The Three-Headed Man

Transitions, Part Two

The THREE-HEADED MAN continues their conversation of transitions.

Moving -- Spacial Awareness as feedback.

Jimmy is better in motion.

Phreddie introduces the idea of Maintenance. The will to move. Where does the will to move come from? Taking out the garbage includes an awareness of the garbage, an acknowledgement of the family responsibility, and, of course, remembering to remove the garbage.

Transition to the topic of "Attention."

Phreddie ponders transitions in film. Is sleep a hard cut or a fade? Jazzy relates a story about sleeping. Does he fall asleep with a hard cut to sleep or a fade to sleep? The black out of sleep.

The comparing Jimmy's understanding of constant motion and transition to Phreddie's film example.

Jimmy says, "Pain and reward make good stories."

Transition to the topic of "reward." Jimmy explains why he didn't give stickers to his students.

The Three-Headed Man discusses going through a transition without looking for a reward.

Concluding this two-part episode, Jimmy says, "We can't squeeze transition too hard. While skiing, Jimmy's always in a turn.

"Transitions" is a partial episode. The second part will be released next Sunday. The entire episode is near 45 minutes, so we decided to break it into two parts.

Jimmy calls the tune, and the song is in the key of transition. Jimmy goes on to explain and define transition. He says it insinuates coming from somewhere and going to somewhere.

Quickly, the conversation segues to death -- another Transit -- where it is written that the being is between lives.

Phreddie begins describing his transition from the USA to Spain, and he wonders, Is selling everything that you own like preparation for dying?"

Jazzy and magic mushrooms. He tells us that everything dissolves and falls away. Later this falling away is replaced with "gotta gotta gotta." The mental apparatus -- this and that.

Transition is also leaving the front door of one's house. There is a new world outside the door.

Experimenting with sleep as death -- treat sleep as death exercise. "Every day is a new day." Phreddie describes sleep as a transition. Adding, "who will I be in the morning?"

Jimmy reminds us that to notice our transitions. He believes that he is a part of all different kinds of transition.

Transitions -- Part One

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Marriage

Phreddie asks, "What did marriage mean when you got married?" Jazzy asks, How is marriage defined?

Jazzy's marriage is arranged, and he discusses the boundaries between him and his wife -- yet, there is a family.

Jimmy recalls how he met Mary. Jimmy's father said Donald men are like geese -- they mate for life. Currently Mary and Jimmy are managing. It's a more difficult time -- Jimmy's dying -- they are not sure what they are doing. He's not building anymore. Curious time. Workin' it through. Jimmy looks at families to understand what to expect. He studied they family. The family things pop-up. Control issues. Jimmy doesn't like to be controlled.

Phreddie has been married 3 times. Phreddie's family pops-up. Phreddie recalls his three marriages. He describes what was in his head -- defines marriage -- when he married. Phreddie wants someone to play with -- a partner and/or companion.

Jazzy returns to recollecting his arranged married. In the West first Love then Marriage. In the East, Marriage then Love.

Jimmy says, in the old days, the family helped pick the partners. Jimmy would trust his mother and father to pick him a good partner. Prem Rawat -- Mary sought blissed out experiences festivals, led by the Maharaji.

The conversation concludes with a discussion of parents, who, Jimmy explains, have the data.

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The THREE-HEADED MAN'S conversation about Joy begins with Jazzy's account of the death of his friend -- His friend died of Covid-19. Jazzy continues by telling of his own Covid infection, and the death of his mother from the Covid-19 virus.

Jimmy says, "Joy is in between happy and love -- it's a state." He continues by saying happy is for the self -- Joy is more mature. It is shared.

Joy is a connector -- it spreads a light quality

Phreddie, like Jazzy begins with a disappointment that he summarizes in one word - Brexit. Phreddie continues by telling that he tricks the self -- changing the mood away from disappointment to something closer to Joy.

Jazzy adds his thoughts about music - harmony - joy is combining a couple of elements.

Phreddie explains that internal dialogue blocks the reality, while Jimmy prefers pedestrian tasks. He clings to them for his sanity

The conversation turns toward the stars and the influence of the stars in the sky. Phreddie moves the conversation to a story about car camping with his wife and father-in-law.

Jimmy exclaims, "... can't own it...can't buy okay-dokey." Jimmy prefers low-rent Joys. "Joy stops when the money comes in."

"I like people coming out of the ditch" they are climbing toward the light

Jazzy wraps up the conversation with a math lesson - a lesson in movement.

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Jimmy introduces this week's topic: the sanctity of home.

Jimmy recalls that THE THREE-HEADED MAN met himself, and when he met the other two heads, he was searching for a home, a metaphysical home, and Jazzy and Phreddie happened to be in the home he found on his search, a home of brothers and sisters and oddballs

Jazzy recollects his memories and recalls that a home needs a strong foundation -- The Book of Five Rings -- first ring, the foundation, is home.

Phreddie's explains his metaphysical foundation -- security.

The conversation turns toward depressing.

THE THREE-HEADED MAN outtlines and describes the shape of their respective metaphysical homes.

Phreddie asks Jimmy and Jazzy if they consciously and deliberately created a home for their children, which transforms into a recollection of the family homes that shaped them.

Jimmy discusses, as the episode nears its conclusion, his ability to work and live within systems and structures.

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Jazzy leaves stuff out, stuff like his recorder, and his wife likes to dust and put things away. Jazzy uses clutter as a reminder, a reminder to do things. However, Jazzy's wife sees his recorder as clutter and puts it away in a drawer.

Phreddie asks, "Are tidy people, better people?" Jimmy adds that farmers move stuff around and leave stuff around because they will use it the next day. Farmers keep things in motion -- stuff can be left out if it is in motion and part of a project.

The Three-Headed man exclaims, "Mad scientists -- everything is a mess -- but it has its place."

Phreddie has been learning to put things in the same place every time, while in the background Jimmy plays guitar in the background. As he strums a chord, Jimmy says to Phreddie, "You're lovely coming out of the ditch."

The boys reach the easy conclusion that there is so much stuff in the world.

We need precious things -- appreciation of objects -- things and stuff incoming and outgoing. Movement and Motion. When things are in motion there is no clutter...clutter is slowed operations. Movement. In stasis things lose their meaning.

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In this episode, "Loss", the THREE-HEADED MAN, engages in a conversation about the death of their parents and grandparents. This conversation was recorded a few days after the death of Jazzy's mother.

While playing Diablo 3 with Phreddie, Jazzy receives a phone call, his mother has passed.

"Here you are, and there you go"

Phreddie tells a story about his own death. In this moment of realization, he touches his own death and discovers its terrifying qualities. He says something like, "I don't remember my past lives. What if I don't exist after I am dead?"

Jimmy counters by commenting it is okay to be afraid, but it's not okay to panic. Courage and bravery are not needed if one does not have fear.

As their conversation progresses, Phreddie and Jimmy discuss the deaths of their fathers.

"Everything dies"

We have so many stories that explain death. Phreddie's recalls the deaths of his grandparents -- his grandfather had a dream about being accepted into heaven, and his grandmother complained about the extreme boredom in the final years of her life.

Somehow, the conversation turns toward Jazzy's weekly Zoom drawing and painting classes. He hosts these arts classes, which help beginners past their fear of engaging in art practices. Contact us for details. For the moment, they are free, no payment required.

Returning to loss, the Heads, share experiences of reading The American Book of the Dead for their parents.

Perceptions. Are we are our perceptions?

The conversation concludes with a question: "Do we get a new body when we die?"

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Jazzy titled the show, "whatever," because whenever he tries to involve his two boys in his projects, they reply, "whatever dad."

The conversation, as it usually does, meanders.

It begins with a question of doing, and Jimmy suggests that actions can be better understood through the lens of "Want v. Need."

Jazzy and Phreddie respond to Jimmy's categories by pondering the relationship of judging, guilt, and achieving. "We're in a stream," exclaims, Jimmy. He doesn't understand static.

The conversation flows into the idea of self-direction. Jazzy self-schedules, while Phreddie confesses that he is an "Information addict." This nudges the conversation toward a question: Who is the self in "self direction"? Hard information -- Newspapers, radio, TV, internet -- directs us more than we direct ourselves.

Jazzy, when he was younger found refuge in libraries. Jimmy allows the garden to direct him -- What needs help the most? Jimmy reads and anticipates the garden's needs. He loves peasant work. Phreddie agrees and describes his efforts as "slogging through the self."

To make actions, we need to be interested. Being "interested" in key.

In Episode 10, Jimmy tells us he is a seeker of play -- he plays music, and he plays while digging holes. He searches for people with playful natures. Phreddie responds by saying he plays while he works, and he is serious while he plays.

Jimmy reminds us that play is what children do, while adults tell us that play is wasting time -- children are not serious.

Jazzy and Phreddie explore the relationship of art and play. "What if I want to make something 'good,'" asks Phreddie. The discussion starts a new thread: the interplay of gesture, judgement, mistakes, creativity, and caution.

Jimmy again reminds us that we can't be dark when we play. Play is light. More importantly play is a form of sharing. "The Dark No," says Jimmy. He continues by telling us people get spanked for their mistakes.

In this episode, THE THREE-HEADED MAN contemplates the aspects of play. They begin, as they often do, by defining the meaning and usefulness of play in work, art, and interactions. As they pass their ideas and memories and insights back-n-forth, they explore the relationship between play and creativity. "The larger the canvas, the greater the fear," says Phreddie.

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The Three-Headed Man explores connectedness. From this topic springs the topics of perception, permanent hurts, and death.

"They're alive too," says Jimmy. We know this when we connect. To give a concrete story to explain himself, Jimmy recounts a story of connecting to his dog, Skinny.

What level of connection is needed to connect to all living things? asks Jazzy. What is alive and perceiving things? Where does the thing that is perceiving things inside this body, where does it go after death?

"Perception is connection," says Jimmy.

When Jazzy moves to Canada, he receives advice from a friend. He is told, "If you ever get into trouble, start talking about hockey."

Phreddie explains teaching and connecting through Zoom, telling the other heads that he has had to change his shape in order to connect to his Asian middle school students. He continues by retelling an experiment he has performed. He describes the basic and restrictive roles that are performed in casual interactions with students and retail clerks. Teachers and students. Clerks and customers. These are the roles that limit our connections with each other.

Jazzy asks about farts. Farts are able to break the roles we play. Phreddie responds by telling how a fart can blow-up the classroom, and disrupt the flow of learning. They can be destructive, like a bomb.

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