Neil Jurd survived daily mortar attacks in Iraq. But nothing in his military training could prepare him for the phone call that changed everything.
Just weeks after leaving the British Army, Neil learned that his wife, Michelle, and their two young daughters had been involved in a serious car crash. The accident happened on the evening before his 40th birthday. Michelle was kept alive until Neil reached the hospital, leaving him to rebuild life as a grieving father of two- and four-year-old girls.
In the premiere episode of Interrupted by Adversity, Neil shares what happened when military composure collided with overwhelming grief—and why surviving tragedy sometimes means accepting help, allowing yourself time to heal, and believing that moving forward is not a betrayal of the person you lost.
Neil Jurd OBE is a former British Army officer, Sandhurst instructor, leadership expert, founder of Leader-Connect, and author of The Leadership Book: A Step-by-Step Guide to Excellent Leadership.
Stephen and Neil discuss:
Losing his mother to cancer at 16
Why Neil always wanted to become a soldier
His early military experiences in Belize, Sierra Leone, Yemen, and Iraq
Leading Gurkha soldiers under daily mortar and rocket fire
The mortar explosion that left shrapnel in his face
Returning home after surviving combat
Meeting Michelle while she served as a Royal Air Force helicopter pilot
The phone call that changed Neil’s life
Raising two very young daughters after their mother’s death
Why happiness can feel wrong during grief
How long traumatic bereavement can take to process
Creating the Michelle Jurd Trust in his wife’s memory
Why accepting practical help became essential to his recovery
Giving yourself permission to survive and move forward
Why real leadership is built through connection rather than rank or control00:00 The phone call that changed everything
00:19 Before and after
00:39 Welcome to Interrupted by Adversity
00:48 Meet Neil Jurd
01:41 The childhood dream of joining the Army
04:02 Losing his mother at 16
05:35 Training at Sandhurst and serving in Belize
08:30 Operations in Sierra Leone, Yemen, and Iraq
10:00 Leading the Gurkhas
13:05 Arriving in a dangerous Iraq
14:20 Daily mortar and rocket attacks
19:36 The mortar that exploded beside Neil
21:16 Coming home from combat
24:51 Meeting Michelle
26:34 The evening before Neil’s 40th birthday
28:15 The long drive to the hospital
29:49 An unnecessary death
30:45 Raising two young daughters alone
33:18 When strength means simply surviving
34:35 The slow return of happiness
35:54 Creating the Michelle Jurd Trust
39:28 Turning grief into purpose
42:43 Accept help when it comes
45:16 Neil’s message to people facing adversity
47:26 Creating space to heal
47:54 Moving forward is okay
48:19 Adversity does not have to interrupt purpose
49:04 Neil’s leadership resources
51:01 The SwagAbility mission and closing
Visit NeilJurd.com to learn more about Neil’s leadership training, speaking, coaching, and work.
Explore leadership videos, courses, and resources through Leader-Connect.co.uk.
Learn about Neil’s bestselling book, The Leadership Book: A Step-by-Step Guide to Excellent Leadership, through his official book page.
Discover how the Michelle Jurd Trust helps young people develop character and experience outdoor adventure.
Neil is also available on LinkedIn.
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