The Third Thing

What if friendship isn't the supporting character in your life story?

What if it's one of the most important relationships you'll ever have?

In this episode, Michelle and Danyelle explore the inspiration behind The Third Thing and why they believe platonic love deserves far more attention than our culture often gives it.

Using their own 26-year friendship as a lens, they discuss how society tends to place romantic relationships at the center of our lives while overlooking the profound impact of friendship, community, and chosen family.

From childhood messages about love to the realities of adulthood, partnership, parenting, loneliness, and rebuilding community after the pandemic, this conversation is an invitation to think differently about connection.

In This Episode

•  The question that sparked the creation of The Third Thing
•  Why friendship can hold unique pieces of our identity 
•  The cultural prioritization of romantic love 
•  Disney, rom-coms, and the stories we inherit about relationships 
•  Relationship anarchy and expansive love 
•  Why one person can't be everything 
•  The impact of the pandemic on friendship and belonging 
•  The loss of third spaces and community gathering places 
•  Adult loneliness and social disconnection 
•  Building and maintaining your village 
•  The cost of deprioritizing friendship 
•  Why platonic love is a form of healing 

Concepts Discussed

•  Relationship Anarchy 
•  Chosen Family 
•  Community Care 
•  Adult Friendship 
•  Third Spaces 
•  Loneliness and Social Connection 
•  Expansive Love 
•  Interdependence vs. Independence 

Reflection Questions

•  If you woke up tomorrow with no memory, who would you trust to tell you who you are? 
•  How much time and energy are you currently investing in friendship? 
•  Have you unintentionally prioritized romantic relationships over platonic ones? 
•  Where might there be opportunities for repair, reconnection, or deeper intimacy in your friendships? 
•  What would it look like to intentionally build your village? 

Resources Mentioned

• Ray Oldenburg and the concept of "Third Spaces" 
•  Relationship Anarchy 
•  Community care and village-building practices 

Card Pull: The High Priestess

The episode closes with a reflection on the High Priestess tarot card—an invitation to trust your intuition, deepen your self-knowledge, and listen to what your relationships are asking of you.

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What if friendship deserves the same care, commitment, and investment that we give to romantic relationships?

In the very first episode of The Third Thing, Michelle and Danyelle introduce the concept at the heart of the podcast: The Third Thing.

While we often celebrate romantic love and assume familial love will always be there, friendship is frequently treated as optional. Yet some of the most meaningful, transformative, and enduring relationships in our lives are platonic.

Drawing from their 26-year friendship, Michelle and Danyelle share how they met, the life experiences that shaped them, and why they believe friendship is one of the most powerful forms of connection available to us.

They discuss community care, belonging, identity, healing, conflict, and the work required to sustain meaningful relationships over time.

In This Episode

•  What inspired The Third Thing
•  Defining the "third kind of love" 
•  Why friendship deserves intentional investment 
•  The differences between romantic, familial, and platonic love 
•  How Michelle and Danyelle met as teenagers 
•  Growing up feeling different and finding belonging 
•  Friendship as a source of healing and support 
•  The realities of maintaining a 26-year friendship 
•  Why conflict and repair matter in long-term relationships 
•  Community care and radical friendship 

Meet Your Hosts

Danyelle

•  Psychotherapist 
•  Community builder 
•  Tarot practitioner and spiritual guide 
•  Advocate for community care and collective healing 

Michelle

•  Executive coach and strategist 
•  Life coach 
•  MBA graduate and former nonprofit leader 
•  Champion of intentional relationships and personal growth 

Together, they bring professional expertise, lived experience, and decades of friendship into conversations about what it means to build meaningful relationships in modern life.

Reflection Questions

•  What is "The Third Thing" in your life? 
•  Which friendships have helped shape who you are? 
•  Are there relationships that deserve more attention or investment? 
•  How do you currently nurture your platonic connections? 
•  What might become possible if friendship were treated as a priority rather than an afterthought? 

Card Pull: Nine of Cups

The episode closes with the Nine of Cups, a tarot card associated with fulfillment, contentment, gratitude, and celebrating what you've built. A fitting card for the beginning of a new chapter and a reflection on the beauty of enduring friendship.

Connect With Us

📸 Instagram: @thethirdthingpod

🌐 Website: TheThirdThingPod.com

🎧 Join our Patreon community for deeper conversations, monthly gatherings, exclusive content, workbooks, and early access to episodes.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend and leave a rating or review. It helps more people discover the show and join the conversation around friendship, community, and connection.

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Podcast launching June 16th!

There are three kinds of love. There's romantic love, the one that gets the songs, the movies, the couples therapy, the date nights, and all the vacations. There's familial love, the one you're born into, that shapes you before you even know what love is. The relationships that are expected to last forever. 

And then there's The Third Thing: Friendship. The relationships that often get the least attention but do some of the heaviest lifting. 

The Third Thing is a podcast about that love. A podcast about friendship in all its fullness. The conflict worth repairing, the evolution worth honoring, and sometimes...the letting go.

Hosted by Danyelle, a therapist, healer, and Hoodoo practitioner, and Michelle, a life coach, facilitator, and public speaker. We've been friends for 26 years and we've got the receipts!

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