Got a teen who 'hates' school?

You're not alone.

Hearing this from our tweens and teens is more common than you might realize.
With finals, projects, their ever-changing social world, and the pressure of the school year winding down, you may feel like you have little control over how it all unfolds, and your stress is mounting, too.

But as I like to always remind you: you have more power and influence than you realize, and it starts inside this episode.

Listen in to learn: 

- Why your teen says they hate school (and what’s really underneath it)
- 3 simple shifts that help them manage stress and get back on track
- How to support them without nagging, battling, or constant frustration

In many homes, this time of year is not a time to grit our teeth and live in stress for the next few months.

It's time to connect, resource ourselves, and finish strong.

As always, I'm here to help.

✨ Ashley

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I won't sugarcoat this: stress is all around us. You know it and feel it.

What you may not realize is what it really is and how it's impacting connection with your teen, and their ability to do what they need to do.

Knowing this is the foundation of self-regulation.

In this episode, I'm sharing something I've never shared before: my new mini-training 'DE-STRESS' on the 6 Keys to Self-Regulation: what it really means, why it’s the foundation of a thriving parent-teen relationship, and how to break the cycle of reactive parenting specifically with your tween or teen.

If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, shutting down, or feeling completely drained by your teen’s behavior, this is a must-listen!

🔥 What You’ll Learn:

✅ The science behind emotional regulation (and why it’s key for your teen’s success)
✅ How your stress response impacts your child’s ability to self-regulate
✅ 3 of the 6 (often hidden) stress domains (categories) that fuel reactivity—and how to recognize them

If you want the whole training, you can access it NOW! 

Time Codes

[00:15] - The Foundation of Thriving with Your Teen
[02:10] - A New Parenting Paradigm for the Teen Years
[03:33] - Self-Regulation Simplified: Respond vs. React
[04:17] - The Foundation of Thriving: Emotional Mastery
[05:13] - Not All Stress Is Bad: Growth Through Challenge
[05:54] - Guiding Your Teen Through Brain Reconstruction
[06:51] - Helping Your Teen Balance Emotion and Logic
[07:41] - Co-Regulation: Teaching Through Action, Not Words
[09:18] - Breaking the Reactive Cycle with Your Teen
[10:22] - From Reacting to Responding: The Power of Self-Regulation
[11:52] - No Shame in Reactivity: Understanding Your Nervous System
[12:38] - The Cost of No Self-Regulation: Stress, Conflict, and Disconnection
[14:08] - Invisible Stressors: The Hidden Triggers of Reactivity
[14:58] - The Six Layers of Invisible Stress
[15:33] - Biological Stress: How the Body Shapes Reactions
[16:52] - Cognitive Stress: Mental Overload for You and Your Teen
[16:58] - Emotional Stress: The Hidden Weight of Feelings
[18:50] - Get the Full Training: Master Self-Regulation

Click this link: www.theteenageguide.com/destress  and enter in your name and email address and it's yours for free! 

Don't miss out! More peace and a bigger, better toolkit for you and your teen is a click away.

~Ashley

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Getting through to your teen can feel impossible when they're disrespectful, disregard and ignore you, or push back on everything you say. But what if there’s a deeper reason behind it?

In this episode, I break down:
✔️ Four key reasons your teen may be shutting you out
✔️ How your own words and actions may be affecting their response
✔️ Simple shifts to turn one-sided talks into honest conversations

Time Codes

[01:43] - Why Teens Act Disrespectfully
[02:42] - Understanding the Root Causes of Teen Disrespect
[03:10] - The Two Key Categories for Solving Teen Challenges
[03:51] - Why Teens Struggle with Emotional Regulation
[04:21] - How Teens Learn Emotional Regulation
[05:05 - A Life-Changing Free Class for Parents
[05:58] - The Link Between Teen Disrespect and Autonomy
[06:51] - Teens Mirror How You Treat Yourself
[08:03] - The Connection Between Self-Respect and Teen Behavior
[08:22] - How Stress Triggers Teen Disrespect
[08:46] - Building a Relationship You’re Proud Of
[09:47] - The Power of Your Influence as a Parent

👉 If parenting feels like a constant struggle for connection, my FREE Class, Confident & Connected, will give you the proven framework to get your teen to listen while strengthening trust.

Register HERE ➡️ https://www.theteenageguide.com/class

Plus, inside my THRIVE membership, I coach parents weekly on exactly how to shift these tough moments into real conversations. Join here ➡️ https://www.theteenageguide.com/thrive-membership

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Ever feel like your teen knows exactly how to push your buttons - or you're on edge a lot —and before you know it, you’re snapping, yelling, and instantly regretting it?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, I dive into:

✔️ Why we lose our cool—and how to recognize your biggest triggers
✔️ Simple self-regulation techniques to stop reacting and start responding
✔️ Practical strategies to communicate with your teen without tension or blow-ups If parenting your teen has felt more like a battle than a bond, it’s time to change the dynamic.

[00:43] - Breaking the Rage-Shame Cycle in Parenting
[01:23] - The Outdated Belief That Parenting Teens Is Terrible
[03:37] - Why We Really Explode as Parents
[04:44] - How Invisible Stress Triggers Rage
[05:22] - The Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn Response in Parenting
[06:41] - How Rage Breaks Trust with Our Teens
[09:20] - The First Step to Stopping a Rage Spiral
[011:16] - How to Signal Safety to Your Nervous System
[12:04] - Rage Doesn’t End With More Rage
[12:49] - The Most Important Thing to Preserve in Parenting
[13:45] - Why Breaking the Rage Cycle is Life-Changing Work
[14:30] - The Number One Way to Influence Your Teen

Get the tools, coaching, and support you need inside THRIVE™—because staying calm and connected starts with you. Join now 🔗 https://www.theteenageguide.com/thrive-membership

FREE CLASS: Learn the biggest mistakes parents make and my 4-part framework to help your teen listen, engage, and build trust with you. Register here ➡️ Confident & Connected

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Ever catch yourself second-guessing every parenting decision or reacting out of fear instead of trust? You're not alone…

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

✔️ The key difference between intuitive parenting and fear-based reactions
✔️ How to tune into your inner wisdom and trust your gut with your teen
✔️ A simple 48-hour practice to gain clarity and make grounded decisions

Listen in as I share how to step away from fear-driven parenting, set healthy boundaries without control, and guide your teen with confidence and connection.

[03:34] - The Power of Intuition in Decision-Making
[04:29] - What Comes Out When You're Squeezed?
[05:29] - Fear-Based Parenting and Its Consequences
[05:57] - Self-Awareness Unlocks Intuition
[08:11] - How to Access Your Intuition
[09:18] - Intuition and Boundaries in Parenting
[09:53] - Encouraging Open Communication with Your Teen
[10:42] - Helping Teens Strengthen Their Own Intuition
[11:13] - Mistakes as Opportunities for Growth
[12:08] - Teens Rise to Meet the Trust You Give Them
[13:02] - Treat Your Intuition Like a Precious Gift

Want to the know the simple secrets and my 4-part framework that solve big challenges with your teen? Sign up now for my class 'CONFIDENT & CONNECTED'. In less than an hour you'll have answers, relief, and clarity. Check it out here >>

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Welcome back to the Teenage Podcast!

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, constantly juggling your teen’s schedule, or stuck in a cycle of stress and frustration, this episode is for you...

In this quick episode, I dive into...
✔️ The key systems every parent needs to reduce stress (for you and your teen!)
✔️ How small, intentional routines can transform your daily life
✔️ Why creating structure brings more freedom (not restriction!)

Listen in as I share simple yet powerful systems to help you ditch the overwhelm, strengthen your connection with your teen, and bring more ease into your home.

Timestamps

[00:21] - Understanding Stress & It's Impact
[01:35] - A New Parenting Paradigm
[03:39] - What Are Systems & Why Do They Matter?
[03:50] - The Different Types of Stress 
[05:25] - System #1: Time Management for Parents & Teens
[08:07] - System #2: Daily Quality Time Check-ins
[10:46] - System #3: Building a Strong Support System
[17:57] - Review
[19:03] - Parenting a teen doesn’t have to feel this chaotic.

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Welcome back to the Teenage Guide podcast!

If you’ve ever find yourself filled with rage, fear, big emotions, or you're micro-managing your teen's life, this episode will help you uncover why... 

In this quick episode, I dive into:

Listen in as I share essential self-reflection questions to help you start to recognize patterns, heal past wounds, and become the guide your teen truly needs.  

✨Ashley

[01:00] - Why Your Adolescent Past Matters
[03:09] - The Power of Self-Reflection in Parenting
[04:11] - Four Key Questions to Uncover Your Patterns
[04:49] - The Lasting Impact of Our Teenage Years
[06:09] - Healing Yourself to Support Your Teen
[07:39] - Final Takeaway: Your Healing Is A Lifelong Gift to Your Teen

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If this episode resonated with you, keep the momentum going!

Follow and share this episode with a fellow parent.

Your journey matters, and the more we heal, the better we show up for our teens.
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🚀 Don’t miss next week’s episode—it’s life-changing stuff! 

Getting your teen to listen, engage, and actually hear what you’re saying can feel like an uphill battle. If conversations turn into one-word answers, excuses, or complete shutdowns, there’s a reason behind it—and a way to turn things around.

In this episode, I break down:
✔️ Four surprising reasons your teen might be tuning you out
✔️ How your own reactions and self-talk impact their willingness to open up
✔️ Small but powerful shifts that make communication easier and more effective

If you’ve been struggling to break through the walls your teen has put up, this episode is packed with insights to help you rebuild trust, improve conversations, and create a stronger connection. 

Timestamps:

[00:42] - The Power of Confident and Connected Parenting
[02:36] - Why Your Teen Might Not Be Listening to You
[03:11] - The Role of Autonomy in Teen Behavior
[04:18] - The Impact of Judgment on Communication
[04:44] - The Connection Between Self-Judgment and Broken Trust
[06:22] - When Teens Withhold Information to Protect You
[06:55] - The Four Common Reasons Teens Shut You Out
[07:53] - Understanding That All Behavior is Communication
[08:15] - Quick Actions to Repair Communication
[10:33] - Never Underestimate Your Power as a Parent

📌 FREE CLASS: Confident & Connected – Learn the biggest mistakes parents make and my 4-part framework to help your teen listen, engage, and build trust with you. Join NOW 🔗 https://www.theteenageguide.com/class
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If this episode resonated with you, share it with another parent—because we’re all in this together! 🚀

One question I hear on repeat: How do I get my teen to do what they need to do? 

Motivating a teen and fostering self-drive can feel tricky, I know.

I’m sharing:
✅ The #1 mindset shift that will change how your teen defines success
✅ How to tap into their strengths to boost confidence and drive
✅ Why knowing when to step in vs. back off is the key to lasting motivation

And, if you're ready to take what's inside this episode further, I've got TWO big announcements:

My Free Class 'CONFIDENT & CONNECTED' is officially available!

Inside this class you'll learn: common mistakes parents make with teens, and my proven step-by-step framework to get them listening to you, and doing what they need to do, while building trust and joy between you Don't miss it - it's life-changing stuff!

🎉 Register here for my new class 'Confident & Connected' >>

[01:54] - Introduction to Self-Drive
[02:54] - Define Success Together
[05:05] - Creating an Environment of Trust & Open Communication
[06:28] - Island Hop: Build on Strengths & Interests
[09:24] - Knowing When to Step In vs. Step Back
[12:05] - Self-Drive Beyond School: Social & Emotional Growth
[13:12] - When to Let Go & Let Them Struggle
[14:34] - Recap: 4 Simple Ways to Foster Self-Drive in Your Teen

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What if this year could be the one where you and your teen truly thrive—without the frustration, miscommunication, and constant power struggles?  

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why getting uncomfortable is the key to real growth (for you and them!)
✅ How to identify hidden beliefs that are sabotaging your progress
✅ The power of intentional vision-setting (and the skills to back it up)
✅ Why community is everything when it comes to parenting  

[02:00] - Rethinking Success: How to Define It for You & Your Teen
[05:14] - Expect Challenges—And Embrace Them
[06:00] - Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
[13:04] - Uncover Invisible Beliefs Holding You & Your Teen Back
[13:13] - You Have More Influence Than You Think
[18:01] - Be Intentional with Your Vision
[21:07] - You Are Not an Island—Community is Everything
[21:54] - Recap: The Four Ways to Guarantee Success This Year  

My Free Class 'CONFIDENT & CONNECTED' is officially available on-demand!   

Inside this class you'll learn common mistakes parents make with teens, and my proven step-by-step framework to get them listening to you, and doing what they need to do, while building trust and joy between you

Don't miss it - it's life-changing stuff!
🎉 Register here for my new class 'Confident & Connected' >>

And, the DOORS are officially open for my THRIVE Monthly Membership for Parents! Don't miss out on my January Bonuses (worth over $2000!) 
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