and why I wish I'd done it sooner)

I'm pulling back the curtain on my own journey — where I was the bottleneck — and how structure created more creativity, more impact, and yes… MORE freedom.

If you're tired of building alone, and ready to lead differently…

This one's for you.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari 💖

Quote:

"You can't grow if you're the one doing everything. The more I let go, the more the business grew — and the more I grew. That's the magic of getting the right people in the right seats."

-Sari

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Do you ever catch yourself repeating things in trial and worry it's too much?

Let me stop you right there: it's NOT too much.

In fact, you probably need to repeat yourself MORE.

This week's podcast episode is all about how intentional repetition helps your jurors:

✔️ Understand your case ✔️ Remember your core messages ✔️ Trust YOU

Too many attorneys are afraid of sounding redundant. But repetition, when done right, is one of the most powerful teaching tools you have.

In the episode, I break down:

🗣️Why repetition builds neural pathways and increases recall 🗣️How to use repetition throughout voir dire, opening, and closing 🗣️The difference between GOOD repetition (strategic) and BAD repetition (nervous rambling)

And I walk you through exactly where in trial you should be repeating key phrases, hooks, gestures, and more.

Because when jurors hear it again and again it STICKS.

And if it sticks, they carry it into the verdict room.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari

Quote:

"If you want the jury to remember something, you have to be willing to say it over and over and over again. Not just in voir dire, not just in opening, not just in closing—but throughout the entire trial. Because repetition creates neural pathways. That's how the brain works. Repetition is how we learn, how we connect, how we remember. And if you're not repeating your most important points? You're leaving the jury with nothing to hold onto."

-- Sari

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You ever meet someone and think, "Oh, they're about to break wide open."

That was PI attorney Shaun Lieser.

When he first joined our H2H world, he was smart (still is), capable (still is), and honestly?

A little stuck.

Then he FLIPPED the switch.

Inside the episode, we talk about:

👉🏽 Why wanting to be liked is killing your presence in court

👉🏽 The moment Shaun realized voir dire isn't all about being smart — it's about connection

👉🏽 How the H2H Method™ helped him step FULLY into his voice and style

There's SO much gold in this one, and Shaun brings the kind of honesty that I know will land deeply with you.

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari 💖

Quote:

"What I appreciated most about the H2H work was the freedom it gave me to fully express myself in court. Before, I was always trying to fit into this 'trial lawyer' mold I thought I needed to be in. But when I started working with you, Sari, and the H2H method, I realized—my presence, my instincts, my style… it's all enough. In fact, it's more than enough. And that gave me a whole new level of confidence in front of a jury."

• Shaun Lieser

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Ever been in a conversation that went sideways fast? 🫣

You had good intentions… but suddenly it felt like you were speaking different languages?

Yeah. Been there.

That's WHY I'm dropping this week's episode: How to Master Difficult Conversations: The Tool I Swear By.

It's based on a life-changing framework I got from my very first coach and I still use it TO. THIS. DAY (yeah it's that good).

Learn how to STAY grounded, clear, and powerful when sh*t hits the fan.

Inside this episode, I'm sharing:

✨ What most people get wrong when trying to "tend to the relationship" ✨ Why not knowing your outcome can derail the entire conversation ✨ The surprising reason you might be avoiding hard convos (it's not what you think)

And that's JUST the beginning.

I walk you through the full 4-step Focus Tool that'll help you prepare and show up with presence — whether it's your co-counsel, your kid, or your partner.

(Or save it for when you're about to text "we need to talk…")

Tune in NOW! 🎧

Love, Sari 💖

Focus Tool Sheet - sariswears.com/focus-tool

Quote:

"Just because you're having a hard conversation doesn't mean it has to be a hard experience. When you're grounded in clarity, when you know what you're asking for, what your emotions are trying to tell you, and how you're contributing to the dynamic—you can show up with compassion and confidence."

— Sari de la Motte

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